I live in Chelsea right by the High Line. In the past I've lived in Brooklyn, Pittsburgh, Columbus, Cleveland, Darien, and Dallas. There are times when I dream of having a nice house with lots of woods and a river. And there are times when leaving The City is unimaginable, meaning I might be making the usual apartment size/space tradeoffs forever.
In the past I did neuroscience research, dabbled in bioinformatics, and a few other sciency things. Nowadays my employment is programming. If I were starting my career over again, I'd be a researcher in mechanisms of cellular differentiation and/or aging. Articles like these make my heart sing:
I'd like to think I'm a good teacher, not just in terms of a hat I put on so much as a life commitment to helping people deepen their knowledge of things and avoid easy and wrong understandings.
Finding reasons to doubt or disagree with something.
Murakami, Kundera, Ken Macleod, Rushdie. Marlen Haushofer's "Die Wand" was also fantastic.
Theory of Justice, (Neuroscience textbooks), Preconditions of Socialism, Plato's Republic, the Muqadimmah. They're not books, but I also spend a lot of time reading academic journals on select sciences and current events.
Spider-Gwen, Shokugeki-no Soma, (Neil Gaiman)
Vertigo, Le Dîner de Cons, Direktøren for det hele, Brazil, Naked Lunch, City of Lost Children, Detective Heart of America. And most things Jan Svankmajer has ever made.
QI, House of Cards (the original British one), MST3k, Yes Minister, ST:DS9, Last Week Tonight
Katzenjammer, Fiona Apple, Firewater, VNV Nation, Amsterdam Klezmer Band, Danny Elfman, Bad Religion, Vienna Teng, Paramore, Scott Joplin.
Avril Lavigne and the Veronicas are two guilty pleasures. I have an accordion and someday I hope to have a Piano and/or a String Bass again.
Paneer Makhani, Saag Paneer, Samosa, Fondue, Hummus, Red Curry Tofu, Avocado Rolls. I also like Veggie Burritos, and ..
I am a vegetarian, but only by taste. I don't care what you eat unless it smells awful and I need to be around it.
Jim Gaffigan, Sarah Silverman, Frankie Boyle, Iliza Schlesinger, Sasha Baron Cohen, Armstrong and Miller, Leslie Nielsen (movies)
Fallout's a lot of fun. I also like turn-based strategy games like Civ and MOO. Off the computer, I particularly like Illuminati, Ubi, and Munchkin.
Travel I try to do yearly
*DragonCon - Every September
*Camping or Hiking - I hope to fit a trip in every year
*Visit my sisters and my nephews (usually in Cleveland or Boston)
Questions to get to know someone:
* What are the ideas that most flavour your mental life?
* What is your creed?
* What are the things you struggle with the most?
I produce a fair amount of cultural content that nobody watches. Imagine a blogger with 40 readers or a Let's Play with 30 views. The low views doesn't bother me; the ritual of making stuff and (occasionally) sharing it feels right.
I live with two cats that are both about 15 years old. They don't act particularly old. They do the usual cat things, annoying and cool. I like to tickle their feet.
I'm pretty introverted. I don't make friends easily and I don't have any skill at flirting; there are generally gaps of years between my dating people. If I end up at a party I tend to mostly stand alone and watch people if I don't know some people at the party well. Unless there's dancing, because if I like the music I'll be alternating between high-energy not-touch-the-floor-much dancing, and resting from how exhausting that can be.
I write a lot about everything, in various places on the internet.
My family is racially, religiously, and politically mixed. My mum voted for Trump, my dad voted for Hillary. My politics and cultural views have their own consistency but don't fit either liberal or conservative (or libertarian) norms. I believe in a large nanny state, a permissive/chill set of social norms, regulations favouring more democracy in the workplace and collectives competing with each other, rule of law, and a somewhat hawkish-leaning foreign policy.
My strongest political conviction is for freedom of speech, both as a legal norm and as a social one. I believe we should try, as much as is possible, to make differences in viewpoints and language and definitions consequenceless. Meaning I stand with Charlie Hebdo and Mad Magazine and I think it's healthy that people are offended whether they're rich and powerful or downtrodden. I also care a lot about keeping workplaces without official stances on political issues and ideally banning their lobbying. A cross, a rainbow flag, or an american flag on a business window would turn me off a bit.
I believe in busting political taboos and bubbles. I sometimes read such diverse voices as Jezebel, National Review, Reason, and International Socialist Review. They're all crazy sometimes, insightful at other times. I've read Germaine Greer, Ayn Rand, Robert Nozick, and Andrea Dworkin, and think they're all interesting - would be happy to talk about their ideas whether and where I agree with them or not.
I like my principles more than I like people, although I like people best when they don't make me choose.
What I want from a relationship:
Who is very intelligent and reasonably assertive
Whom I find attractive (in decent shape, not fat)
Fitting a few musts (atheist/agnostic, monogamous, you read things)
Who wants to spend a lot of time together
With lots of conversations
Who also wants to explore life together (science! philosophy! other ideas!)
And who appreciates absurd humour and silly puns
And someone who feels that gender is just about genetics and maybe body shape, not about hobbies (I knit) or roles in the workplace or who should lead in a relationship.
And let's get this out of the way too. I'm bisexual. I'm not into the non-straight subculture, and while I'm sexually about equally interested in guys and gals, I'm only romantically into gals. And I'm monogamous. So unless you want to read it as a sign that I'm open to some things in the bedroom that most guys might not be into (which is a fair assumption), or if this bugs you in some way, it really shouldn't impact us.
Like you I have a long list of silly-specific things beyond this that "would be nice" (that probably nobody I'll ever meet will match all of), but I really just want a great companion I can get along with and will grow to love, to build a life and maybe a family together.
I have this fantasy of growing old with someone and sitting on a porch on a rainy day watching the storm, heading out into the wet wind to dance with them as it pours down. Maybe that could be you.