I believe in giving everyone the benefit of the doubt. I really dig intelligent conversation and witty banter. You don't have to be sexy, or try to impress. Just introduce me to something interesting about you.
I have found I can get everything I want by being honest and considerate.
Full disclosure: I am not an avid sports fan, hiker, biker, surfer, party-er, burner, marijuana-er. Adventure seems to find me so I don't usually have to seek it out. In lieu of that though I love winding conversations about anthropology, biscuits and gravy, psychology, design, existentialism, and the merit of Looney Tunes. My philosophy on life is one borrowed from Improv, "yes, and." ideally you are self aware, have a sense of humor, are considerate, not easily flustered, and default to smiling.
So, here's how this is gonna work. I don't know you, you don't know me. We will both say something inherently awkward or perceived that way because we haven't known each other well enough to read body language or intention. But we give each other the benefit of the doubt because most people aren't trying to be an ass, they are trying to connect. It'll take us about three weeks to really get a sense of who each other is and in that time we will enjoy several outings with lots of laughs and rewarding conversation, because we're not in a rush to check "married/in a relationship" off our score card but to enrich our lives with new people and experiences. So we will start off with short innocuous and plodding questions about random things to find some common ground like similar backgrounds, interest in Brian Wilson, the worst and best sesame chicken we've found...
I am a bit confused by bay area people. Where I come from people sit next to each other and regularly have a nice jocular chat about anything and everything. Whether it's in line to buy milk, sitting at a bus stop, a bar stool or a cross walk. You invite strangers to come sit with you if they're alone. To that end I'm not big on corresponding on this thing. If you're the least bit interesting let's check out the city. Don't worry, its not a binding contract or marriage proposal :D
If you're tired of pretense and superficiality I'm your kind of person. I guess I'm what the young people call Legit.
I really enjoy scientific texts and studies on neuroscience. Anthropology. Medicine. Culture.
Currently reading The Beauty Myth and Brainwashed: Challenging the Myth of Black Inferiority.
music: 70s and 80s R&B. 60s british pop. Tom petty. Pulp. Alice Cooper. Moody Blues. Otis Redding. Matthew Good Band. The Tea Party. Garbage. The four tops. Ben e king. Fitz and the tantrums. Vampire weekend. Birds and bees. Arcade fire. Modest mouse.
Movies: Gremlins. Scrooged. American Psycho. Legend. Chinatown. Paths of Glory. Parenthood. Rodney Dangerfield. Blazing saddles. Michael keaton. Much ado about nothing.
TV: Elementary. Doctor Who w/matt Smith. Studio 60. The good wife. Newsroom. Madam secretary.
Intriguing subjects: child development. History. Anthropology
You've figured out the checklist approach to mating doesn't do you any good and you can appreciate what people have to offer.