So....I met the most incredible person on here four weeks ago and haven't revisited the site since. Figured I'd do a quick update and status change, for what it's worth.
I'm a cheerfully melancholy, hyperactive slug. I am a misanthrope who adores people. I'm a homebody who goes out every chance he gets. I'm quite book smart but somewhat retarded. People come to me instinctively as a peacemaker or deal broker and it occasionally makes me want to fight with them.
My knowledge base tends to be broad but shallow. However, if I take an interest in something, I devour it. I'm an autodidact by nature, so I'm always poking my nose in something new.
I enjoy my own company but have a lot of people with whom I'm friendly. I'm one of those 'you're so easy to talk to' people. I have something about me that allows complete strangers to feel perfectly comfortable telling me wildly inappropriate and/or embarrassing details. Happens constantly.
Although trained in audio production and considering myself a 'musician', I play guitar horribly and keyboards poorly. I recently fell in love with my bass and bash it constantly. I tried teaching myself drums and need to work more on vocals - maybe I need a real music teacher. I sing more than I probably should but I enjoy it a lot.
I have been known to write poems, songs, short stories, screenplays, comics and novels, but I haven't been great about finishing things. I'm a major geek for comics, movies, good tv shows, books of all kinds, history, documentaries and music.
I am inquisitive, tenacious, and authentic.
My personality type is pretty consistently ENFJ- The Teacher, if that matters.
How others see me:
My last lover G described me as, "tender, consistant, reassuring, intense, and snuggly". My ex-lover M described me as simply "beautiful" (her emphasis). Back when we were dating, my friend A said, "you seduced me with your intellect". My friend B told me I was, "full of love and kindness - totally punk rock". Is it bragging if I tell you my friends think I'm teh shit?
I have some incredible real life friends on OKC I'd like to introduce: le_barista, my ex-lover, one of my best friends, and a huge musical inspiration; HeadyChic02, my personal candidate for most amazing person ever; and Muffin_Elf, my shoulder to lean on + favorite smart ass. I love you guys.
Having a ball when I'm not working my ass off (and sometimes when I am). I've finally found an excellent musical collaborator but am seeking others. Many of the sounds I'm hearing in my head are going to require female energy, so I'd love to hear from women who play and/or sing.
Trying to figure out whether to concentrate on work, work + school, or just school. Waiting to hear back from my dream job. Wondering what I'd do if the dust actually settled for a second.
I'm doing the dating thing and meeting some great people but thus far most of them are falling into the friend category. That's fine, but I'm hoping to meet somebody who knocks my fucking socks off. My friend HeadyChic02 says I'm looking for, "love, acceptance, companionship, stability, and passion". I wrote my thoughts on this subject recently in my OKC Journal - take a look if you are curious.
After doing a lot of dating the last couple of months, I'm in the process of re-evaluating *everything*. I am not sure what that means right now, but I will no doubt end up writing an overlong journal entry about it any day now.
**End Update June 2011**
I want to meet and befriend as many worthy people as I possibly can. People energy is a good thing.
I'm planning to create a transportation device which will allow me to move through time and space. My reasons are: (1) more snuggles and (2) killing the person who created Auto-Tune.
If you like the beat or melody or style or lyric of a particular song, I will inevitably make you listen to another song that either influenced it or was influenced by it or has a similar origin. I'm not sure that counts as 'I'm good at' or if that's more 'I'm annoying because'. I'm pretty sure I scared somebody once by playing her approximately 100 murder ballads in a row.
I'm great at reeling off historical information from the top of my head - especially about music and film - to put something in a conversation into context. I'm good at showing the bigger picture of something rather than leaving it referenced as an isolated event/item. If you bring up the Talking Heads, for instance, be prepared to hear about the Rhode Island School of Design, art school in general as a breeding ground for budding musicians, the New York 'punk' scene, CBGBs, Fela Kuti, The Modern Lovers, Tom Tom Club, Brian Eno, Roxy Music and Radiohead.
I do amazingly well at standardized tests, scoring in the 99th percentiles on both the ACT and SAT. However, I lost my National Merit Scholarship through a combination of inebriation, class ditching, and terrorism against school property. Ask me how and I'll tell you about getting caught with home made napalm.
Friends tell me I'm good at conversing (talking & listening), giving massages, dissecting music, and putting people at ease. I've been told I'm an "amazing storyteller" and should "do voice-over work". Cool.
Movies - 12 Monkeys, Blue Velvet, Serenity, Mulholland Dr., Wild at Heart, Seven, Fight Club, A Clockwork Orange, Full Metal Jacket, The Godfather I and II, Brazil, Once Upon a Time in America, Lost Highway, The Year My Voice Broke, Flirting, Sin City, Spun, City of Lost Children, Pan's Labyrinth, Alien, Aliens, Annie Hall, Manhattan, Zelig, Purple Rose of Cairo.
Television - A Game of Thrones, Buffy the Vampire Slayer, Veronica Mars, Angel, Firefly, X-Files, Farscape, Battlestar Galactica, Deadwood, Dead Like Me, My So Called Life, True Blood (before it jumped the shark), Caprica, Twin Peaks, South Park, Simpsons, Futurama, Invader Zim.
Books (authors) - Cormac McCarthy, Jack Kerouac, Norman Mailer, Donna Tartt, Anne Rice, Stephen King (for storytelling, not writing), Clive Barker, Martin Amis, James Ellroy, JRR Tolkien, Denis Johnson, Henry Miller, Michael Moorcock, Neil Gaiman, Guy Gavriel Kay, Chuck Palahniuk, Vladimir Nabokov, Paul Auster, Bret Easton Ellis, Milan Kundera, Ivan Klima, Lynn Breedlove, Alison Bechdel.
Food - anything really, though I try to utilize it mainly as a necessary survival fuel. If you're unsure of what to feed me, just shove Odwalla Bars & bananas in my face.
And I'm starting to believe I cannot live without tattoo needles.
I'm discovering more and more that kissing and cuddling are immensely important to me. I'm way into actual fucking but I'd make out/spoon all night every night if I could. Well, I'd probably take breaks occasionally. I keep meeting people who don't like one or the other and it kind of horrifies me. In my opinion, it's in the same league as not liking music - incomprehensible. I guess these count as 'human contact' but I thought I'd elaborate since I'm so into them.
Is Martin Gore of Depeche Mode the most loyal friend ever or just really insecure? Listen to DM demos and tell me why he needs Dave Gahan (vocalist) in the band. Not that I don't like Dave, because I do.
The fact that revolutionaries invariably become the thing they rebelled against.
Why I find cute much more appealing than gorgeous. That being said, I have had some stunningly beautiful lovers.
Why it's so hard to find people who want to make music for the joy of playing and creating and not because it's hip, will get them laid, and/or allows them to be irresponsible fuck ups.
How to make you squirm with pleasure and quiver in anticipation.
I'm a huge visual slut and tend to say 'ooh pretty' a lot. I don't make inappropriate comments or suggestions, just kind of rubberneck a bit.
I'll try anything once. Anything. But for every part of me that is an envelope pusher, another part is a sappy cuddle-monkey.
I've been told by more than one woman that I "fuck like a dyke". You can decide what that means.
I smell everything. I have a super-sensitive nose. It gets me in trouble but I can't change it. Various scents, both good and bad, will drive me off a bus or out of a room. Others will cause me to follow unlikely people around like a puppy.
I do not have a type. A thumbnail of recent love interests includes: tiny 'Halfrican-American' goth, lanky Italian-Polish crust punk, curvy Chaldean granola, & extra fit Puerto Rican-Mexican personal trainer. I do like girls with glasses, and am very tattoo/piercing friendly but these are not required. I am frequently smitten by baby dykes and bois because they are often so...fucking...cute. Finally, personality goes a long way with me, as does chemistry.
A favorite date I had lasted approximately 10 hours and consisted of walking, talking non-stop and sitting on occasion. It was a blast.
You aren't afraid of allowing yourself to feel things. I meet many, many people who are so worried about getting hurt or making mistakes that they don't act on their feelings. I'd much rather be genuine, vulnerable, open and honest than over cautious or jaded. I hope you are of a similar bent.
You are actually willing to meet IRL within a reasonable amount of time if we are hitting it off online. The internet is a great tool, but chemistry is something that happens face to face.