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My self-summary
I am awful at keeping this profile in any sort of state of current relevance, because I come and go from this website at will. I am a lapsed academic, who has made the baffling (to most) choice to make a career in hospitality. My personality is a result of my constantly dividing my attention between highbrow, intellectually stretching, worthy pursuits, and compellingly camp, trashy, ridiculousness. I like things to be beautiful, and I like things to be funny. They don't have to be both, they don't even really have to be either, I'll just prefer them if they're one or the other, at least. I'm incredibly talkative and social, and I like asking questions and finding out about people, but this is tempered by my tendency to overthink, and spent a lot of time 'reflecting upon emotion in tranquility', as it were. Not that I write poetry. if I did, it would be bad poetry (oh noetry). I am living in leafy North London, and working in Central, and spending a lot of my free time being in love with the city as a whole. I have not yet stopped being surprised by just how much there is to do here.
What I’m doing with my life
I currently work as the assistant manager of a craft beer bar in Holborn. We're a fairly new business, and I've been there since day dot, so it feels like something I have helped to create, which is satisfying. I worked in hospitality all throughout university and my masters, so it must be about six years now. When I was thinking about applying for a PhD I realized that I innately preferred the warmth and friendliness of my dayjob to the ivory tower of the academy. It's not that the actual academic work got me down, but I found it a particularly antisocial and elitist environment and I basically wanted out.
I would like to have my own pub one day, but in the interim I am happy running someone else's for them. I get to talk to people all day, and the cellar work means I can avoid getting that gym membership that I associate with being a settled down adult who sacrifices time for things they don't enjoy.
it also means my days are non traditionally structured. I can have a lie in on any and every morning I choose, Monday is not the most stressful day of my week, and I avoid all rush hour transport. I never have to sit in an office staring at a screen, there's no such thing as boring small talk in my workplace, and if I want to dance while I work I can and no one thinks it's weird. Being off on weird days like Wednesdays means I'm more inclined to go to exhibitions and events, because I totally beat the crowd and can view at my leisure. I think the structure of my life helps me to be as relaxed as I am.
I get quite (justifiably) annoyed when people assume that because I have chosen to work in hospitality, I am either unintelligent, or wasting my intelligence. I think most people would rather be served by a smart person who wants to be there than a dolt who'd rather be anywhere else, no? it's satisfying to please other people regularly for a living. I don't think I've let my literary tendencies and intellectual curiosity die out at all. If I'm not at work I'm likely reading, writing, cooking, checking out an art exhibition, or making something. I hate to be unstimulated and cannot imagine anything worse than being boring or having nothing to say, so the way I spend my time and the things I interest myself in tend to reflect that. I like to have a variety of things to think about, and I feed my brain accordingly.
I’m really good at
-Meeting new people. I do it so many times every day now that it's not scary anymore.
-Being self deprecating about things that could be considered intellectual. But that's basically a cheap defence mechanism to avoid looking stupid if I say something a bit silly, I think.
-Being a drinking buddy. I know good places to go, and i can hold my booze and conduct those pissed conversations that feel just *so* significant with aplomb.
-Making conversational connections between things.
-Cooking, knitting, sewing, growing vegetables, refinishing furniture, altering clothes.
-Empathy and sympathy, where appropriate
-Putting together outfits
-Encouraging people to believe in themselves a bit more.
-Remembering things that other people consider trivialities.
-Making lengthy, themed, bizarre spotify playlists for my own enjoyment.
-Finding excellent things in charity shops.
-Giving advice to people who ask for it without seeming smug or patronizing.
-Knowing the difference between someone asking for advice and desiring reinforcement of their beliefs.
-Making massive weekend breakfasts
-Ignoring housework (because it sucks)
-Recommending the right book to the right person.
-Not caring about money
-Comic timing
The first things people usually notice about me
Having the luxury of encountering new people and hearing their reactions all the time, I can accurately tell you that it is roughly divided between:

-My huge, red, mermaid hair.
-My outfit, or a detail thereof (a piece of jewellery, my lipstick, etc.). I wear exactly what I want, arbiters of taste be damned.
-The fact I am smiling and usually having a good time, which means I'm pretty friendly and warm. I am always pleased when people say this one; I think it's the nicest first impression to give, and I like it when it overrides the physical details.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
This section is the hardest to keep relevant, so I thought I would try and reduce it to some simple 'recent obsession' lists that i can regularly update. It's by no means definitive, but it will likely stimulate more relevant discussions than a broad outline that just says 'oh I like everything, I do'.

The last 5 books I read:
Hangover Square - Patrick Hamilton
Dorian - Will Self
Delta of Venus - Anais Nin
Poet and Dancer - Ruth Prawer Jhabvala
Atomised - Michel Houellebecq

Currently reading: Dead Souls - Nikolai Gogol

The last 5 films I watched:
Day of the Dead (original)
Fritz the Cat
La Rupture
Wings of Desire
This Must Be The Place

The top 10 most listened to albums this month:
Elvis Costello - This Year's Model
Florence and the Machine - Ceremonials
Talking Heads - Naked
Television - Marquee Moon
Queens of the Stone Age - Songs for the Deaf
Blondie - Parallel Lines
Saturday Night Fever OST
Daft Punk - Random Access Memories
Hot Chip - Made in the Dark
The Black Ghosts - The Black Ghosts

Food wise, try as I might, it's tough to keep it simple. i was vegetarian for two years because i disagreed with the industrial meat farming process, but have recently gone back to eating meat. I'm one of those tossy, guardian reading omnivores now, who thinks ethical, sustainable, and organic can and should be meaningful and important. I love spending time in the kitchen, and my style is relaxed and definitely that of the home cook. I like seasonal ingredients, prepared simply. cluttered kitchen wankery is not for me. I like to make bread, bake cakes, and make preserves. When eating out I like to support small, local businesses, and I spend my life in pursuit of the perfect pistachio ice cream. so far Vioko in Barcelona and Gelupo in London are closely tied for first place. When eating out I like places where the emphasis is on table-based, sharing food. it feels more friendly and interactive. I am of the belief that there is no excuse for crap Italian food, ever. The rules are there, and they are simple.
Six things I could never do without
-Caffeine (oh god, this sounds like 'Feel Good Hit of the Summer')
-Something to read
-A means to capture life as it happens, be that a notebook, a camera, a videocamera, or whatever. I am terrified by how fast life goes and how easily things are forgotten.
-Interesting people to talk to
-Mascara. having long, thick eyelashes will get you everywhere.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Everything, in agonizing detail. but the major themes are usually food, sex, how to make myself look cooler on social media, whatever i'm currently reading, and whether or not going out is a good idea or not.
On a typical Friday night I am
Working. But don't feel sorry for me, because i still get to do all the aimless flirting that Friday nights are for while I'm there. I just don't have to feel disappointed when it doesn't go anywhere, because I've other things to get on with while i do it.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Occasionally my room is so messy that I don't put out as early as I normally would. Did i mention housework sucks?
You should message me if
you believe that there are superior conversation starters to 'hi'. or you're gonna say loads of really nice shit about me. i dig that.
The two of us