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My self-summary
Quiet, contemplative, nerdy. Somewhat queer.

I've spent a lot of time writing software, teaching physics, playing poker, playing piano, and traveling.
What I’m doing with my life
- working on software connecting small businesses and their clients. I feel like I save other people time, so I feel like my work is fulfilling.
- playing piano, playing go and hiking.
- having one on one conversations that make me feel connected to a few people I like.
I’m really good at
- quickly solving high school math problems
- not taking unfair advantage of people
- maintaining long-distance relationships, particularly over writing
- getting emotionally rich experiences out of life
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
- Catch-22
- The Little Prince
- Dispossessed

I watch almost none. Inside Out was pretty good. So was Lord of The Rings.

- A lot of piano music. Adagio from Mozart's Piano Concerto 23, Chopin's Prelude in D Minor, opening of Rachmaninoff's 2nd piano concerto, etc.
- Things that have meaningful lyrics and are easy to sing to, somewhat biased towards female vocalists: Dar Williams, Vienna Teng, Girlyman

- Approximately everything, with as much diversity as possible. If I had to pick one food, right now it'd be poached eggs.
The six things I could never do without
Essential: food, antihistamines, clothing, sleeping bag, laptop, and either a backpack to carry these or a room to put them in.

Highly desirable: thermarest/mattress, sheets, towel, piano, smartphone, coffee, leatherman, flashlight, toothbrush+toothpaste+soap+shampoo
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Whether I'm doing as much for people as they're doing for me.
What my ideal living situation might be like, and how I might find/make it.
On a typical Friday night I am
50%: playing piano/go
30%: writing a letter to a friend
20%: working
20%: getting dinner with a friend
20%: on a plane to go see a friend
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm pretty good at lying. A sample of things I've lied about:
- I've mentioned to an interviewer that I went to Alaska for a month while I actually was only there for ten days. I perceived my experience in Alaska as Very Important and I wanted him to perceive it this way, too.
- I've told my mom that I didn't have a job. I was pretty seriously thinking of quitting this job, and I didn't want her to judge me on that
- I've lied multiple times about e.g. what I did on the weekend. I didn't want to be judged for being a hermit.

I don't think I lie maliciously or with particularly negative consequences for anyone. But I'm not entirely sure.

I have anxiety. It's not crippling, but it's a notable part of my life. There are some circumstances I really just avoid for health reasons, e.g. loud bars. In general, my socialization tends to be strongly biased towards one on one interactions.
You should message me if
Here are some examples of people I'd want to meet:
-a hiking/backpacking/cycling/hitchhiking/couchsurfing/etc friend -- my job is more important to me than getting away at the moment, but it will not always be this way and there are still weekends/vacations.
-someone(s) to play classical music with. I play piano -- I can stumble my way through a solid chunk of classical repertoire given sufficient practice but I'm not conservatory level or anything
-someone(s) to live with. This is a very long term pursuit and much pickier than the other two. I appreciate semi-communal living and a desire for long term stability. Other than that we just really have to befriend each other quite well.

But you can also find your own self-shaped hole :). In fact I might prefer that, since it means you've diversified my perspective.

I'm polyamorous. My specific flavor of polyamory involves:
- Relationship anarchy. I don't draw primary/secondary distinctions. I don't even draw friend/date distinctions. I try to learn how the two of us can most increase each other's happiness and then do that. I'm moderately compatible with other polyamory modes.
- Relatively large amounts of commitment. It's a lot of work to get to know someone deeply, so I'd rather not do this very often. I'm mostly interested in meeting people who I will potentially talk to one on one for at least 200 hours over our lifetimes.