55 Manhattan, United States
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My self-summary
I'm fit, cerebral, funny, fun-loving, intellectual, optimistic, romantic at heart. Living and working in the city after years in Westchester, and loving being back--falling in love with NYC all over again, like I did when I moved here from the Midwest in my 20s.
Maritally speaking I had a long and in many ways quite lovely union, which ended (for you-know-how-impossible-to-describe reasons...no way to give a brief outline) amicably 3 years ago. Divorce is almost final (we're just not good with filling out forms!), but emotionally it happened when we separated. Two wonderful kids who are in the "grown-up" range and we see a lot of them. Too bad OKC doesn't give a "separated" option for people who are superstitious about "separated" vs "divorced"... I've had people flip out on me about not having signed on the dotted line yet (???)
What I’m doing with my life
I'm a magazine writer and editor, currently freelance but have been back-and-forth on various staffs over the years...logging many many articles for magazines you've heard of ;-) as well as two nonfiction books over the years. So of course, I adore reading--everything from my beloved 19th-century lit to Ian Fleming novels (it's amazing how much better those movies are when you've read "Casino Royale" and "From Russia With Love"). Love getting out in the city--jazz and blues clubs, classical and opera, off-beat (and mainstream) movies, museums, bars & restaurants. Give me a great martini on Friday evening in a lovely venue and I'm happily unwinding. And on the other hand--staying in and binge-viewing the latest Netflix or HBO or reading (in front of the fire come fall/winter!) is great too...
The key thing for me, right now, is that I feel younger than I am. I know there is much more adventure and wonder yet to come...and I want to be hard at it until I can't do it anymore.
I’m really good at
Both working and playing; listening to people; being a "shrink" to friends when they need it; keeping my chin up in adversity; revealing myself.
The first things people usually notice about me
Hard to answer this without polling people but I would guess: my smile and my openness. (and, um, my legs?) Probably talk a little bit too much but I like people who do the same--really like getting to know people on a deeper level and am not much of a "small-talk" person...the talkiness probably masks an interior shyness...
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Almost ALL kinds of food (for some reason I don't like oysters); love cooking as well as going out. OLD movies are a specialty, but open to any and all as long as they're interesting. Music (see above)--love it when it's live, partly because I grew up around musicians and like to support the dwindling opportunities for talented people to perform. Books: very long list. Always reading at least one, usually 2 or 3 of different genres and eras.
The six things I could never do without
oh lord, my mind isn't organized enough for this! Simply MY KIDS...well, and pizza (my own homemade, but also Chicago deep-dish and NYC thin-crust). And books, tons of them. One more thing: the gym. I'm semi-addicted...it feels good! (when I'm done)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
traveling, and wishing I had more time/money to do it. though I got a great hit of Rome recently (three weeks!) and a few days in London, so I'm currently feeling a bit spoiled...have been to some other wonderful places too, including Paris, Bolivia (amazing), Indonesia (likewise), Czech Republic, lots of Caribbean islands...Have to get to Greece someday
On a typical Friday night I am
having a drink with a friend...maybe ending up at Arthur's in the Village, dancing to the one and only Sweet Georgia Brown. all cash, no cover, and a great, crazy ambiance...
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
You should message me if
you love to laugh, love irony but not necessarily sarcasm, like to explore, can sit by the fire reading one night and the next happily go out on the town, have empathy... And most of all perhaps: even though it's sometimes difficult, you can communicate what you're thinking and feeling. Oh and...maybe...you have an off-beat bone or two in your body...AH, one more thing, if you're still here: I think I'm swearing off communicating with people who have no profile pic. Just so you guys know: that usually suggests someone who is not actually free (as in, is married or in a relationship) OR, i guess, someone who doesn't feel good about his looks...which isn't so promising either ;-) You don't have to be an Adonis, but you have to be a real person...