57Alexandria, United States
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My self-summary
I'm a decent guy who tries to take people as he finds them and who believes that he's strong enough to be kind, even when others aren't. I'm looking for a stable, long-term relationship.

At a social gathering, I'd rather chat with the person perusing the bookshelf than listen to the life of the party tell yet another joke. My closest friends tend to be offbeat, nerdy, or eccentric. They're almost always more interesting than the guy who's tap dancing for attention.

Though I'm not terribly athletic, I try to go to the gym at least three times a week, and I try to eat right. I'm lucky enough to be able to walk to work, so I do that when I can. I also enjoy hiking, especially near water.

After editing bad prose all day, I like to cleanse my mental palate with music or a good book. I have eclectic taste in both, and my apartment is stuffed with books and CDs. I even have some vinyl tucked away in a closet. I'm also a film nerd, and I like to search out odd overlooked gems for my Netflix queue.

I love to travel, too. I've been to Japan, Korea (twice), Thailand, Ukraine, Chile, and Argentina. One day I hope travel to Cambodia (Angkor Wat) and Tibet. I have a good friend from Peru who has promised to show me Machu Picchu someday and treat me to a frog smoothie.

I enjoy being immersed in another culture and having to make my own way using nothing but my wits and a Lonely Planet guide. So far, getting lost has been more exhilarating than dangerous. I love to swap travel stories, keeping in mind that just going to the grocery store can be an adventure if you're in the right frame of mind.

I'm looking for a woman with a vivid imagination, a smidgen of intellectual curiosity, and a capacious spirit who reads a book once in a while and doesn't mind subtitles. Of course, warmth and a sense of humor trump everything. A little nerdy doesn't hurt, either.

I've been told that I'm kind, funny, smart, and "sweet." I've never quite known what to do with "sweet." If men were peppers, I guess I'd be a bell pepper rather than a jalapeno. But I'd like to think I'm a bell pepper with potential.
What I’m doing with my life
After hitting a dead end in academia--loved the teaching, hated the departmental politics--I decided to become a full-time editor. I'd been working as a part-time freelancer anyway, so it seemed like the next logical step. I've been working as an editor for nonprofits for a while now. Currently, I work for a small education association. That'll help pay the bills until lightning strikes and I get that book published.
I’m really good at
I've been told I'm a good listener. I think it's critical if you want to understand and establish a connection with another person.
The first things people usually notice about me
I have no idea, though recently a female friend told me I had nice eyes.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
My favorite authors change, but I keep coming back to Vladimir Nabokov, Cormac McCarthy, David Mitchell, and Jose Saramago. The stack on my side table includes, among many others, Roberto Bolano, Chuck Palahnuik, and Victor Pelevin. I like reading poetry, too--bawdy limericks, corny love poems, classics from the canon, and even those experimental "texts" that, taken too quickly, could cause some terrible neurological damage. I know a guy who walks with a limp to this day because he tried to read all of Ezra Pound's Cantos in a single sitting. Poor dumb bastard.

In music, I like almost anything that's well done--jazz, classical, offbeat rock, and experimental stuff that no one has ever heard of (and hardly anyone else listens to, alas). Right now, I'm listening to an Australian neo-psych band called The Dolly Rocker Movement, but later I might be listening to Beethoven's string quartets or Brian Eno's Music for Films.

I love movies, the more offbeat the better, and I especially enjoy foreign films because they give me a glimpse into another culture. My favorite recent movie is "The Act of Killing," which may be the best documentary I've ever seen. My guilty pleasure is Asian horror films. On rainy weekends, I love to curl up and watch old movies.

Food? Though I'm trying to eat a healthy diet these days, lots of fresh veggies and fish, I love a greasy Five Guys burger and fries once in a while, and I adore noodles, especially udon. And pasta--if you can make pesto, I'll love you forever.

I also like to try food from other countries. One of the best aspects of traveling is trying the local cuisine. Though I've been to fancy restaurants in places I've visited, I prefer eating at little mom and pop cafes or sampling street food. Seoul has great street food, and I loved the "happy fresh sandwiches" in the Tokyo convenience stores. I think sharing a meal is the best way to get to know people and their culture. Sometimes you have to be brave--I ate stir-fried fish bladder in Thailand--but I rarely regret it. I'm also down with the frog smoothie if I ever get to Peru.
Six things I could never do without
passport, books, music, writing, movies, my camera, and my fat sassy cat, Eudora. I realize that's seven things, but in the end, you don't get to keep anything anyway, so what's the harm?
I spend a lot of time thinking about
how to live skillfully in the Buddhist sense. Cynicism and selfishness are easy; compassion and kindness are difficult, but they tend to brighten the world, even if only locally and for a moment. It's when you string those moments together that you really have something. Like everyone, though, I'm a work in progress.
On a typical Friday night I am
usually at home relaxing and making plans for Saturday.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I can't sing, but I do sing to my cat, who has yet to walk out on one of my performances. I think she tolerates it because I can open cans.
You should message me if
you're the least bit curious. I'm always up for coffee and conversation.
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