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My self-summary
Liberal, open-minded, jazzy, well-traveled, outdoorsy and adventurous, but dependable, reasonable, patient, kind and attentive. Looking for the same.
What I’m doing with my life
I have a great job that involves trying to prevent and stop wars, and thinking about better ways of doing so. I get paid to travel around the world! (But most of my time is in DC.) In spare time, I'm finding good live jazz to listen to, hiking in beautiful places, visiting vineyards to try the wine, cooking as I make up the recipe, and watching independent and foreign films.
I’m really good at
Spotting wildlife and wildflowers
Making people laugh at staff meetings
Playing frisbee
Roughhousing with large dogs
Natural light photography
Portraits in pencil
Spontaneity (my word for suggesting a weekend outing on Friday at 3 pm)
Taking my time (sometimes this might seem like procrastination)
Thinking outside the box
Understanding different points of view
Finding the right words
Public speaking
Being there when it matters
Creative gifts and unusual gift-wrapping
Cooking on a fire, and sometimes in a more civilized manner
Singing in the shower (and occasionally other venues)
The first things people usually notice about me
I have no idea, but here are some not so obvious attributes that might be helpful to know ;)
* I make my own furniture.
* I lived three years in a 1951 travel trailer with birch interior and an outside shower I accessed through the window behind my desk. I miss it.
* I used to lead search and rescue missions.
* I bake stollen at Christmas, and sometimes mail some to friends.
* I spent some time in jail in Kosovo because Milosevic didn't like what I was doing.
* Other people's young children and pets tend to adore me. Adore. To an uncanny degree that defies explanation.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: I own hundreds, but mostly poli sci and sociology. (Some nerdy favorites? Putnam - Making Democracy Work, Lederach - Building Sustainable Peace, Gidron et al - Mobilizing for Peace, Varshney - Ethnic Conflict and Civic Life, Verba et al - Voice and Equality) I must confess that I read so much for work in grad school and college (which was engineering) that I fell out of practice of reading for fun, but I'm getting back into it with Bryson's A Walk in the Woods and a series of fantasy novels written by my best friend. I read Tolkien's The Hobbit and The Lord of the Rings about nine times as a kid. I have ambitions of reading some Jane Austin, since I have an odd (for a guy) penchant for enjoying movies based on her books.

Movies: A far from complete list of favorites, in no particular order... The Mission, Matewan, A River Runs Through It, Aliens, Star Wars etc, Kieslowski's Red, White, Blue trilogy, Fire, Earth, Water, Eternal Sunshine of a Spotless Mind, Lars and the Real Girl, Life is Beautiful, Swing Kids, A Beautiful Mind, Master and Commander, Gladiator, Good Night and Good Luck, Cold Mountain, A Love Song for Bobby Long, Amistad, Raiders of the Lost Ark, Blade Runner, The Incredibles, The Triplets of Belleville, The Wind that Shakes the Barley, L.A. Confidential, American Beauty, Magnolia, Lost in Translation, Sex and Lucia, Joyeux Noel, Monty Python and the Holy Grail, Heat, No Man's Land, Goodbye Lenin, The Lives of Others, A Short Film about Killing, Hotel Rwanda, Hunt for Red October, An Inconvenient Truth, Ken Burns' Civil War, Ken Burns' Jazz, Brazil, Das Boot, Dances with Wolves, Last of the Mohicans, Blues Brothers, A Fish Called Wanda, Cast Away, Peacemaker, Platoon, Fiddler on the Roof, Ben Hur, Masada, Much Ado About Nothing (Brannagh/Thompson), Henry V (Brannagh/Thompson), Shakespeare in Love, Sunshine, The English Patient, Sense and Sensibility (Thompson/Winslet), Becoming Jane, the earlier Harry Potters, Lord of the Rings trilogy, Sin City, Pulp Fiction, Sunshine Cleaning, Bagdad Cafe, O Brother Where Art Thou, Rob Roy, Pan's Labyrinth ...

Music: Jazz! By which I principally mean the type that reaches down the throat of your soul and tickles the gravelly underbelly of the beast in your dreams until it giggles, wishes you a good night and kisses you on the cheek. I've encountered this phenomenon in the Dixieland, Big Band/Swing, Gypsy, Straight Ahead, Bebop, Hard Bop, Modal, Latin, and even Fusion varieties (but NOT the "smooth jazz" nonsense). For instance, The Feeling of Jazz by Dianne Reeves and the Wynton Marsalis Quartet, Wynton and co.'s treatment of Sing On or Big Lip Blues, Django Reinhardt's Minor Swing, Gershwin's Summertime done by just about anybody, Cannonball Adderly's Dancing in the Dark, Herbie Hancock's Cantaloupe Island or Watermelon Man (but also check out Pancho Sanchez's version), Pancho Sanchez's version of Bésame Mama, Cold Duck Time or just about anything, Mr. Zoot Suit by the Flying Neutrinos, Stitched Up with Jon Mayer helping out Herbie Hancock... Oh why did I even start? This could go on for pages, and still not get to the quieter types that just charm the beast or soothe it to sleep. Locally, I'm a fervent fan of the Bohemian Caverns Jazz Orchestra.

It's not only jazz, though - I also enjoy classical (Dvorak especially), folk, blues, rock, etc. Kind of missed out on the indie scene, but I'm beginning to explore it. I like my music complex and meaningful, and generally not morose or angry. Not a rap fan.
Six things I could never do without
Mountain streams, and other kinds of natural beauty (maybe including you?)
Jazz, and other music that stirs the soul
Variety of food*, information, and weather**
Close friends

*I like Ethiopian food, but found a month of eating nothing else a bit much.
**Grad school in southern CA taught me how much I appreciate rain... and seasons. I grew up in VA and I'm happy to be back!
I spend a lot of time thinking about
▪ Why people are fighting and how best to help them find a more constructive path.
▪ The best way to organize and express thoughts - I'm good at it, but it can take time. It's a significant part of my work, but also how I relate to others in general. It's why deep conversations with me may involve some pregnant pauses followed by bursts of articulation.
▪ Finding a reasonable balance between hearing good live music and other necessities.
▪ Places to go hiking or travelling and who would come with me.
▪ Whom I should invite over for dinner.
▪ Correcting my mysterious failure to find the quite the right woman at quite the right time. (Now would be a good time...)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I don't own a TV. On purpose! I even have a t-shirt with a picture of a TV that says "Think outside the box." This started in college, when I wanted to avoid the temptation to sink into the couch watching meaningless fluff instead of doing my work or some more fulfilling form of entertainment, preferably involving interaction with real people (have you read Bowling Alone?). I also detest the commercialism. I've picked up some of the more interesting stuff, such as "The West Wing" via DVD or the internet. I will admit to having watched the entire new "Battlestar Gallactica" series, and even worse, the self-consciously bad sci-fi "Farscape" series, via Netflix. (To me, this is a bit embarrassing. I have such a hunger for good sci-fi that I'll watch anything, it seems.)
You should message me if
You're an intelligent, liberal and open-minded individual who thinks for herself and isn't afraid of a deep conversation. You are adventurous and fun in moderately unconventional ways. Your good sense of humor enables you to laugh at yourself and doesn't involve hurting others. You love nature and being outdoors. You're gentle, patient, graceful, generous and genuinely caring towards others, but capable of taking a firm stand when it matters. Honesty, with compassion, comes naturally to you, and you bring out the best in others. You're interested in making a positive difference in the world, but not unrealistic about it. You keep yourself fit and healthy (including not smoking), but without being manic about it. You're comfortable with being who you are naturally, without a lot of artificial alterations.
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