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My self-summary
I want to leave the world a better place than it was when I got here.

I'm an intellectual. I love learning new things, reading, having intelligent conversations or debates.

I'm quite an idealist and a romantic. Though this seems to constantly make life harder for me, it also fuels me to continue on. It is a blessing and a curse but I would not trade it for anything.

I'm a bit of a geek. I am not a big TV watcher unless it is with others. I'd prefer to read or play games if I'm alone.

I love creativity in all of its forms. I love a lot of music. I'd pretty much say I could not have made it this far without it (sure, cliche, whatever. Saying this is cliche is so cliche). I probably could but life would be a lot more boring and harder to deal with at times.

I swear sometimes that I am an artist born into an unskilled vessel. I have a very creative mind. I have always envied artists of many mediums. Somehow though, I have never had the skill to draw, paint, sing, or do many other things that an artist might find themselves doing. I'm good at solving problems in creative ways though!

People watching is pretty awesome. It should probably be an Olympic sport.

I'm a very open-minded person and I highly value this trait in other people. I have strong opinions about a lot of things, and I respect people who have conviction in their own beliefs as well. I think it is perfectly fine if our opinions differ, so long as you have reasoning behind your creed. Discussing these kinds of things can make for interesting conversations that all parties involved can grow from.

I love the rain. Perhaps this is not a defining personality trait and maybe it does not belong here. For some reason though, it makes me really happy. Thunderstorms are especially awesome.

I love challenges of all sorts. I never can seem to back down from a challenge that has been laid before me or a goal I have set for myself. I either go down trying or I (much more often) do whatever it takes to get there. This can be a huge positive trait, until I do not know when to call it quits for the sake of sanity.

I've never quite been able to decide if I am someone who is ruled by logic or by emotion. Neither has my brain, I think. I'm pretty sure there is an internal struggle raging in my head between the left and right hemispheres that may end one day catastrophically. They may simultaneously kill each other in their struggle for power, and I may just drop dead. So enjoy me while you can.

Life is one big gray area to me. I do not see anything in black and white.l Everything has to do with circumstances and perspective when it comes to right and wrong.

The "Other" in my religion answer mostly has to do with that I am spiritual, but not religious. For some reason OkCupid has no way to encode this information. I respect a lot of religions for their beliefs but I cannot side myself with any particular organized religion. However, I have extremely strong morals and I think that this trait should not stem solely from religious or spiritual beliefs. I immensely enjoy philosophical or spiritual debate with other open minded individuals.

As far as my own lifestyle choices go and the philosophies I tend to side myself with, I favor the ideals of Buddhism and a bit of Existentialism most. I am also a strong believer in Karma.

Unfortunately for me most of the time, I tend to see the good in people to a fault. I rarely cut ties in relationships (friend or otherwise) because I always try to see why people do as they do.

I'm a big believer in chivalry. This is a bit of a complicated topic, though. I'm mostly against gender roles. I think a stay at home dad is just as fine as a stay at home mom. I think women are just as capable of opening their own doors, or carrying their own stuff, or paying for a meal. However, I still think chivalry should have a place in the world and this is a strong belief of mine.

I have no tattoos or piercings at the moment (lame), but now that I'm not a poor student working at a job that forbids everything I'm planning to change that.

To me the most important characteristic a person can have is passion. Without it what is the point of life? This goes for myself, friends, and is a mandatory trait for me for someone I would be romantically involved with.

I am intelligent, passionate, and damn hilarious
What I’m doing with my life
I'm enjoying meeting my goals and my work paying off. I graduated with a BS in computer science with a minor in math in May 08. I was working full time and had some crazy work load worth of classes in the last few semesters. The final weeks had me in a computer lab for 40 hours a week on top of everything else. It was a good exercise in perspective with free time. It seems like a huge vacation even now to only have a full time job to worry about. I will probably go back to school for my masters sometime in the next year or two. For now it is nice to take things easy for a little while.

Currently, I'm working as a software engineer at the Genome Center of Washington University School of Medicine. For the most part it is a dream come true for me. I've always enjoyed programming, but I've also always wanted to make an impact on the world and help out humanity in some way. At this job I get both. It is largely concerned with medically applicable genomic and genetic research related to disease and general health. One day we will cure cancer.

Lately I have branched out my interests. I have picked up bass guitar and am slowly learning to play. I learned how to play Pink Floyd's "Money" all the way through a few weeks ago as my first song. It has been pretty cool as I have had NO experience or skill in music prior to this. I pay attention to the music I listen to a lot more now.

More recently, I've become much more interested in my physical health. I have been going to the gym and have found some enjoyment in this. I will never be a musclehead, but I want to have some pride in myself in this way. Also its a fun feeling to enter that testosterone-driven rage that lifting weights puts you in. RAWR!
I’m really good at
Holding intelligent conversations, listening, communicating, writing, math, playing video games, making people laugh, being easily amused and making everyday things fun.
The first things people usually notice about me
Personality-wise: the fact that I'm not afraid to act like an idiot to have fun, that I am usually laughing and/or enjoying myself with whatever it is I am doing.

Physically: My eyes and my smile
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books -- Dune (the original series), American Gods, Neverwhere, Coraline, Stardust, the Sandman series, the Twilight series, The Host, Snow Crash, Ender's Game, Lord of the Rings, Choke, Lamb, Johnny the Homicidal Maniac, Harry Potter (alright, guilty pleasure. I read them and I enjoyed them, dammit!)

Music -- I'm not a music snob by any stretch of the imagination. I just like a whole lot of stuff. I really enjoy being introduced to new music and I have a fairly open mind. Please skip this enormous list if you're uninterested. But if you are, so much the better!

A Perfect Circle, Amanda Palmer, And One, Android Lust, Aphex Twin, Apocalyptica, Apoptygma Berzerk, Assemblage 23, Bauhaus, Beck, Belle & Sebastian, Ben Folds, Bitter:Sweet, Blutengel, Broken Social Scene, Cake, Cocteau Twins, Collide, Cosmicity, Covenant, Crystal Castles, Cursive, Curve, De/Vision, Dead Can Dance, Death Cab for Cutie, Death in Vegas, Depeche Mode, Drain STH, Ego Likeness, Enigma, Enya, Epica, Explosions in the Sky, Fiona Apple, Fischerspooner, Flogging Molly, Fluke, Freezepop, Front 242, Front Line Assembly, Frou Frou, Funker Vogt, Garbage, Gogol Bordello, Goldfrapp, Gorillaz, Gravity Kills, Green Day, Haujobb, Hooverphonic, Icon of Coil, Imogen Heap, Imperative Reaction, Jane's Addiction, Jem, Joy Division, KMFDM, Kidneythieves, Korn, Ladytron, Lamb, Le Tigre, Led Zepplin, London After Midnight, MGMT, Marilyn Manson, Massive Attack, Mind.In.A.Box, Mindless Self Indulgence, Ministry, Mirah, Miss Kittin, Mogwai, Morcheeba, Muse, My Bloody Valentine, My Life With The Thrill Kill Kult, Neuroticfish, Nightwish, Nine Inch Nails, Nirvana, Nitzer Ebb, Of Montreal, Orbital, Pavement, Peaches, Pink Floyd, Pixies, Placebo, Plumb, Poe, Portishead, Pride and Fall, Prodigy, Project Pitchfork, Prozzak, Puscifer, Radiohead, Rage Against the Machine, Razed in Black, Rob Zombie, Royksopp, Rush, Sarah McLachlan, Seabound, She Wants Revenge, Shiny Toy Guns, Shpongle, Silversun Pickups, Skinny Puppy, Smashing Pumpkins, Snake River Conspiracy, Sneaker Pimps, Sonic Youth, Splashdown, Stabbing Westward, Static-X, System of a Down, Telepopmusik, The Cure, The Decemberists, The Doors, The Dresden Dolls, The Dropkick Murphys, The Faint, The Flaming Lips, The Future Sound of London, The Hacker, The Knife, The Mars Volta, The Postal Service, The Sisters of Mercy, The Smiths, The Velvet Underground, Thievery Corporation, Tool, Tori Amos, Tricky, Type O Negative, Underworld, VAST, VNV Nation, White Zombie, Within Temptation, Wolfsheim, Wumpscut, Zero 7, Zoe Keating

Movies -- Secretary, Romeo + Juliet (1996 version), Moulin Rogue, Stardust, Mirrormask, Donnie Darko, American Beauty, American History X, Vanilla Sky, Adaptation, Existenz, Being John Malkovich, Requiem for a Dream, Crash, 21 Grams, 2001, Eyes Wide Shut, A Clockwork Orange, Usual Suspects, Rounders, Mean Girls, Interview with the Vampire, Fear and Loathing in Las Vegas, Rushmore, Trainspotting, The Machinist, Lost Highway, Blue Velvet, Mulholland Drive, Crash, Reservoir Dogs, Pulp Fiction, Kill Bill, Fight Club, Snatch, Pi, The Shawshank Redemption, Pink Floyd's The Wall, The Departed, Primer, A Scanner Darkly, Dark City, The Crow, Edward Scissorhands, Run Lola Run, The Matrix, Star Wars, The Fountain, Party Monster, 12 Monkeys, Sin City, Children of Men, The Rocky Horror Picture Show, Hedwig and the Angry Inch, Priscilla Queen of the Desert, Labyrinth, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, I Heart Huckabees, Garden State, Amelie, Final Cut, Nightmare Before Christmas, Corpse Bride, Army of Darkness, Evil Dead 1+2, Clerks 1+2, Mall Rats, Chasing Amy, Sweeney Todd, Ghost World, Pan's Labyrinth, Revolution Road

TV - As I said I'm not a big TV person other than watching stuff at friends places on their DVR occasionally. That being said, There are a few exceptions:
Six Feet Under - one of the greatest works of art ever on a TV/movie medium. LOST - This is just pure addiction, unfortunately
Myth Busters - just plain fucking awesome. Talk about having the best job ever...
Mystery Science Theater 3000 - Funniest. Thing. Ever.
Invader Zim - You either get it or you do not. I need say no more.

Food - I like just about everything. I'm particularly fond of good Italian, sushi, Thai, and other ethnic foods.

Miscellaneous other stuff that I like:
Web comics - xkcd, Penny Arcade
Newsfeeds - Lifehacker, Engadget, bunch of others... I never read or watch "standard" news but these keep me up to date on major things and things I care about

Also... Dr. Horrible's Sing Along Blog is a m a z i n g. If you have not seen it please proceed directly to www.drhorrible.com. I am embarrassed to say I had not seen this for a long time until recently.
Six things I could never do without
Love (Platonic, Familial, and Romantic)
Video Games
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Am I making the most out of my life? Life is insanely short and I want to make the most of it. There are so many things I'd like to learn and do.

Philosophy, spirituality

What I am going to do with the next free time I have

Why everyone in the world is so damn fucked up
On a typical Friday night I am
I do not really have a routine. I prefer switching things up with what I do with my free time. Some possibilities include:

Hanging out with one or more of my friends. Preferably, this includes going to a concert if anyone decent is playing. This might also be going out to a movie, getting some drinks or dinner, or just sitting at someones house playing video games or talking.

Having some time to myself occasionally: Listening to some music while playing video games or reading.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm not a super private person so anything I have not already admitted, ask.

I guess if I had to put something here it would be that I'm not a super masculine testosterone-driven man. I think I'm a pretty decent balance with a reasonable amount of androgyny. I'm a pretty emotional, passionate person. Yes, watching Romeo+Juliet still makes me cry. Don't tell anyone.

Also I'm a complete fucking addict to cuddling. Sorry.

Now that all of that is out, all of you girls who are secretly addicted to assholes will have no interest. Oh well.
You should message me if
You find me interesting and you yourself are cool, interesting, or hopefully both.

You like geeks.

You enjoy reasonably emotional guys. If its not alright for a guy to cry then you probably do not want to talk to me.

You are a passionate person... this implies a lot of things to me. All of the following are not necessarily required but each one helps. To me this means:

- You are willing to stand up for, argue, or fight for what you believe.

- You are willing to define yourself as a person! If someone does not like you for it, you probably do not want to talk to them anyways. What is the point in being bland to please everyone or attract whoever?

- You love music, art, literature, and other displays of emotion.

- When you love... you love hard. Giving yourself completely to a relationship can be fucking scary, and certainly will cause untold amounts of pain. But it is also the greatest thing to live for.

- Many, many other things...
The two of us