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My self-summary
I think Conor Oberst said it well for me when he said, "On a scale from 1 to 10, 10 is exactly what I am with 0 being everything I'm not. Tell me what you like. Is it less than 5?"

BUT, I rate most people higher than 5. I like to be surrounded by a diversity of thoughts and actions. I like people who push me to be more than I could ever be by myself, and I like to push in the same way. Your life doesn't have to match with mine, that would be boring, it just has to be compatible with it.

Basically, I'm an explorer. I'm a SOCIAL scientist in that I love being surrounded by and interacting with people. I'm interested in getting to know people deeply, and in expanding myself through their experiences. Growth through exposure to other people. I find that super valuable.

I'm a poly person, interested in having deep and meaningful relationships with a variety of people. Good thing my heart isn't a zero-sum game! Hope yours isn't either. My partners, including my amazing boyfriend, would sure hate if it was.
What I’m doing with my life
A question that could have such a diversity of answers! I feel like it basically needs a five paragraph essay to answer it. I'm currently improving myself by being involved in hobbies, strengthening connections that I have and building new ones, going to graduate school for Evolutionary Anthropology, and expanding myself by working on projects outside of my field.

If I had one piece of advice for any high school graduate it would be to not forget that the reason you do the things you do is because you love doing them, and that if you stop now, you will become much worse at things you love to do. My main hobbies in high school were playing trumpet and tennis. After a break of many years, I'm picking those up again. And it's really hard! I'm playing trumpet about 10 hours a week these days, and tennis about 8. It's really tough to not be as good as I once was, but I hope to get there again.

Like probably everyone says on these things, I love spending time with my friends. Not just the friends that I have, but the friends that I want to have. With friends, I'm quite interested in having deep and involved relationships, so that we talk to each other about most anything and are deeply involved in each other's lives. I would love to meet more people who are like that in relationships. Indeed, that's one of the biggest reasons I want to be poly!

I'm in graduate school at UC-Davis in Evolutionary Anthropology. I study the evolution of human behavior. I hope one day to grow up to be an evolutionary biologist that uses human behavior to ask interesting questions about evolutionary dynamics. I try to bring in both the social and the science side–I think it's impossible to do social science without them both. I try not to take my work too seriously, though I'll talk your ear off, if you want.

I've also recently been working on pushing myself outside of my field and comfort areas. My boyfriend is an amazing guitarist, and I tried to learn for a while. Now I'm content with listening to him make magic, but I might try again soon. I'm also working on establishing a media presence, guest writing for blogs and thinking of starting using social media as a scientist. I'm always looking to expand the things that I do, and I'd love any suggestions you have!

There's my five paragraph essay. Out of 10, what's the grade? Is it more than 5?
The first things people usually notice about me
Big blue eyes. And I seem to fill a room up when I get into it. This is usually great, because I'm usually in a good mood. But it can be bad news when I'm in a bad mood.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I am a sucker for anything science fiction. A fun project that I am working on now is doing thematic analysis of the works of all science fiction authors who have won 4 or more Hugos or Nebulas. Yep, I'm that much of a nerd. On second thought, maybe I shouldn't have led off with books...

Television is one of my favorite things to do on my downtime. I think it is the entertainment medium right now where we're seeing the most creativity and best stories being told. That said, some favorites are:
Arrested Development, Breaking Bad, How I Met Your Mother (I'm almost guaranteed to get along with anyone who can quote from this show), The Wire, Community, Modern Family, American Dad, and the list goes on.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How an individual's condition.state in life articulates with group structural conditions to produce behavior.

Outside of nerd land, I love watching and thinking about soccer.
On a typical Friday night I am
Hanging out with friends, challenging myself by deep interactions with them and challenging them through the same. I like people who can connect deeply, and I hope you're someone like that. If you're not sure if you are, we could always talk and hang out and find out if you are!
You should message me if have something smart or interesting to say. I find most things interesting, though, so don't be nervous. really want a deep connection with someone. I fight really hard for the friendships that I have, but I'm always interested in expanding them. If you really want to get to know someone, I'd love to talk to you. If you don't, you probably didn't read this far and just messaged me after looking at my pictures. like having a good time. So...I'm a very intense person. When I do something, I do it real hard. That also means that when I go out, I go out hard. If you like to do that, awesome. play music or are musical. I want to surround myself with musicians. If you don't play, but really know what music is, that's great, too. I want to learn of cool new music from you.
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