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My self-summary
Autodidact, Japanophile, unabashed transit nerd, urbanist, native Brooklynite, Chicagoan for a spell, voracious reader, food thinker, taste tinkerer, bicycle enthusiast, friendly introvert.

Quiet but opinionated, principled but open-minded, grounded in reality but prone to flights of fancy and heady idealism, a little hardheaded but soft on the inside. Believer in process and the pleasures of slow, analytical thinking. Deeply skeptical of the rhetoric of efficiency and techno-idealism.


I'm in an open relationship with a wonderful human being: RainHailSnowIce. He's my primary partner. Thus, I'm here to meet folks for more casual fun, both individually and in other arrangements. That's not to say I don't want to connect with other humans on a genuine level, but I'm also not looking for serious commitment.

This profile is rather wordy, not because I'm looking for someone who likes or agrees with everything put forth here, but because I'm a poor editor of my own words and get excited about a lot of things.
What I’m doing with my life
::Latest/newsflash:: Just moved to Providence for grad school, where I'll be trying to figure out how museums can be more relevant, more responsive, more open, more accountable, and, in the process, more socially transformative.

Generally, wearing many hats. Formerly, I helped found a non-profit that addresses the intersection of food, education, and material culture. I studied art history in college, which meant I spent a lot of time reading and writing about the fraught history (and present) of urban renewal, postwar architecture and design, and institutional politics. I've also spent time working in kitchens and gardens, because I enjoy working with my hands as much as my brain. I'm a generalist and can't imagine devoting my entire life or career to just one job, interest, or specialty.

I lived in Japan for two years but would like to live abroad again or take time to travel extensively at some point. Other things I might like to do for a living: become a travel writer, own a guesthouse on a remote Japanese island, sift through dusty archival documents and photos.

Oh, and I take quite a few photos:
I’m really good at
Navigating and exploring cities and new neighborhoods. Remembering birthdays. Bumping into things. Tearing produce to shreds with my knife.
The first things people usually notice about me
That I'm staring intently at something seemingly mundane, like snow on subway tracks or the fractal patterns of tree branches. Watch on the right wrist / awkward left-handedness. Gamine, I guess?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Words, ideas, theories: Rebecca Solnit, always and forever. Thomas Sugrue / The Origins of the Urban Crisis. Terry Smith / Making the Modern. Jonathan Safran Foer / Eating Animals. Junichiro Tanazaki / In Praise of Shadows. Hal Foster / Design and Crime. Rosalyn Deutsche / Evictions: Art and Spatial Politics. Samuel Zipp / Manhattan Projects. The Baffler is one of the few magazines I read cover to cover.

Visual: Man on Wire, Dog Day Afternoon, Serpico, Sans Soleil, Jiro Dreams of Sushi, most Ozu films. Brutalist architecture washed in late winter afternoon light, subway maps and signage, Toshio Shibata's photographs.

Aural: Eclectic taste tending toward most things electronic. Lately Francis Bebey, John Adams, Henri Texier, Colleen, Plaid. Always: Rei Harakami, Four Tet, Ametsub, Benoît Pioulard, Unwound, GY!BE, most anything on Kranky and 12k. Rocksteady and classic ska, in more nostalgic moments.

Edibles: almost anything. Especially: handmade soba, croissants and other buttery/flaky things, umeboshi, pomegranate molasses, browned butter, tiny strawberries, bitter greens, lotsa hops, as much cardamom as possible, pickled daikon, pizza (both high and low).
Six things I could never do without
Readin' (paper only, please), warm socks, the electrifying feeling of meeting someone who "fits" (as a friend, lover, or otherwise), visual stimulation and inspiration, running/biking/dancing/bodymovement, a well made drawing/writing implement (preferably with black ink and a .28 mm tip).
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Who and what shapes urban space. The form and function of public housing. The importance (and unfortunate neglect) of infrastructure. The role of cultural institutions in urban development and so-called "revitalization." Class dynamics and neighborhood change.

This essay:

Minimalist living / making do with small spaces / tiny houses.

Family, where "home" actually is, and how to create a sense of belonging and cultivate community regardless of where I live.

What to cook / eat for breakfast / lunch / dinner / every other occasion. New uses for yuzu koshō. The mystery of how to achieve proper ratios of dashi : shōyu : mirin : sake.
On a typical Friday night I am
Cooking for myself and/or others. Taking a new route home for the sake of scenery. Quite possibly taking a bath and reading. Sometimes dancing in a dark room until the wee hours.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
To admit, or to admit here? If we're talking the latter: I like to wash my feet before going to sleep.
You should message me if
- The fact that I'm in a relationship doesn't bother you. Better yet if it turns you on. (Keywords: GGG, d/s, kink, unicorn, couples, etc.)

- You're wickedly smart but not a jerk about it. Weird is good, too.

- You'd like to go on a wandering walk or exploratory bike ride (and are comfortable with not using your phone to navigate).

- You're willing to forgive delays in communication. I'll try to respond promptly, but there is life to be lived offline.
The two of us