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My self-summary
I chose to become an ER nurse not "to help people" - as l realize that for the most part people cannot be helped - but rather because I enjoy working WITH people. I didn't have any outstanding skills or talents growing up but I didn't want to spend my life as a confused troubled artist or a low-paid barista and depend on others for survival. ER nursing is highly-skilled shift work that is challenging and dynamic yet I don't need to commit 100% of my time and energy which allows me to enjoy other aspects of life. Hence, I don't want to deal with people who are not applying themselves yet I don't want to date someone who is completely immersed in work and cannot separate their identity from their work title. Creating a balanced life is a very healthy approach yet life is known to be unpredictable which is the tragey and the beauty of it. Hopefully, you get what I'm talking about.

Here is a lovely quote: "Balance needed for a happy life is illusory -- and as soon as in our gorgeously flawed human mind we think we've attained it -- we are pretending divinity; and we’re going to crash, like Icarus, flaming into the sea."
What I’m doing with my life
I'm at a point in my life where I'm looking to settle down and start a family. Sadly, due to the ongoing parenting crisis, only about 8.5% of population are adequate, mature adults that are able to form and sustain a functional relationship. Maybe you're one of them?
I’m really good at
• cooking
• organizing
• interior design
• floral arrangements
• wrapping gifts

Understanding people
Heartfelt conversations
The first things people usually notice about me
that's an owl you perv!
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
TV: Breaking Bad, House (bye!!), Scandal, Spartacus, Portlandia, Dragon's Den, Downton Abbey, Masterchef, SNL, Layover, Dexter, The Taste; Kill Bill, Django Unchained, Amador, Drive, Babel, The Perks or Being A Wallflower, Crash, The House of Sand & Fog, In the Mood for Love, Pay It Forward, Little Miss Sunshine, The Visitor, The Intouchables, World Trade Center, El Bulli, Which Way Home, Punch Drunk Love, Syriana, Fight Club, Requiem for a Dream, Burnt by the Sun, Wedding Crashes, The Campaign, Ides of March... everything by Tarkovsky.

Food: I love seafood and cheese.
French, Korean, Brazilian, Japanese, Middle Eastern, Spanish, Cajun cuisines.. craft beer, pinot noir and whiskey.
Some places I'm overdue to try: Avec, The Publican, Nightwood, Belly Shack, Fish Bar.

Music: Adele, John Legend, Corinne Bailey Ray, Beyonce, Nina Simone, Mariza, Erykah Badu, Ella Fitzgerald, Bob Marley, Jamar Rogers, Amy Winehouse, Cee Lo, Rihanna, Mumford & Sons, Toubab Krewe, Maroon 5, Jeff Tweedy, JC Brooks & the Uptown Sounds, Talib Kweli, Lucero, Portishead, Manu Chao, William Elliott Whitmore, Buena Vista Social Club, Sade ... any good vocalist and soul singer; live music: gospel, opera, jazz, reggae... Chopin & Rachmaninoff

Cool song from Breaking Bad
You are welcome.

Favorite book: A Confederacy of Dunces.

Fave authors: Dostoevsky being my favorite, followed by Chekhov, Gogol, Atul Gawande, Khaled Hosseini, Arundhati Roy, Yukio Mishima, Pelevin, Sartre, Nabokov, Saint-Exupery, Ram Dass all kinds of philosophy ... I used to read a ton but now I have ADHD.
The six things I could never do without
❤ eating & drinking 🍒
❤ arts & literature 🎭
❤ uncovering different truths about life 💭
❤ learning, growing, changing🌱
❤ therapeutic communication 💑
❤ traveling 🌝
I spend a lot of time thinking about
why do people walk from car to car on CTA
good and bad parenting
various social issues
hipsters and their outfits
life in different states/countries
salted caramel macaroons
how greed and big corporations fucked up industries like healthcare
why are some people so full of shit
why do people abuse and mistreat others
why bulldogs are so adorable
how to be positive and reach my potential
how to be liked by The Universe so it would give me sweet things like marshmallows and cash
how to stop sliding off the stripper pole (get a grip?)
what makes men with beards so attractive (beards?)
how come male chefs are so hot
why do I love engineers, architects, professors and therapists so much
how to handle a pediatric emergency w/o peeing my pants
would Jesus really take the wheel. you tell me.
On a typical Friday night I am
Ain't nobody got time for that!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I have an accent and I don't like speaking English.
You should message me if
I have a lot to offer. Contact me if you:
- have some depth to your character
- are a sensible human being
- are affectionate and loving
- are old school and well-mannered
~ basically want to grab a drink and talk about life

Bonus points if:
- you check yourself out in the mirror and think, "goddamn"
- you wear colorful fuzzy socks
- your ties smell like fancy bourbon

Seriously though, please be able to experience emotions and GIVE. I'd rather date a double arm amputee than someone who is devoid of compassion or feeling.

Here goes another one: "Extending one's capacity to love is a skill that one needs to learn, just as one develops any other expertise."