djozsef
36 Budapest, Hungary
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My self-summary
I'm ethnically German/Jewish/Hungarian (typical Eastern European mixture), grew up in Hungary, spent some years in the US, now I'm studying at a Swedish university over the Net, so I guess I'm kinda international, haha.

I'm a software engineer, a left-wing thinker, a free spirit, an ex-Wiccan (not that I have anything against Wiccans), an ex-goth, a believer in love at first sight, a quick reader, a wannabe polymath, and some other stuff. ;)

I have markedly feminine traits (partly as I learned most of my assertiveness from my awesome mom), and am quite outspoken about feminism, gender awareness and LGBTQ rights. I have a weird bias against people who ever verbally express a dislike of cats. A strange prejudice, but usually I was proven right.

I can also be awkward, have temporary slumps of self-worth and depressive spells, but I guess the overall sum is positive... At least I like to believe so. :P
What I’m doing with my life
I've recently left a mid-level technical decisionmaker position at a financial data/software firm on Wall Street, due to excessive burnout. Moved back to Europe and started a MSc program in information security.

I'm a work in progress, by all means. After spending approximately 5 years on becoming a professional by wide society standards (a success btw, I got transferred out to New York after all, and worked in highly responsible technical jobs), now it's time to become a success on my own terms. As for what that means, I'm very much freedom-oriented, and these years in regular 9 to 5 jobs taught me that this life isn't for me. The more freedom I have, the more successful I feel. Being a student again was fun but it's about time I started doing something creative now.

In New York I have decided to learn to sail on a carpe diem move, and ended up joining a local sailing club. It was awesome, I meeting all the people, and being on the water felt great. Now I'm in a landlocked city, lol, but I want a lot more of this sort of thing. Maybe learn to fly next. :)

There's a lot in my background I'm working to get back to. Like lucid dreaming and meditation, writing, lots of callisthenics and serious cycling practice, and am kind of struggling with re-adjusting to a primal / paleo lifestyle. I was kind of paleo before I knew paleo existed, and I felt absolutely awesome around that time... (Note that I do NOT have acute grain phobia, but I try to cut down on carbs and prefer meat without a side, or with greens only.) I guess I should also practice more on the piano.
I’m really good at
Analysing complex problems and coming up with simple solutions.
The first things people usually notice about me
That I look a lot younger than I am.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Well... When there is too much of something, it's hard to gather examples.

Here's a list of newspapers and magazines I'm subscribed to (digitally), it gives a good overview of me I think: Financial Times, Wall Street Journal, Wired, GQ, Rolling Stone, Dazed and Confused, New Left Review.

For books, I love the novels of William Gibson, got exhilarated and cried on Raw Shark Texts, I absolutely love folktales and legends in unadulterated form, read most of Poe and all of Lovecraft as a teenager, have a slight snobby disdain for Pratchett and Douglas Adams (nothing too serious though), I got captivated by Sorokin's Ice, but nowadays a fair share of the reading I do is of the learning / techincal sort... :)

If you also see some faint line of connection between Raw Shark Texts, Mateusz Skutnik's Submachine, FEZ (the game), Bryan Lee'O Malley's Scott Pilgrim (the comic book not the movie) and Lost at Sea, then I guess we should talk. :P

I rarely watch TV, like absurd cartoons and traditional mystery dramas like Poirot the most, but am quite open to new things. :) As cartoons go, I'm quite picky. I like weird, arty stuff like Adventure Time or Samurai Jack, and messed up insanity like Gintama or Rick and Morty. I dislike Simpsons-knockoff "ironic socially critical cartoons" like American Dad or Bob's Burgers.

I love Wes Anderson films, even though they usually make me a little melancholic. :)
The six things I could never do without
Human affection. (Being touched, and touching someone. Sexually or otherwise.)
A handheld shower. (How do most New Yorkers get by without it?!)
View of the sky.
Thinking about deep stuff.
My family.
Stuff to read.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
...how to create something that will make people's life better. Also what that something should be.
...why old Star Trek episodes vary so much in their quality of writing. Some are ingenious, some are ludicrous...
...how we could fix society and commerce, end or at least curb exploitation and poverty, and reach a solution of human freedom, sustainability and peace.
...what kind of office culture I want to create in the startup I'll kick off a few years into the future.
...which country I want to make a life in.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I often fantasize about having a wedding where my partner and I will be wearing the same sort of clothes. :P Two tuxes would be nice, but I'd totally go with two dresses if they insisted.
You should message me if
I'm looking for the most important person in my life. If I meet some awesome loose acquaintances in the process, all the better of course.

...if I can be the little spoon. ;3
...if you could relate to what I'm doing with my life. ;)
...if you're a left-wing person who is also entrepreneurial.
...if you want to live in many places for a few years at a time.
...if you're just as scared as I am of becoming a regular, boring person with a long-term soulsucking job, a house, two kids and a dog, and growing old without enjoying life. I don't want that. I do want kids, maybe dogs and cats, living in several houses around the world, but none of the boring family sitcom stuff that most people imagine. I want to live an awesome life, and need someone who wants that too.
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