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My self-summary
I'm Michael. I'm trans, queer as fuck, and generally pissed off with the world. If you're a straight guy, I'm not interested. Move along, nothing to see here.

You don't have to be romantically interested in me to message me, I'm interested in making friends too. To be honest, I'm not very romantically or sexually inclined, but I suppose I do like the idea of clicking/settling down with someone... even as a weird anti-capitalism friends thing. I'm not opposed to a romantic or sexual relationship, but I'm probably on the asexual/aromantic spectrum somewhere because I'm not particularly motivated regarding the whole relationship thing.

Having said that, sexually - I'm going to be frank here - I don't have a dick. I don't want a dick. If you want a guy with a dick, I am not the right guy for you.

Brief trans 101 - I'm not trapped in my body. I wasn't 'born female'. I don't have 'female' sex organs. Sex and gender are not and should not be binary. I reject gender roles. I reject pretty much everything that society has to say about gender.

I'm not a fan of any kind of oppression, but I do respect people who acknowledge their biases and are working on them.

Now that that's out of the way... I'm surprisingly easygoing, despite everything that I just wrote up there. I respect boundaries. I'm quiet, bit of an introvert (but not particularly shy or socially awkward). I tend to wallow in existential depression. I'm unmotivated, but am trying to fix that. I'm anti-capitalist, and pro social justice. I align myself most closely with poststructural and intersectional feminism.

I don't really have a preference when it comes to my sexuality. All genders are welcome to contact me, and genitalia is largely irrelevant to me. I also welcome contact from poly people and people who are already in relationships but who are (mutually) looking for something a little extra. I'm extremely open-minded. The only thing is that I don't really want to date anyone too young, it feels creepy to me. I'm happy to be friends though, especially with queer & trans people.

If we ever get into the bedroom, I can be a bit kinky. This isn't a requirement, just doesn't hurt to mention.
What I’m doing with my life
I work a boring 9-5 office job. It's not the most interesting thing in the world, but it means I can live. I try to write, but I'm not the most motivated. I like gaming, and I watch way too much random crap on youtube. I'm one of those people that always likes to learn things, but that's been a bit a lacking in my life lately.
I’m really good at
I'm pretty good at writing, when I actually get down to it.

I'm detail-orientated, which can be a blessing and a curse.
The first things people usually notice about me
Why don't you tell me?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Oh, books. I could go on forever about books. My hands down favourite author is Neil Gaiman, with his Sandman graphic novels topping the list. From there, it's mostly sci-fi and fantasy, though I particularly enjoy the likes of Tad Williams, George R.R. Martin and Neal Stephenson.

I watch a lot of TV, but I'm really bad at keeping up with any of it. I think the only thing that I'm actually up to date on right now is the Great British Bake Off.

When it comes to films - if it's sci-fi, I'll watch it. But I'll also watch pretty much anything else. Unless it's romcom. Too much heterosexuality. Boring. I'm also a sucker for kids' films, especially Pixar. I'm actually looking for a movie buddy as I have the Meerkat Movies thing so if you're free on Wednesday evenings and fancy a movie, hit me up?

I listen to music across all genres, but I'm especially fond of music that tells a story (I'm fond of stories in general). I listen to music from dubstep to bluegrass, so I'm really open-minded genre wise. I just like what I like. I love talking about music though, so if you're a music fanatic, feel free to strike up a conversation and/or give me some suggestions!
Six things I could never do without
Internet, books, friendship, family, my pets and music.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Social justice, food, story ideas, how to get myself out of a rut.
On a typical Friday night I am
Recovering from working all week. Cooking dinner, maybe. Spending most of the evening on my computer, probably.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm pretty open about it - I'm trans. It's a huge part of my life as I engage with it constantly in an effort to support other trans people, but it's also one of the most private parts of my life due to the oppression and ridicule that trans people face.
You should message me if
You're open-minded and interested. That's all. I'd rather just get to know someone than write out some list of requirements in a profile box.

Unless I really like what I see and/or you're trans, I'm unlikely to message first. This especially applies if you're straight (or gay, I suppose) as I'm not sure if you'll be into trans people. If you're interested, shoot me a message. Even if you're just up for making friends!
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