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My self-summary
If you "like" me I can see it, I'll view your profile and if I like you back you'll get one of those messages saying we like each other so feel free to start a conversation from there :). Please do read my profile before hitting that star though.

I don't like stagnant, settling for less than awesome or accepting the status quo just because that's the way things have always been.

I want to do awesome things with awesome people. Be that going on adventures, talking ideas for hours, discovering amazing things, random acts of kindness, indulging our senses, playing games or hanging out in a blanket fort telling really crap jokes and eating wine gums.

I'm ethically non-monogamous (emphasis on the "ethically" bit.), sex positive, kinky and a feminist. I'm looking for the same in others that I connect with (kinky isn't essential, but at least GGG is). Definitely don't fuck tories/'kippers etc.

Currently I am not really single, but not in any traditional style relationships either. I'm exploring some amazing connections with wonderful people and not hungry for new people at the moment, but I am not closed off to possibilities either. As none of the lovely sexy people in my life live locally, I'm not interested in anything else long-distance at the moment.
What I’m doing with my life
Doing whatever I can to make the lives of the people I care about that little bit happier.

Trying to improve it. Trying to be a good parent. Reminding myself to find joy in the little things.

Learning how to cook new tasty things.

Hanging out in the hot tub.

chasing butterflies.

Pretending to be shot, angry or blown up on humanitarian and foreign aid training courses.

Helping crochet bricks and grass and other things for a giant woolly wendy house and woolly picnic and other related yarn bombing stuff for charity.

Organising the odd social get together for non-mono folk in Northampton and beyond. https://www.facebook.com/groups/433998870091376/

I also help organise my local munch.

Writing the odd bit of NSFW fiction.

Making slow but steady progress with physiotherapy after a pelvic injury, getting back into swimming and weight lifting. It hurts, but it feels good to be doing it again. The hardest bit is moderating myself as I can be a bit all or nothing with such things sometimes. I have Joint Hypermobility Syndrome.
I’m really good at
Changing my mind, but also being decisive.

Going off on tangents.

Throwing hot tub parties.

Cooking stuff. Fights break out over my lime curd and nobody leaves my house hungry.

Creative swearing.

I also think I am OK at taking pictures.
The first things people usually notice about me
Depends where you meet me I guess. People often notice that I am offering them cake or some other foodstuff and that I have a lot of hair. I take care to make sure it doesn't end up in the cake though.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
In lieu of a proper list have some of my favourite prose instead:

"He who binds to himself a joy
Does the wingéd life destroy;
But he who kisses the joy as it flies
Lives in eternity’s sunrise."

- William Blake

"The cow is of a bovine ilk,
One end moo, the other milk."

- Ogden Nash

“Someone I loved once gave me a box full of darkness. It took me years to understand that this too, was a gift.”
― Mary Oliver

"May the Angel of Wildness disturb the places
Where your life is domesticated and safe,
Take you to the territories of true otherness"

- John O'Donohue

Tastebuds/last.fm : diamondflamer

I don't think listing all the kinds of things that I enjoy consuming really tell you that much about me as taste is such a subjective and individual thing. I'm just as happy consuming a fish finger sandwich with ketchup as I am in a Michelin star restaurant and that applies across music, film, games, shows etc. The most important thing is variety and openness to new experiences. I value that in others too, above what floats their individual boat.

One thing I will share that I discovered recently though is The Get Down on Netflix. Oh my word, it's amazeballs and you need to check it out. Including the soundtrack. DJ Pho has made this awesome mixtape of it for your aural pleasure.. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hNUDiYOv8bE
Six things I could never do without
Independence, laughter, public transport, the internet, insects, reliable contraception.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
So much stuff. All the time. Usually several things at once. I can't switch off or properly relax easily because of this, but it's also fun and has spawned some pretty cool ideas. Also some really bad ones.
On a typical Friday night I am
Out looking for mischief, playing games in the pub or attempting to do something like the grocery shopping online whilst playing a game, watching a film and chatting to someone. I take the multitasking thing a bit far sometimes.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I am non-neurotypical (I think that's the trendy and more PC term for brain wrongs now right?). My brain is amazing, but also a scumbag at times. I do my utmost best to ensure that it doesn't have a negative effect on me or anyone else. I am also very sensitive (not so much in the emotional sense (but I am not made of stone either), but the physical sense) and this, combined with mild synaesthesia, means I experience things quite intensely. It can be annoying sometimes, but also hella fun.
You should message me if
You want to go on a pokedate (I don't care if some people think it's for kids, it's fun!).

You can tell me a really silly or crap joke. You get extra points if it's one I haven't heard before or you made it up yourself. Limericks are also good.

If you can think of something interesting to say about yourself and want to have a decent conversation.

You need a good recipe.

Many of us are here for sex in one form or another (yup, I admit it, I want to get physically deviant with people just as much as the next person), but that doesn't mean I am going to talk to you about it, a total stranger on the internet who isn't paying me for the privilege and is incapable of being respectful and understanding of sex positivity.
The two of us