*Update* So with a heavy heart, I signed the divorce papers. It's not what I wanted, but who am I to keep a free spirit chained to me? I wish it would've worked out, but some things - no matter how hard you try - are just not meant to be. There wasn't any drama, and my ex and I are still friends, but the romance just fizzled.
So after more than two years of being out of the relationship loop, I find myself starting to look for a companion again. Not a sex partner, not a "one night stand", but a full blown relationship starting with a good solid friendship and then we'll see where it goes from there. I can take it as serious as it can go =) I want to emphasize that I really want to start off with a good friendship. I'm not commitment phobic or anything like that, but it's just my genuine belief that a good relationship (if it should bud into that) begins with a solid friendship. And, no, I'm still not looking into one night stands or casual "hook ups" - it's not my thing.
So that's the preface. The "real self-summary" starts here I guess =P
I'm an open minded individual who would rather discuss, more than argue, accentuate the positives, more than harp on the negatives, and would rather take the scenic route, than settle for shortcuts. People think I'm serious at times, but that's because I've developed a highly developed "filter" that keeps me from saying something that'll make me look like an ass (okay, it only works half the time, but I'm still working out the bugs). I can be sweet without being clingy and sensitive without being effeminate. That isnt to say that I'm all "guy". I mean, i like to cook... or at least make a good attempt at it. I actually love helping my gal-friends shop (within reason - kinda have the draw the line with make up and lingerie, simply because I dont know what most of that stuff is about anyway. ie If I dont recognize it, or understand it, I'm not going to be much help with it).
My clubbing days are over, but I still dont mind going out on the town occasionally. I love to travel, drive, be creative, and spoil my friends. I also dont mind spending a quiet evening at home relaxing... or plotting to TAKE OVER THE WORLD BWAHAHAHAH... ahem...
Hmmm... I should probably get to the other sections...
I am generous, caring, loyal, devoted, loving, and patient.
The one thing that is a constant in my life is that I'm always helping people. People in need, my friends, my family... good help is hard to find these days, so if I'm available I answer the call. It doesnt take complete precedence of my life, but the person I hope to be with should be able to understand and accept that.
Physically, I'm kinda short. Enh, I'm used to it =P
Books and movies: It's interesting with good plot or character developement, I'll usually enjoy it. I'm a sucker for brainless violence once in a while. Oldskool kungfu movies, ftw!
Music: Music is my life... I'll listen to anything, but country. Also, polka is my arch enemy!
Food: I'll eat just about anything.
A positive outlook
A plan "b" (and occasionally a "c" and "d", even)
Random weird things like "Why are sweaters called sweaters, when 'warmers' would be a more appropriate title"
Where I should go next...
Why OKC requires 24 hours for you to change an answer to their quiz questions. I've inadvertently answered a dozen of those dumb questions on my phone because. .. well, I'm starting to believe my phone is trying to sabotage any chances I have to have a relationship. I hit "back" and all of a sudden I have a foot fetish... wth phone?
- Relieving stress by playing video games (my parents bought me an Atari when they first came out, so I've been addicted ever since - no, I'm not one of those guys who puts games on the top of their 'to do' lists. I can put the game away if more interesting or important things come up - like a date night. If it's a date night that includes video games - where have you been all my life and I will buy you a new gaming rig right before the proposal - this is your only warning)
- Playing guitar and singing (I can do the former, I'm working on the latter). One day, I'll get over my stage fright and do a gig. It's not my aspiration to perform professionally, but it's on my list of things I want to accomplish.
- Cleaning. I have dogs... 'nuff said
- Researching new equipment for my secret lab... uhm... next section
Feel free to chat with me if you see I'm on.
I'm always up for adventure, so if you just want to spontaneously want to grab coffee/dinner/movie, let me know. - And because I'm a gentleman (or at least I try to be), I'll always be happy to pick up the tab. *This is, of course, not an invitation to go grab dinner at a four star restaurant - I'm not cheap, but I'm not here to get taken advantage of either. If things work out and we hit it off then a nice night out will definitely be in short order.
*Update * I have to admit that I spend a lot of time on this site lurking more than being active on it. I've been on a few dates that didn't really pan out (lol - no, I did not get "catfished"), so I have decided to "proceed with caution". While I think that being on OKC increases my chances at bumping into "the one", I think it's really helped me more in being more selective (okay, picky) about the kind of person that I think would be compatible with me.
If you see that I have visited your profile (sometimes multiple times), no, I'm not trying to stalk you, it's just that I:
1 - ... love reading how people answer their questions. While not exactly a window into people souls, I've found that people have put more thought into their answers than their profiles. I've become addicted to reading them.
2 - ... will not even look at the pics on the profile until I have read through it, so I have no idea that I've chosen a profile I've been in before until I start reading through it.
If you write to me, please be a little more conversational than "hello" - I like to get to know a person straight away and want to avoid talking to bots or advertisers (this has happened more than I would like to admit) I apologize in advance if I don't or haven't written back to you if you have tried to reach out to me - most times I'll be on the site on my phone and will not realize I've gotten a message only to later discover it's been sitting in my inbox for weeks -_-
I'm seriously looking for FRIENDS first. If you're looking to jump right into a LTR or marriage, or US citizenship (or any combination of) then please look elsewhere.
I'm not looking for a super model, but I love a woman who is comfortable in her own skin. I'm far from perfect, and I accept that the one who I'm meant to be with will be the same. My hope is that I find someone that I can have awesome conversations with, then wonderful adventures (realistically most of the best adventures are when things go awry and you have a good story to tell later), and then a life we can share together...
... At which point we will amass minions (or our children) who will help us to CONQUER THE WORLD!!