For about 10 years now I haven't owned a car, by choice and not by decree of law, and so if you don't live in Baltimore City I am not going to pursue and probably won't respond to messages from you except as a polite thank you. I use zipcar and Lyft when I can't get somewhere by foot or public transportation and so I have found that anyone more then 4 or 5 miles from me just isn't practical.
When we begin messaging, talking on the phone and especially after we meet in person if I have a change of heart and don't see it going any farther with you – despite any of my previous words or actions – I will have the common decency to let you know, probably by email, but I will let you know because I think that is the proper thing to do. I have always assumed that any woman I've been in contact with on here is – at least early on in the process – likely in contact with and going on dates with other men at the same time she is doing so with me and so no matter how well it seems to be going between us, no matter that I feel there is a real potential, I understand that early on feelings can change quickly. To me that is part and parcel of dating. What I find frustrating is feeling like I've dropped of the face of the earth as far as they're concerned. A quick email, voice mail or even a text letting someone know that you've have a fun time but have chosen another at this time isn't that hard to do and is just a simple, decent courteous, no? Sorry if that comes off as bitter but after a lifetime of dating, both online and off, and a victim of this behavior I needed to get that off my chest.
I don't really consider what we are doing here as online dating, we are shopping for potential mates and I'm pretty much stealing this idea from a writer somewhere but despite searching I can't find the article about this so I'm presenting it here without credit to the original author. No matter how awesome of a match we are, enticing you are because of the way you answered a particular question on here, or heartbeat-quickening sexy I think you look in your pictures it isn't until I meet you in person that I'm going to even begin to have an idea if I really want to pursue this – and neither should you. Think about it like this...that dress you ordered online, it looked great on the website, you think it will fit your figure well driving men crazy and making women jealous of how good you look in it and you're so excited to try it on you pay extra for priority overnight shipping but it's not until you get to try it on will you have any idea if it's all you dreamed it would be. You track the package all day from work, you know it's there, waiting for you to get home from work and when you put it on and realize upon looking in the mirror that this is your new favorite dress, or maybe it's just ok – not the best but certainly you'll keep it and be happy with it – or maybe, dejectedly you take it off and go on the website for return instructions because no matter the promise it held it just doesn't work on you. To me that's what we're doing here – shopping – and it's not until we try it on (and NO that isn't a euphemism for sex rather what I think our first date should be like) that we know if we'll keep it or send it back.
So now a little bit about me...
I've moved around a good bit. Lived in Vail, Colorado for a winter 20+ years ago (ugh, I swear it doesn't seem that long ago) and Austin, Texas from 1995 to 2000. Not to mention a few different places here in Maryland. I wasn't born here in Baltimore but we moved her literally on my first birthday and for all its rough edges I really do like the city...hmmm, maybe it's because of its rough edges that I like it.
I used to be really into running and triathlons and have some accomplishments that I am very proud of, I was never a speed demon but I got to run in some exciting events. I don't really ride my bike anymore (used to use it for fun and transportation but frankly, and ask me if you want to, I'm scared to ride it anymore). I've been battling some Achilles tendonitis and plantar fasciitis for while now and hopefully spring 2015 will find me able to casually run again.
For essentially my entire adult life I have worked in the restaurant business. I have from time to time tried to find some other line of work that interests me to no avail. I think finally I may have found something else that interests me though and in the fall of 2011 I started volunteering at University of Maryland's Shock Trauma Center to see if I was interested in and could handle a job in such a setting. Turns out I am interested and can handle it and as of November 2012 I'm a trauma tech in the Trauma Resuscitation Unit at Shock Trauma. It is hands down the best adrenaline that I have come across. Where I go career-wise from here is best left for an in person conversation.
I think of myself as pretty high on the self-awareness scale and also as a constant work in progress. I'd say I'm pretty happy with my life but that doesn't mean that I shouldn't keep looking at it and keep trying to improve it both physically, mentally and now musically as I just bought an acoustic guitar and for the first time in my life am trying to learn to play that.
I really don't like football at all and generally shy away from women who are wearing football jerseys in their picture
I've been on here since about 2013 and have answered lots of questions in that time, some of my answers are out-dated and as I come across them I try to change them so if there are any that you are unsure if mine is a recent, and still true answer feel free to ask.
I look at the match percentages but I also keep in mind that I have an ex on here and we match at 98% and well, we're exes so I don't look at that number as the end-all-be-all.
Changing a bike flat
Listening (really good...eh, maybe just pretty good but working on it)
Fitting all the (physical) things I care about into what I call "My Manhattan Apartment" 400 square feet on the first floor of an old house in Bolton Hill.
Like a lot of men, I'm good at solving problems but like fewer men I'm pretty good at knowing when not try to solve the problem.
Hot Club of Cowtown
Old Country (not what you'd hear on the radio today)
Classical (A friend recently got me into chamber music, as opposed to full symphonies...still learning about that)
Some of my favs from my punk rock days of the 80's
cheesy 80's stuff too
Lots more but thats enough for now...or maybe too much for now.
Ok, I could live without olives but I really, really like them so I'd just rather not live without them.
I pick my nose!
Also if you look in my questions section I think that there may be some shockers in there as far as private things go...or maybe not I guess it has a lot to do with perspective but either way I think the questions are fun to answer and I tried to be pretty honest with my answers.
If you never ate at another chain restaurant you'd be perfectly fine with that.
You're confident enough to message me and not just wait until I make the first move.