35Moraga, United States
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My self-summary
I'm psychologically, intellectually, philosophically, and metaphysically minded, and I strive to better myself and help my friends and loved ones do the same. Community is important to me. I throw an annual holiday potluck feast, and organize a monthly campout during the other three seasons of the year. I love nature and outdoor activities - camping, swimming, light hiking and cycling.

I'm not monogamous, I'm polyamorous (poly). It's meaning is different for everyone, so knowing me is important to understanding me, and the manner in which I manage my relationships. I express a lot of love, both platonic, as well as romantic and emotional. I tend towards long-term relationships, but I enjoy sharing casual intimacy with friends as well.

I have one amazing life partner of three years, and am happily transitioning out of another life partnership of eleven years. I also date and have other intimate friendships as well. I've always had better success developing intimacy with others in the real world, but have had some wonderful experiences meeting people here too. I write very few people here online. If I introduced myself to you, it's because I read your entire profile, and most of your Q&A, and I found you generally awesome and attractive and want to chat a little and possibly meet. Regardless of physical attraction, however, I never presume to decide what I will desire with a person beyond platonic friendship until they and I begin learning about one another. Personal chemistry is important to me, and I won't expect anything extraplatonic without it.
What I’m doing with my life
Loving my amazing partner, friends and family. Seeking enlightenment. Camping. Raising a dog and a puppy. Working for a living. Practicing rope bondage and suspension.
I’m really good at
Predicting which OKC users will not respond to my thoughtful, carefully crafted introductory letters. (I predict every one. You all rarely prove me wrong.)

Communication, Conversation, philosophical discussion, and helping others cope with life's trials / counseling. Intimacy and affection, kissing and lovemaking.
The first things people usually notice about me
That I'm a big, cuddly teddy bear. I'm also told my eyes and my smile. And if they've known me for any significant amount of time, and haven't seen me in a while, they notice how much weight I've lost.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Anything philosophical, philosophy. Psychology. Dystopia. Animal Farm & 1984, Brave New World, Fahrenheit 451, Stranger in a Strange Land. Lamb.

Movies: Dances With Wolves, Braveheart, Fight Club, The Big Lebowski, Oh Brother Where Art Thou, Being John Malkovich, Boondock Saints, Kevin Smith, Secretary, Oh Brother Where Art Thou, What the Bleep, The Secret, Too many to list.

Music: Classic Rock, Blues, Soul, Funk, Mostly anything. The Beatles, Pink Floyd, Led Zeppelin, CCR, CSNY, Robert Cray, Buddy Miles, The Meters, Dr. John, Too many to list.

Food: Mostly paleolithic - lots of water, veggies and fruit - a little meat, nuts, eggs and goat-dairy - No cow dairy, no bread or wheat, no rice or other grains, no potatoes, no corn, no candy or refined sugars, no coffee or soda. I will eat some of these things, but in moderation.
Six things I could never do without
Food / Water
Home / Shelter
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Unconditional Love. The self. The pursuit of happiness. Existence. Reality. Peception. Being. Behavioral patterns. Psychological conditioning. Or selling off most of my posessions and moving to the land.
On a typical Friday night I am
With one or both of my partners, or with a friend, or a group of friends, or on a date, or around a campfire, or on a dancefloor, or at a dining table, or on vacation, or relaxing at home.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'll admit just about anything private. . . in private.
You should message me if
. . . you're compelled to do so. Or you've received a thoughtful introduction from me that inspires you to do so.
The two of us