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My self-summary
I'm once again really happy with the way my life is going, though it's not how I'd initially pictured winding up.

It's not up to me to prove I'm good enough for you. It's up to us to prove we're good enough for each other.

I'm very poly. Count me among the bi poly geeks. I love making new connections. I'm a Latino male in my early 40's, and I have interests in languagesJapanese, Hebrew, Spanish, Italian, French) – and Jewish culture.

I'm coming back to the ATL after 12 years of getting Californified. You can take me out of the West Coast but you can't take it out of me.

I'm fully devoted to my son. I'm also devoted to my long-term committed relationships. I try to see them as equal and of top importance. I have a partner whom I've been with for more than a decade and is an LDR, and another I've been with for nearly a decade who is LDR-ish (150 klicks). I could do with living with someone if the chemistry is right, but I'm unsure if that's really what I need. Blues riff in B, watch me for the changes... and try to keep up

I can be classed as liberal with I have a high respect for self-reliance and caring for others. If you use "social justice warrior" as an insult then I'm probably not the lad for you. I pull out my ACLU card with my DL when I'm asked for ID. I'm in the resistance.

Humanistic / Atheistic Judaism. My specific brand of Judaism trends MUCH less in the direction of invoking Hashem and MUCH more toward justice in this world and tikkun olam.

Yeah, I work in metric sometimes so I'm a little thrilled that the weight loss régime seems to be trending me to what I want, at a pace that if I can keep up will land me back by the end of the year at 1.68m and 68kg. On January 2015 I massed up 85kg. I'm presently plateaued right at 71. If I hit 68 again, I'm throwing a party and you are totally invited.

Other things to know: I can be a somewhat extreme pacifist. Wanna fight about it? (Yeah, that is a joke about inherent contradiction on purpose *giggles*) I curse extremely sparingly and I will try to know least one word in any language you can name.

I keep my bedroom a bit more cold than most of my partners prefer. It seems 18ºC seems to be the magic number for me to sleep. If you're ever here... um... sorry. *giving you a blanket*

I'm a very political creature with strong interests in democratic socialism, feminism, civil rights, and social and economic justice.

I am extroverted, quirky, and cute.
What I’m doing with my life
Thriving. I've had a number of huge changes over the course of my life, and I strive to make each one as positive as I can. I am filling my life with positive, sane, happy people who are driven to make the world, or at least their world, a better place.
I’m really good at
- Making new friends and new loves.

- Being wildly outgoing and the center of attention

- Being a leader

- Making you laugh

- Making you groan at really, really bad puns

- Loving and being a lover
The first things people usually notice about me
I have an unusual accent. It's a mix of Costa Rica Spanish, UK (RP) English, Louisiana Cajun, south Italian, Toronto Canadian, faux-Yiddish, and Georgia Southern.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
A) I will read anything. I read the back of shampoo bottles in the shower just to have something to read. My life has been filled with technical manuals lately, but for fun I have: Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy series, Harry Potter, history texts, language learning materials, Brave New World and 1984 (both of which I tend to go back and read about once every 18 months)

B) Back to the Future, Ghostbusters, The Maltese Falcon, Casablanca, Seven Year Itch.

C) Duran Duran, Caifanes, Los Enanitos Verdes, Soda Stereo, Manu Chao, La Oreja de Van Gogh, The Eyeliners, The Lashes, Bree Newsome, Die Ärzte, The Pizzicato Five, Seek Irony, Billy Joel, lots of opera, lots of variation from all over the world, lots of obscure indie bands. (Ye gods that sounds pretentious. I'm unabashedly into a LOT of pop as well.) Wanna get on my good side? Send me something I've never heard of. Either that or tell me you know better than 50% of the ones I've named.

D) Sushi, Italian, Chinese, seafood. I'm getting back into the French cuisine from my childhood of late.
Six things I could never do without
- Love: Truly the driving force in my life

- Sex: I have an unabashedly high sex drive

- Music: Because limiting your self expression to words is frankly stifling

- Connections: We're here to know each other. If you get to know me, you could be my friend, you could be more... or you can just use me for comedic material.

- Conversation: I value hearing the stories of people in my life, and sharing mine.

- iPhone: Computers not for computing's sake, phones not for the sake of phoning. They're portals. You're there, I'm here. Now we're together.

I just confessed to a friend that I'm willing to slay for a mani / pedi. Just saying.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
- Love: I love love for its own sake

- Friends: There are some for whom I would do anything at all.

- Emotions: Control them or release them? An elemental question for emotional beings

- Computers: That's what I do for a living and how I most often connect with others.

- Problem solving: How best to educate my autistic son, how best to improve my own life and the lives of the people I love.

- Data: How this site has over time become the de-facto data mine for human relationships and characteristics thereof.
On a typical Friday night I am
Nothin' matters but the weekend
From a Tuesday point-of-view
Like a kettle in the kitchen
I feel the steam begin to brew

Switchin' to glide, switchin' to glide
Switchin' to glide, switchin' to glide

Energy can be directed
I'm turning it up, I'm turning it down
Even love can be affected
Harmony's the sweetest sound

Switchin' to glide, switchin' to glide
Switchin' to glide, switchin' to glide


I typed that at a much younger friend and so discovered "Glide" is a new chat application. She'd never heard the song and thought I was inviting her to chat. Yeah... I'm old.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I use ellipses more often than is strictly grammatically correct.

I make dad jokes. I make dad jokes even around people who aren't my kids... and people who aren't kids.
You should message me if
I'm choosing to be and talk to people who are in a happy part of their lives, optimistic, self-reliant, self-responsible, grown up, who see the world as a good place and don't think the world is out to get them.

I'm intrigued by how many profiles I'm seeing that say "don't message me if you voted for Trump". It's amazing how much USA is getting polarized along political lines. That said, it's probably not worth messaging me if you voted for Trump.
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