danmiles
36Portland, United States
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My self-summary
I can illuminate your life like a monk illuminates a manuscript, or so I'm told. That was the greatest compliment I have ever received because it is my favorite thing about myself; I love life, I'm fascinated by the world and all its infinite curiosities and on a good day my joie de vivre is infectious 🐕. If you want to catch it, I recommend showing me your favorite places: Oneonta creek? Eagle's rest? Ape caves? Ooh! You know what I really want to do? Let's take a measuring tape to the Oregon Vortex and see what we can learn! I wonder if they'll let us?

Or if we don't have time for that, we could go do some karaoke or drive up Larch Mountain with a telescope to try to find some Messier Objects.

I also really need a skiing buddy ⛷️ and I've been meaning to get my drysuit certification so I can see what the local scuba 🌊 scene is all about. Maybe we can do that together?
What I’m doing with my life
My recent major themes are recovery and redemption (not the post-Civil War kind). I’ve been fortunate enough that I’m not recovering from chemical dependency but I’ve had a hard couple of years. I live alone for the first time in my life in a surprisingly clean house. I’m recovering my health and fitness after a long injury and depression and I’ve finally started to remember who I used to be. An old boss of mine once told me that he liked to hire college grads not because of their education but because a degree showed they’d done something hard. I like to think of myself in that same light: Having been through hard times, I’m more solid, more dependable: I’ve been tested and I passed.
I’m really good at
My superpower is that of detachment which allows me to look at an issue from all sides. This makes me really good at maintaining relationships because even if I'm angry and you're "WRONG," I can still take part of my mind, detach it and and see the disagreement from your side. It also makes me really good at my programming job because I can completely take a problem apart and see it in ways nobody else does.
The first things people usually notice about me
In the last few months, I've had two unsolicited complements about my voice. I've also had people say that they found me inviting and open.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
In fiction, I can’t decide if my favorite author is Brandon Sanderson or Peter Hamilton. Sanderson writes epic fantasy, Hamilton writes epic sci-fi but I like them both because they’re fantastic world-builders. Alastair Reynolds is close up there too. In nonfiction, I love Jonathan Haidt’s, The Righteous Mind and I’ve gotten a lot of value from Sam Harris’, The Moral Landscape, even though the writer is the worst kind of person. I’m still picking my way through Michelle Alexander’s, The New Jim Crow (It’s a devastating but important read. As Baratunde Thurston says, when white people begin to see how this country really works, we’re going to need a hug) and Bessel Van Der Kolk’s, The Body Keeps the Score.
Six things I could never do without
This is a pretty melodramatic question, so I'm not going to answer it. Instead, I'm going to list six things I really enjoy.

* Bicycles
* People
* Dinner Parties
* Computers
* Work/Goals
* Beer
I spend a lot of time thinking about
* NP-Complete problems (don't tell me something is impossible, it just drives me crazy)

* Bicycle vs knee (recovering from injury)

* Early textile mills -- How did they work?

* This tongue-camera: http://abcnews.go.com/Primetime/story?id=2401551&page=1

* This compass-belt: http://www.monkeysandrobots.com/hapticcompass
On a typical Friday night I am
At my house or someone else's, eating and laughing with good people.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm terrified of spiders... Actually, pretty much all arthropods. My first year of school I had long hair so I had hair ties lying around all over my desk in my dorm room. One night, I was goofing off at the computer (homework? Nah! not me!) and I knocked a hair tie off the back of the desk and onto my unsuspecting, bare toes.

Terror struck. SPIDER!!! 🕷️

I got a rush of endorphins to fight (the hair tie spider) or flee (the hair tie spider) and I did the sensible thing: I cried out in fear and spasmodically kicked my foot to fling the spider off -- to no avail!

So then the panic really set in, and I tried it again, harder -- the hair-tie-spider had my toe in a death grip.

Before long, I'd pushed myself away from my desk and was sitting in my chair flailing my foot everywhere, flapping my hands up and down like I was going to take flight and screeching in a surprisingly high pitch given my normally rich bass voice. Eventually I ran out of juice and noticed that it was a friggen hair tie.

My roommate didn't stop laughing for three days, every time he saw me. Once, walking up to me in the dorm cafeteria he had to put his tray on the floor because he'd started laughing so hard he thought he'd spill something.
You should message me if
- You want to get dressed up with me and see a play or go to the symphony
- You want to form a tiny choir with me and a few of your friends and sing all the stuff we each remember from high school (I've never been more serious in my life)
- You want to go on a date and find out if there's a spark
- You want to go skiing
- You want to go hiking somewhere fun
- You want to teach me to hang-glide
- You want to go scuba diving
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