38 Oakland, United States
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My self-summary

Creative, spiritual, silly
entrepreneurial yet very feminine.
Snuggly. Large collection of onesies

I love fellow makers, creators, travelers, people who are curious about the world.

Not looking to hook up. Really. I'm well beyond that stage of my life.

My disclaimer

Dating wise, I only date men who don't want children, ever. Or those who have thought about it, and know they could be happy without

That's why I'm online. To meet other non breeders. SO PLEASE...I know Im cute. But you want kids someday or you think you might...please don't ask me out or message me! I get tired of guys not taking thay seriously.

I'd rather have the freedom to travel and make art, contribute in other ways to society. I still want a partner...and a life with someone. If that resonates with you, I'd love to hear from you.

I'm well aware...I'm long winded (just look at the length of this profile!) I am an odd mix of sweet, loving and kind...and a bit dominant. Outspoken. Strong. Kinky. To quote Sir Mix A lot: an LA face with an Oakland booty. Hourglass figure, built for a man who loves to appreciate curves.

Equally comfortable at an art opening ( I work at a gallery) or the theater as I am playing Playstation in my pajamas or camping in the woods. (I love video games for their artistic merits, honestly) Very silly at times...I love to laugh. 10+ years in the BDSM community

I run a few small businesses. I love people. Though I might love animals more.

Travel is important to me. Not just to exotic destinations, but all places in between. Small towns, run down places too. The idea of a year long road trip across the US in a RV sounds like heaven to me. Wanna travel together? I have a pretty sweet vintage campervan....

I live on the edge of Emeryville/Oakland....and am in San Francisco often enough. I don't mind the thought of dating someone outside the Bay, especially if it means spending more time on a farm :) I can imagine myself moving somewhere more rural someday...especially if I can garden.

I'm pretty witchy. Into Tarot, shamanism, meditation. I'm very committed to a practice of personal growth: Ayahuasca is an amazing experience, and has become an important part of my life. That said, I'm also down to earth and can hang with just about anyone, logical, business-types and atheists included.

I'd love to find someone who lights me up. A best friend who I can't keep my hands off ;) true partnership, friendship on fire. None of this A.D.D Bay Area dating BS. Loyalty is a strong suit of mine.

That said, I do take things slow, and believe in being friends before anything else. Connection takes time and anything worthwhile is worth waiting for. Ultimately, I'd love a partner to go deep with ♡♡♡ You know, co-habitation: The final frontier. Someone to share a home with, a big shop space for creating and a round table to gather friends around for Sunday brunch. I want a creative life full of projects and travel with my partner. But as I mentioned I'm not interested in the typical raising kids. I'm happy being an auntie. But a partner to build something with, yes please.

This last paragraph is meant to scare you off. If it hasn't, awesome :) xo

P.S My pics are all recent, I'm 37 though I don't feel it. My best friend is 23, I'm told I pass for 27...but yes...time flies! Good genes here
What I’m doing with my life
Self employment has always been key for me
I run a few businesses and enjoy a lot of freedom.

Most dear to my heart is..helping run an art gallery here in Oakland. We show video, installation and visionary work.

I paint, and sculpt
I've studied at several fancy art schools, exhibited in galleries, and have been lucky enough to actually sell most of my artwork. Fun, right? I balance all my artsy-stuff with good, business sense. no starving here.

And also, Ayahuasca ceremonies as needed
I’m really good at
being nurturing. Being straight up. Disarming people with my Canadian friendliness. cuddling. sticking with things, reading people. rapping (poorly). making stuff. bringing something interesting to the table. initiating adventures. making things grow. taming wild things.
The first things people usually notice about me
a sensuality so thick you could spread it on toast
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
authors: Byron Katie, Abraham / Esther Hicks, Eckhart Tolle
The Power of Attraction. Finite and Infinite Games

TV: Reno 911, adult cartoons, The Office, Little Britain

music: I love outdoor music festivals and will gladly get on a plane to go to a good one. Priorities. Priorities.
To name a few: MUTEK (montreal) DEMF (detroit electronic music festival) treasure island music fest, and yes, burning man (though i am not a "burner" by any means)

more music: gang gang dance, SBTRKT, fleet foxes, the beatles, beruit, matmos, iron and wine. mazzy star. the shins. jeff buckley, bat for lashes. fever ray , the knife, owen pallett. noise, drone, glitch, dubstep, funk, soul, 80's cheese, old school 90's hip hop, like black moon, smif n wesson, aaliyah, some gangsta rap believe it or not...and...fleetwood mac?

food: anything but wheat. im pretty turned on to the paleo diet these days.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
learning to scuba dive (I love to snorkel in Monterey)
science and art, and where the two intersect
wealth creation
singing lessons
vintage Porsches & vintage campervans
poverty and class issues. street art. travel to: Iceland, Italy, Costa Rica, Austrailia, Spain, Scandinavia. Design. gardening. music. psychedelics. DMT. ayahuasca. shamanism. tantra. how to live with my heart open. BDSM (10+ years now exploring...) how to make a long term, committed relationship work...and be inspiring and supportive at the same time.
On a typical Friday night I am
I am not a 9-5'er so fridays do not stand out for me. I'm just as likely to stay up late on a wednesday night. Sometimes I'm out dancing, or maybe at home with a friend and a film. (pretty sweet set up: projected movies in bed!) if I'm lucky I'm at a hot spring getting witchy. Or I'm working in art. I'm mellowing out these days, and finding more pleasure in simple things...but I still love to dance, check out bands, attend art openings and what not. Typical retired hipster stuff.
You should message me if
like me, you are happy to not procreate.

I do not want kids...but I do want a lasting partnership. I'm looking for someone who feels the same way. If that describes you...please let me know!

The rest of this stuff is gravy:
~you're silly, you're able to get ridiculous
~you dream of an urban homestead and love animals: chickens, bees, gardens
~you're extroverted / have a big personality
~you have done some work on yourself, you are emotionally available
~you value stability. this includes financial stability
~you love love
~you love nature: hiking, diving, snorkeling, camping, hot springs...
~you like to make stuff
~you wanna go out dancing
~you have a stellar music or film collection you want to introduce me to

Height I really don't care about. But I do care about length ;)
Nothing less then a solid 7 inches please. Sorry, just being real. Women are at a disadvantage. We have no way of telling!
I'm trying to avoid dating for a month only to find out I'm a size queen and you are packing 4 inches.

Does this comment mean I'm looking for casual sex?
I assure doesn't. Casual sex doesn't interest me. So please don't use this as an excuse to hit me up.
Am I really the first girl to mention this in her profile? well...I hope I at least made you laugh

p.s online dating is completely fraught with weirdo's and scammers, men who don't read profiles, countless time wasters and other bad news bears. If she seems a little uptight, perhaps that is why. You men seriously have no idea. This place is full of landmines, be extra kind! Xo