64Newburgh, United States
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What I’m doing with my life
It has been a long time since I wrote an essay. I'll be honest without being revealing. In return I expect you to be open minded and patient. I will start with work. I work in a group home with mentally handicaped adults. I have been doing this for a few years now and wish I had been in the field all of my life. It is thrilling and sometimes brings me to tears when I see my clients grow and adjust to living an independent life. I have to be their cheerleader,
in a world that can be rude(staring at them in public) and cruel(making remarks and laughing or just turning thier backs on them).
You shold know that my clients work and want to make their own money and work with us in creating goals for themselves. I am not trying to paint a rainbow in the sky. No such thing. There are problems, pressures, and days when I cannot wait to leave. I must live with the fact that there will be folks I and my coworkers cannot help sometimes because we have not been able to be creative enough to find a solution or the client is trapped in his or her own pathology or just plain institutionalised. Taking care of others has made me question my own priorites and helped me accept my own limitations whild at the same time trying to grow to the best of my ability. Sometimes that best is not goog enough for clients, coworkers, managers and administrators but it is my best and I will stand by it good bad or indiferent any day of the week. Why? Because my guys have taught me character and not to give up. I have learned from watching them how frustrating life can be on a daily basis. Very few of them ever give up. They have taught me the value or compassion and character. I work hard on both and still have alot to learn. To me that is as it should be.
I relax by taking walks, driving, sitting in coffee houses or bookstores, meditating, chanting with other Buddhists.And of course a video. I am partial to independent films and movids that challenge me and make me think. I LOVE TO LAUGH! That is how I cope with stress and negativity.
I’m really good at
Empathising with others and listening. I pride myself on my listening skills and constantly check with othrs for feedback on this.
I am someone who wears his heart on his sleve and not afraid to show he is vunerable. I have stand alone spirit(I am not going to follow the crowd or trade my dignity for popularity and creature comfort. No I am not a monk life just works better for me when I am true to myself and honest with others. Choosing places to eat and coffeehouses. I love foof and I am not ashamed of that. Finding out of the way places. There is allways something in the Hudson Valley to se for me for the 1st time. Reaching out to others. I am a people person and will allways give someone the benefit of a doubt. However I am also good at moving on. Not being able to recognise time for change and growth is stagnating and painful. The closest thing to hell on earth I have seen in my lifetime.Being affectionate, I am an incurable romantic. I am also affectionate and sensitive to other's needs. Accepting critisisim as long as it comes from a healthy place. If you ask me to think about it I will.
The first things people usually notice about me
My height, sholders, eyes.
Six things I could never do without
My Computer, Buddhism, Reading, Companionship,Food, Affection!
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Making my life happier and better!
On a typical Friday night I am
At work!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I am sensual and have a kinky sense of humor!
You should message me if
You are seriously looking for a long term one on one relationship without games.
The two of us