32 Auckland, New Zealand
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My self-summary
I'm a moody bastard who does technical things for work and other assorted things for fun.

I'm coming out of a serious, long-term relationship and a serious short-term relationship at the moment, so I'm in the process of figuring out what I want and need in my intimate life.

I'm also pretty sure I'm stuck on ethical non-monogamy for life at this point, so that's probably worth taking into account.
What I’m doing with my life
Good question. Been going through a wee major depressive episode the last few months, but before that I have enjoyed a decade's worth of work in IT, mostly doing software-related stuff: writing, building, deploying, destroying, ranting, drinking, crying.

I'm hoping to figure out what the next steps for me in life are soon, but in the meantime I'm writing and making music and cooking and generally trying to stay alive. It's going ok, thanks for asking.
I’m really good at
My hugs are often remarked upon. I give good hugs. And shoulder rubs, though I can be a bit strong for some.

Some people seem to enjoy the things I make: code, music, writing.

I like a good, rigourous chat.
The first things people usually notice about me
I've been told I look like Oscar Isaac from Ex Machina, but I suspect it was shameless flattery. Or they have worked out my secret plans to subject the world to artificial personalities.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
My music taste is... eclectic.

In recent years I've listened to a lot of alt-RnB and singer-songwritery stuff. The Mountain Goats features an awful lot in my Spotify stats, as does Sufjan Stevens. I'm not ashamed.

Anyway, my Spotify profile is here: so judge away.

My fave writer is Borges. I read a few novels, some poetry, some comics. It's a grab bag.

Food is good. I'm not wildly adventurous with food, but I really love eating.
The six things I could never do without
The people I care about, and interesting data to discuss/appreciate.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Things and stuff, mostly. A little philosophy, a little flesh, a lot of technical and a lot of music.

When I'm down, I get very existential and nihilistic. But in a cheerful way. I'll still be able to make you laugh, if you like dumb jokes.
On a typical Friday night I am
Doing things. Friday nights are good. Or going to bed early and sleeping. Sleeping is good.

Tonight I am not sleeping. Never again.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
i'm an ok cupid member. We're all safe here.
You should message me if
Well, given I'm a male, the odds of you messaging me are low. So if you want to do it, you should do it. YOU SHOULD DO IT.