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My self-summary
Geeky artsy fartsy writerly type.
What I’m doing with my life
I teach a little, toddler wrangle a little more, and write a lot. I have a blog that I'm serious about (though it's not serious about me). I'm on a "Kickstarter advance" to write a novel by summer's end 2017.

Also I deal with a lot of imposter syndrome about stuff like "Kickstarter advances" being a thing in my life.
I’m really good at
I see people. I hear them. I listen. I remember their stories and pick up on their moods. I am present and perceptive. Sometimes I see things people want to hide, but usually I see things people hope someone will notice.
The first things people usually notice about me
This is a sort of funny question for me. People kind of DON'T
notice me at first. I'm quiet. I watch and listen. I take the temperature in a new situation and warm to the room slowly.

Unless we're on Facebook. Then they notice that I post about social justice a lot.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books- Did you say books? I LOVE books! I love Carver, Tepper, Adams, Gaiman, Shakespeare (I'm an English major, so I can say that and not sound pretentious, right? RIGHT????), Poe, Lovecraft, Asprin, Clarke, Bradbury, Asimov, King, Woolf, humorous political commentary books, and meta-writing stuff. I've recently been trying to read as much Vonnegut, Asimov, and LeGuin as I can get my hands on. I'm loving Octavia Butler lately.

Movies- So many. Lately I watch a lot of Pixar movies over and over again because of the kiddo. But I'm also enjoying binge watching Netflix stuff and HBO shows. I was sad to see Carnivalle and Deadwood canceled, but I had a lot of fun with Rome, The Sopranos, and 6 Feet Under was just AMAZING.

Music- If it came from the soundtracks section of the music store, chances are I'll like it. Anything mellow as well like Enya, Erasure, Enigma (all those E's). Also I seem to have a 80's thing, though I think what I really like was all the synthesizer going on. (Maybe I should have put this under "the most private thing I'm willing to admit...") They Might Be Giants, Sting, Cake. But then I also love thumpy stuff with angry Germans who need naps and a hug. And smooth jazz. It's very eclectic, and tends to have more to do with the quality than the particular style.

Food- Yes. (With cheese for even more yes.)
Six things I could never do without
You mean besides things like air, heat, food, shelter, water, and sleep?--because I think if I were starving to death amongst my books, I might re-prioritize my love of moleskine journals life pretty quickly. But let's pretend I've got that stuff covered....

Books (you see what I did there? Slick huh? I suppose if you let me do a shopping spree on my Kindle I could actually say ONE thing, but I actually really like books)

Writing stuff. You wouldn't like me when I'm not writing.

The Internet. I'm pretty much "that guy" about it.

The fam- Love those peeps. Even though there's generally a moving goal post about who is in the fam.

Boundaries. Seriously I tried that. It's ass.

Lotion. My skin is pretty dry and I really only thought of five things.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
A better question--at least a question with a shorter answer--would probably be what DON'T I spend time thinking about. Getting my brain to focus on a thesis for a Shakespeare or Political Science paper is actually a bit of a trial sometimes. I think about everything from how I'd fare in the zombie apocalypse to Shakespeare's uncharacteristically deep villain in Merchant of Venice with Shylock. I think about the linguistic implication of critical race theory. I think about what MMORPG might replace WOW since no others have been deemed worthy and how I'm going to bring in strong symbolism into my next sci-fi story. I think about my work outs and about my lesson plans. I think about if Trogdor the Burninator would win against the dude from V for Vendetta (he totally would). I think...a lot. Probably too much, most of the time.
On a typical Friday night I am
Rolling polyhedrons to determine the outcome of simulated, imaginary combat of a group of antisocial cutthroat heroes in their quest to overcome the forces of evil that is overtaking the land. (Lately "the land" is more like "the galaxy" since I'm trying to liberate a galaxy far far away from a bunch of punk ass, red-light-saber-wielding jerks.) That or writing...probably about many of the same sorts of things. Or maybe falling asleep at 9 because running around after 2 year olds isn't easy.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I stood in the Temple at Burning Man in 2002 and for the better part of three hours I read just about all the little "confessions" that people wanted burned. I discovered that no one is sure of themselves. Everyone is a little ball of doubt, and wants to believe they are better than they fear they might be. No one is sure they're doing the right thing with their life, and feels like their faking it most of the time. And everyone who loses someone curses the fact that they didn't better use the precious little time they had. And knowing that I wasn't alone in all those feelings was just about the most comforting thing that ever happened to me. We're all just faking it with class and"falling with style." And even though it seems like I'm the only one who hasn't managed to figure out the answers, I'm really not. I read all that and got some serious dust in my eye about what tragically, comically flawed little giants we are.
You should message me if
...you understand what poly is and maybe even have some experience with it! And you can use the word "privilege" in a sentence that doesn't involve denying that you have it.

It might be useful as well to understand that I have three jobs (one of which is caring for a child who I adore) and no overabundance of free time. Sometimes the soul is wiling but the schedule is weak. If you're looking for a three times a week thing to start, I'm not your guy.

Also, please be okay with seeing what clicks and what doesn't instead of bringing a cookie-cutter mold to a second or third date that exactly matches the hole you feel like you have in your life and seeing if I can be poured into it. I'm fine see what happens with no limitations on the size or the scope but being groomed for a "role" will lead to a Chris-shaped hole in the wall before you even realize that the Chris (that's me) you're still talking to is a dissipating puff of smoke.
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