cypher1
41 San Francisco, United States
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My self-summary
I'm creative, happy, and single. I'm working on changing that last one.

Getting to "happy" took a lot of work and self-examination, and my ideal boyfriend will also have put some thought and work into who they are. I'm not looking for perfection, just awareness of your own journey.

I'm looking for a long-term partner, but I'm not on a fast-track warpath to commitment. I'm more interested in dating interesting people. If that leads to something long term, that's great!

[note- I have "not at all" listed for drinking, but it's really more like "very rarely on special occasions", and I'm equally comfortable around people who are drinking or sober]
What I’m doing with my life
I am (in no particular order) a musician, a clown, a comic book geek, a software engineer, and a boot collector.

I'm pushing the boundaries of my introvert comfort zone by getting into physical theatre and clowning. My clowning is either satirical (Bouffon) or is part of an interactive theatre group that attempts to provoke more meaningful connections than the typical small talk.

Musically, I play keyboards (piano, Hammond organ, Mellotron) and bass guitar, mostly for my own entertainment but occasionally as performance. I'm keeping an eye out for possible band-mates, but that's been on the back burner recently. I would love to get together with musicians interested in group improv. I'm not afraid to sound awful in the effort to find exciting music.

I'm a comic book geek, although I've stopped buying more comics for a while as I have too much of a backlog of things to read already. I'm interested in the history of the medium, and have contributed articles to online and print publications.

If you're into personality type systems, here are mine (I find them interesting and fairly accurate, but consider them among many tools for self-examination).
Myers-Briggs: INFP
Enneagram: type 4w5, one-to-one/intimacy subtype
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Food:

No particular food but when it comes to beverages I love tea! Pretty much all varieties from delicate whites to earthy pu-erhs. I have decided I need to stop buying tea and just drink what I have as I recently realized that I have at least small quantities of about 30 different teas.

Books:

I mostly read comics these days, with a smattering of non-fiction, typically while in airports :-)
Favorite comics include: The Invisibles (Grant Morrison), Watchmen (Alan Moore), Planetary (Warren Ellis), Phonogram (Gillen and McKelvie), Saga (Brian K. Vaughan and Fiona Staples) and various more mainstream superhero guilty pleasures (Marvel has been amazing recently, but I dropped all of DC by the end of the 2nd year of their "New 52" reboot).

Music:

King Crimson (see above comment about group improvisation), Radiohead, David Bowie, The Arcade Fire, Uncle Tupelo, Wilco, Bob Dylan, The Rolling Stones (especially late 60's-early 70's era), The New Pornographers, The National, The Walkmen, The Velvet Underground, Yeah Yeah Yeahs, Lorde, K.Flay, Alabama Shakes, The Black Keys... I tinker with this list every time I edit my profile.
The six things I could never do without
Friends
Music
Reading material of some sort
that's about it, really
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How to keep moving forward with performing and other things that stretch my comfort zone.
On a typical Friday night I am
Sometimes out with friends, and sometimes home reading or working on a project. Possibly performing, although that's still pretty rare.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
The really private things I'd rather be asked about. If it's private, it's probably because it would be easy to misinterpret outside of a real conversation. And all of my other attempts to put a pithy answer here have been lame :-P
You should message me if
You want to!
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