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My self-summary
I tend toward simplicity to make room for the inevitably complex.

I am not squeamish.

I'm judgmental but not unkind.

Literacy and social justice are important to me.

I'm happiest when I have creative space.

Bi/homo/trans/xeno-phobia hurts me, even though I experience privilege in some of these areas.

Give me rocks and trees and dirt and water and open spaces and you've got a very happy human.

I can be very silly. Like, scatological humor silly. Also puns.

I'm a bit of a smartypants know-it-all. Neener neener neener!

Most days I like to do things as opposed to talking about doing things.

I'm an introvert with an extrovert streak.

"I am the master of my fate, I am the captain of my soul" and also, like, have a good time and fill your life with the experience of being fully human!
What I’m doing with my life
You know. Having fun. Making peace. Writing and (occasionally) performing poetry. Taking care of myself via singing and moving joyfully every day and eating well. In the summer I used to lead canoe expeditions in backcountry Canada, which I miss. My employments situation is quickly changing, if you want to know more, just ask. I'm a graduate student of conflict resolution, and interested in restorative justice in the juvenile system.
I’m really good at
Being kind. Sarcasm. Working with kids. Listening. Intuiting things about people's personalities. Communicating. Problem solving.Leading back-countrycanoe expeditions. Doing laundry. Singing silly phone-messages.
The first things people usually notice about me
The fact that I am there.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
*I pretty much never read this section of anyone's profile, let that guide your perusal.*

I can't recall the last time I tried a food I didn't like. Nope, that's a lie, I tried marmite again recently to confirm that it is still revolting. It is. I have yet to discover a cuisine I dislike. Takeaway: food? YES!!

I've been on a classical kick lately. Such expressive sounds!!!
The rest of the time: I probably haven't heard of it, but I'll probably dig it (unless it is gratuitously violent to my eardrums). I like almost all accoustic/folk tending alternative rock with lead singers that sound like nerdy boys. (Think Neutral Milk Hotel, the Decemberists, R.E.M.)
I also like oldies. Takeaway: Music? Yep!

There are many I have enjoyed, in general I enjoy films that are visually or conceptually remarkable in some way. Or feel-good, or silly but not stupid. Also: live theater.

A drop in the bucket of books I've enjoyed: Maus, Persepolis, The Ethical Slut, Harry Potter, Adios Barbie, The Tao of Pooh, The Bluest Eye, Musicophilia, Listen Up, Corelli's Mandolin, Fire and Ink, Their Eyes Were Watching God, things by Sherman Alexi, Alice Walker, William Stafford, Brene Brown, and Mary Oliver.
The six things I could never do without
feeling grateful
my body
a journal and a writing implement
a natural water source
physical contact

Six things I would really like to do without:
irresponsible penis owners
bigots of all stripes
institutional oppression
internalized oppression
processed sugar
I spend a lot of time thinking about
An expanding definition of social justice, changing the world. What I want and how to get it. Privilege, yours, mine and ours. Third wave/ contemporary feminist/queer theory. How important it is to me to be around people who take responsibility for their lives.

I also spend a lot of time practicing gratefulness.
On a typical Friday night I am
gloriously spontaneous.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Sometimes I eat/drink snacks/ tea/ beer in the shower. I might be getting a little bit homonormative.
You should message me if
at least three of the following are true about you:

You are fucking smart. You respect yourself. You are unrelentingly honest. You know me in real life. You are interested in social justice. You understand that everything is simultaneously cosmically significant and universally unimportant. Similarly, you understand that there is both great urgency and no rush. You think I'm interesting/sexy/intelligent or something... You are not flaky. You are emotionally stable. You want to be friends. You like to play with gender and wear many styles of underpants. You laugh and cry freely. You like occasionally androgynous and gender-flexible folks. You're some kind of queer who likes other kinds of queers.