43Sheffield, United Kingdom
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My self-summary
I'm a poly, socialist, non-binary, slightly psychobilly, bad guitarist cinephile and I don't sleep much. I run a lot and tell myself it's about the meditation. Cheerfully kink happy. My living room is a very red place.
What I’m doing with my life
When I'm not doing that work thing (paraphrasing Runyon here), I run. Lots. And then I talk to cats, at great length. Any cats. I once got caught doing the slow blink cat greeting face at a lion. A fair amount of my time is spent trying to get people to go on strike. The rest is art. Splashing paint about. Singing. Making strange costumes for fun and weirdness.

Aaaaand here's the thing; I'm autistic. Not everyone believes this at first, 'cause I've spent 40 odd years building strategies to get around the way my brain takes in EVERYTHING and tries to think about it all at once. I'm told this basically means I think and act like a cat. That's a win in my eyes, but I thought I'd better warn you.

It doesn't mean I have no empathy or emotions. However, it does mean that I react to situations in what are apparently incredibly odd ways. Endearingly so, I'm claiming. I'm neurodiverse and MASSIVELY proud of it.

Also: gender fluid, more towards the femme side of things, if you want a horrid binary view of it...
I’m really good at
Hypersenses. No really, I've got a diagnosis and everything. Running up painful hills for hours at a time. Talking to everyone feline. Getting good at eye makeup. Walking in 4 inch heels, and yes I know some people have been doing that all their lives, but it's a big deal for me!
The first things people usually notice about me
That my voice is extremely deep, that I often forget to make eye contact at first. If my arms are out, people ask about my tattoos. There's a story in each case. Oh yes.
You might notice the amount of nail varnish and eyeliner I have going on. Some people wish to comment on this. Sadly, some of those people are the reason I paint my middle fingernail red. Underlines my reply to them.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
David Lynch (that's 'Films', not 'Food', incidentally). Celine and Julie. Murakami, Joseph Mitchell, Rosa Luxemburg, Attwood, Orwell, Angela Carter, Borges, Grant Morrison, Doctor Who, Akira, Ghost in the Shell. Gilliam. The Cramps, Marvel comics, Public Enemy, Amanda Palmer, Alan Garner. See, it rhymes and everything. Miles Davis, Tom Waits. Bowie, Polly Harvey, Scott Walker. Jodorowsky. All the strange.
Six things I could never do without
People that I love. My partners and all the people I love that the heteronormative world doesn't have words for. I'm emphatically, totally, deliriously poly/relationship anarchy.

Cats. There's one near me now. She looks a bit like a feather boa with claws.

Electronic music. And punk. And hip hop. And blues. And BOWIE. Small sob.

Art. Performance. Coffee. Same thing. Just try and argue. What are you, the OKC police?

A huge selection of fancy coats and outfits. A large amount of faux fur and pvc is involved.

Running. And comics. And film. Because numerical lists can sod off.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Celine and Julie, sigh. Bowie, likewise. Paradoxes. Iceland. Kink. Japan. Running. Painting. Weird Tales. Making sex creative. How autism is like being in the X-Men.
On a typical Friday night I am
Recovering with trash cinema and coffee or travelling to see some of my lovely people.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
...is really not for public consumption. Feel free to imagine stuff. And then please tell me all about it.
You should message me if
...you're feeling odd. I'm really serious about including "new friends" in the list of things I'm looking for, so talk at me.
The two of us