35 Brighton, United Kingdom
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My self-summary
A scintillating, dazzling star wrapped in an ironic t-shirt and a Byronic haircut. Dorothy Parker is my idol. Her and the Dude.

I'm polyamorous, and generally looking for like-minded people.

The most beautiful faces are weightless. No matter the time or trouble or worry, the child within is visible; not an overgrown infant filled with need and boundless entitlement, but the simple joy of youth, the wonder of simply being in a world of things there to be known. I have seen this face in my son, in cherished lovers, and at times even myself. I spark at the thought of how many more such faces I will see.

Looking for intense connections of all stripes, or any combination thereof: physical, emotional, intellectual. That said, I would really love to find someone with a wry sense of humour, a mind like a scalpel, and earth-shattering physical chemistry.
What I’m doing with my life
Working in London, living in Brighton. Raising a delightful little human. Drinking lots and lots of coffee. But good coffee, mind you.

Always learning, experimenting, exploring. Being a bit cheeky; being subtle about it.
I’m really good at
Figuring things out. Being unflappable in highly stressful circumstances (and oddly anxious in prosaic ones). Being preternaturally comfortable with awkwardness. Spoiling photographs. Doing a creditable Edwyn Collins impression. Surprising people (just a little bit).

Also, parenthetical statements.
The first things people usually notice about me
My Canadian accent
My fantastic Roman nose
The lovely aroma of my pipe smoke

The last things anyone would suspect of me:

I love to dance. Seriously, I missed a calling.
I can race like a mountain goat over jagged rocks. *Without* grievous injury. So far.
I kind of wish I had to wear a suit to work.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I have a greatly diminished capacity to enjoy books uncritically owing to an unfortunate run-in with an English degree, but favourites include Ford Madox Ford, T. S. Eliot, Beckett, Sōseki, Margaret Atwood, Stevie Smith, Slavoj Žižek, Montaigne, Rabelais, Ernesto Sabato, Stanislaw Lem, Solzhenitsyn, Mary Wollstonecraft, and so on.

I love discovering new music, with few enduring favourites. If I hear it and like it, it'll probably make it into my rotation. At the moment that's Cass McCombs, Kevin Morby, Julia Holter, Teleman, Deerhunter, Sufjan Stevens, Father John Misty, Kurt Vile, Destroyer, Tame Impala, and a bunch of other random tracks.

Movies I form more of a connection with. Existential comedy is a great genre, with Wes Anderson topping the list (I have been described as a real-life Wes Anderson character. I'm not sure it was meant as a compliment). Then mostly a bunch of random films I adore: The Spirit of the Beehive, Last Year at Marienbad, Brazil, Repo Man, Let the Right One In, Celine and Julie Go Boating, Marketa Lazarová, Sophie Scholl and The Princess Bride.

I love spices, tea, coffee, chocolate, etc. Food is fascinating, and the global quest for tasty and/or pharmacologically interesting plants shaped the modern world. That's worthy of some some respect right there.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Everything. Everything is interesting. It's all in how you frame it.
On a typical Friday night I am
Very likely at a gig, or wishing I was. When I initially typed this it came out as "at a god," which would also probably be... interesting.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm inside-out.
You should message me if
You've said awful things, such awful things, and now it's out.