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My self-summary
Beyond the bare statistical list over there to the right, I am a computer geek with a penchant for psychology.

I enjoy exploring cultures, people, values and morals nearly as much as I enjoy bits, bytes and finding yet another way to vanquish 6 opponents in a game of Civilization V.

I read a lot, yet not as much as I would like to.
What I’m doing with my life
Less than I could be.. more than I thought I would?

I have occasional flights of fancy regarding starting my own business, but regrettably I tend to conclude I'm too unmotivated to put forth the necessary effort myself, and not rich enough to pay someone else to do with work executing the wonderful idea I came up with.

Feel free to steal the idea for putting out "My First Wind Farm" which should consist of a kit for the enterprising young environmentalist who can assemble three or four windmills, hook them up to generators and plug the resulting current into a pre-built converter box that can translate that direct current into normal household current, and that should plug into the wall.

The objective isn't to solve the energy crisis, but it is yet another way to get people thinking about how they can actually contribute to the solution. If this can be put together in such a way that it has an expected life span of 5+ years, generates enough power to pay for it's purchase in 2 years or less, I think it should sell nicely.

And it can replace all the ugly and useless whirlygigs in my neighbor's front yard.
I’m really good at
Kissing, various computer games, sleeping. Fair at jumping rope, hula hoop, and juggling.. not all at the same time though.. that'd be really impressive.
The first things people usually notice about me
Hmmm.. before I quit smoking.. that I smoke a pipe. Otherwise.. most often my eyes.. or my hair. My eyes are listed as Hazel on my drivers license.. which tends to translate to color dependent on my mood, what I'm wearing and any number of other factors. And my hair.. one of the results of the genetic lottery that I am pleased with. I get a flat top every 4 months whether I need it or not.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Mark Helprin's Winter's Tale I've bought more copies of this book than any other I've read.. I keep giving it out.
Otherwise alternate histories, Fantasy, and science fiction are my usual fare. David Drake, David Weber, Eric Flint, Mercedes Lackey, David Eddings, Spider Robinson.

from Adult Alternative to Swing, Urban and Vocal..
Red hot Chilli Peppers, Ramones, Queen, Prince, Otis Redding, Ozzy Osborn, Marvin Gaye, Kid Rock, K.C. and the sunshine band, John Mellencamp, Joe Cocker

Food: Pizza, Sushi, Red meat cooked Rare, Vegan Fare, French fries and gyros, Turkey legs right off the Renaissance Festival grill. Fresh cold water with lemon and lime, Good Craft Beer, Bombay Sapphire and Tonic.
Six things I could never do without
  • Solitude
  • Good Company
  • a way to get online
  • family
  • my cats
  • books, lots of books.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
What am I doing that I should do less, what am I not doing that I should do more?

I think about women a lot.. Well, I'm male and heterosexual that was likely a given.
On a typical Friday night I am
Online chatting with friends. Out (or in) on a date. Or very possibly off playing a game, currently that's been Pokémon Go. My oldest niece introduced me to it and it's been good for me, I'm down about 10 pounds because I'm out walking instead of sitting at home and snacking.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I see normal people.

Hmm.. actual somewhat private thing.. I'm more excited about someone who contacts me than I am about someone that I contact and responds to me. It might just be that I'm lazy, but I think there's just something attractive about being the pursued when you're used to being the pursuer.
You should message me if
If getting together with a separated near 50 year old male that is openly/honestly non-monogamous doesn't create a moral dilemma for you.

A word about age.. Take the age listed above with a grain of salt. I tend to generally follow the XKCD Dating pool theory.

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But, if I list that age range in my "show me matches in this age category", I pretty much only see women at the extreme lower end of that spectrum because they outnumber those closer to my age by a large degree.

What I am looking for

I want the physical. Not physical appearance.. I mean physical sensation. From your hand nestled in mine as we walk down the street to intense sensual thrusting in passionate embrace. Your lips on mine. The caress of flesh on flesh from the slow and tentative to strong and confident.

I want the emotional. No strings doesn't really have a meaning for me. Intimacy creates strings. The connection has to be more than physical or there's just no point. I'm not looking for strings that bind, I'm not going to get jealous of other relationships you have had in the past, have at the time or may have in the future. All I ask is what I offer in return. When we're together we take precedence.

I want the intellectual. Not intellect as it is measured by years of school completed or degrees obtained, intellect measured by taking an active interest in the world and what's happening beyond the horizon. Are you living life or marking time?

I'm looking for a sensuous lady who enjoys kissing. Preferably one who has other hedonistic tendencies as well. Age or size, while a factor, carry no where near the importance of what is between your ears. Pretty wrapping is wonderful, but what's inside?

Only one strict criteria comes to mind.. you must not be allergic to or dislike cats. :-) I share my living space with one long haired feline and one short haired who compete to see who sheds more.
The two of us