I live a few hundred yards over the state line in New Jersey. I'm a native of Pennsylvania and have no interest in, or attachment to, New Jersey. I do virtually nothing in New Jersey (apart from paying astronomical taxes to support an army of corrupt politicians and their drone employees) and am entirely focused on Pennsylvania and on New York City.
I'm presentable, dress well, and have a conventional and conservative appearance. I'm far too private a person to post a photo which shows my face, so my okcupid photographs show me holding a basketball in one hand with that arm extended. (I'm palming the basketball in these photos; I have big hands.)
This is the single most important point in my profile: my appearance is, by far, the least significant and least interesting thing about me. If the absence of a photograph of my face matters in the slightest to you (and why ever would something so totally unimportant about a man matter to anybody??), rather than complain about it, please exit my profile and look at postings by some other people.
In lieu of a photograph of my face, I have posted a fairly detailed profile here, and I have answered over 400 okcupid questions.
I don't enjoy interacting with technology, but I read about this site and thought that it might be a nice way to meet someone from Pennsylvania or from New York who shares a common interest for a non-romantic and completely non-intimate friendship.
I want to be clear about this: My posting has nothing whatever to do with dating, but I'd like to connect with someone for friendship only--I am absolutely uninterested in romance or in any sort of intimacy. I have lots of smart, interesting male friends, but it's been a while since I had a female friend. It's probably not very likely to happen, but it is my thought that I might be able to make a female friend through okcupid.
I was married for about five years, and I divorced my ex-wife in 2001. I no longer have any financial or other obligations to my ex-wife, and I have no involvement with her, whatever. I don't have any children. I'm quite solvent.
Here's something that I'm not doing with my life: I'm not living vicariously through others. I'm totally uninterested in the lives of entertainers, and I don't even watch professional football, let alone identify with some team or wear clothing associated with a professional sports figure or a sports business. I can't imagine the mentality of a man who wears a shirt bearing the name of some other person.
Apart from problems related to occasional health issues that arise with my Mom, I am very, very in control of my life, and that is of tremendous importance to me.
I've never imposed myself upon women. I've only met women when introduced by mutual friends. Because all women are fanatically and totally uncompromisingly particular about which men are of interest to them, I've always considered it extremely important not to bother, in any fashion, women who do not know me. The wonderful thing about this is that I have been totally able to avoid potentially awkward situations in which a woman might have misinterpreted a genial hello or casual friendliness as an unwelcome advance.
For whatever reason, as time has passed, opportunities to meet women for just friendship, via introduction by people who I know, no longer occur. Hence, this posting.
Music--I like almost any style except for loud rock music. I mostly listen to big band music and jazz, but, lately, I've been enjoying something that I never much liked: doo wop. I love to sing in the shower, and my voice is a baritone and similar to the late Billy Eckstine's. One of my objectives for 2016 is to attend more performances of classical music in Philadelphia and in New York City.
Movies--I mostly watch films made prior to 1970, and I particularly like the classics from the 1930s and 1940s. "The Maltese Falcon" is my favorite movie. When I lived in New York City and in Washington, D. C., in the 1970s and in the early 1980s, I saw hundreds of classic and foreign films.
Books--I attended Ivy League universities, so I've read a lot. These days, I'm mostly reading history and biographies. Lately, I've been reading about the United States in the 1950s, as I'm planning to write a book (it'll be my first) about some aspects of that decade particular to Philadelphia and to New York City.
Shows--I rarely watch television, so I don't have a favorite current TV show. When it was on, I loved "The Wire". I like live theater and attend fairly often in New York City and in Philadelphia.
I'm quite aware that my uninterest in romance, uncompromising focus on my privacy, and absolute refusal to provide a photograph of my face sharply diminishes--for virtually all women, probably to zero--possible interest in my profile. Oh, well.
However, if--for whatever reason--you're curious about anything that I've written, please contact me. I would like to hear from you if you live in Philadelphia, in New York City, or in Philadelphia's Pennsylvania suburbs, because there are lots of interesting things to do in those places. I'll respond promptly to anyone who writes, but I certainly will never initiate contact of any sort with anyone.
I can just imagine that all women on this site are constantly inundated with messages from men seeking casual sex, and I don't want to contribute to an unwelcome barrage of unsolicited communications. Beyond that, I surmise that women are completely uninterested in receiving unsolicited mail from a man whose profile does not include a facial photograph. My supposition is that virtually all women on this site rigorously evaluate a man's photos--very comprehensively and exceptionally carefully, on the basis of tremendously precise criteria--before even considering to read so much as a word of his profile, which, of course, is then subjected to extraordinarily intense and detailed scrutiny of every imaginable sort. As such, I recognize that my posting is very, very unlikely to result in anyone ever writing to me. On the other hand, there's no harm in trying, particularly since I'm simply seeking friendship with a nice woman and have absolutely no interest, whatsoever, in any sort of romance or intimacy.