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My self-summary
I don't put other people into conveniently labeled little boxes so I think I will skip doing that to myself for the moment!
I am a radical feminist with a keen nose for any hint of creeping patriarchy, the silent killer. That said, I am also a yogi who believes that anger is an acid that does much more damage to the container holding it than to anything it is poured on.
I try not to start grasping.
Even to the idea of putting down or letting go.
And there is one thing I know
That is that I
Will never reply
If you fill in none of the detail
Required for this kind of retail
Dating where the only shot I have
At any advantage
When a co-operator is faced with
The competitive nature
Of those sporting the y chromosome
Is if I have the advantage
Of forethought in our interaction
So no pics and not stats?
I say absolutely no to that.

And yes, the above is aimed at cis men specifically. If that is problematic for you, look elsewhere. And skip the lecture about what a sexist I am and how you too are oppressed. I am very tired of manspaining that gets into why how I feel is not valid. I don't really care to hear why I am wrong. And I will just block you.

Women get a total pass to do whatever they want with their profiles and I feel no need whatsoever to dictate what that is when what makes me feel uncomfortable has everything to do with power imbalances and from where I sit, that has generally been an issue I have only with men. Sorry not sorry.

Additionally? If your profile says something like "no drama" I will laugh my ass off and never reply. Cause you are not LIVING your life, you are existing in it. Barely.
What I’m doing with my life
Currently cooking at a busy wine bar, writing lots of poetry and wandering around the paths in my new neighborhood with my dog... and looking pretty actively for a partner. My cat and dog are wonderful! And also fail at snuggles. And at conversation. And at hand-holding (neither has hands). And most places don't let them come in...
I’m really good at
Connecting with people so they feel valued for their humanity, even if they are strangers. I like to listen to people telling the stories that shape who they are and how they see the world.

I am an excellent teacher of all things food, from production to presentation.

Looking much better than I appear in photos, I have recently realized.
The first things people usually notice about me
Physically? My eyes.

And I suffer from resting confrontational voice...
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I read A LOT. Urban fantasy, sci-fi, speculative fiction, biography, philosophy, cookbooks, literary journals. I am intrigued by all of the ways there are to be a human experiencing a corporeal existence on this big blue ball. I have never had cable, but I like movies. I read enough that I don't spend much time on them. I really enjoy good, semi-professional live theater, so living in the Berkshires was a treat. I love to cook, always have, and have a great fondness for homemade food. I also think that everything tastes best when it's made with focus and attention by someone else! I am a huge Ani Difranco fan and have been known to quip that there are times that I feel like she has written the soundtrack of my life, as absolutely dorky as that sounds. I should probably mention here that I love slam poetry and most other forms of spoken word. Music is generally really important to me and I think that " if it sounds good it is good" in the words of Duke Ellington. I listen to a pretty broad range of styles from funk to bluegrass to hiphop to jazz to punk. I am a sucker for a good lyric set over a funky dance beat. Lords of Acid and Balkan Beat Box are at the top of the list for the moment.
I disappear from the world for the month of April, annually, to write poetry.
Six things I could never do without
The six things I could never do without? I try really hard not to be too attached to any things!
I truly think there is nothing I can't do without.

And that is not to say my kids and my critters are not important, I just don't think of them as things.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Whether a relationship that is full of kindness AND kink is simply too paradoxical for this life.
What is the question, since the answer is 42.
When I will be hungry again.
How far I will run next week.
Who the fuck am I?
On a typical Friday night I am
Reading a book or dancing my ass off!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I am not very private... So ask me something and I will let ya know!

I think I find it difficult to come to orgasm with another person paying attention to the fact that I am. It's a stretch to even type this. Lol
You should message me if
My so far profile doesn't make you want to run screaming... Or maybe if it does! Hah! But really if you are into live music, a good conversation, going out for a coffee, taking a walk or a hike, catching a movie, whatever. And especially if you are curious about life, the universe and everything. And you would enjoy an exercise in restraint.
The two of us