39 Oakland, United States
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My self-summary
So I have been on here for a minute and in all honesty have not had much luck and instead of wondering what is wrong with everyone else I am turning it inward and doing what is within in my control on this platform in which there is so much which is not. I realized that I pretty much half assed my profile, didn't really think it through or complete it honestly and perhaps that is why I am attracting the types that I have been. So this is my valiant attempt to start fresh and be an authentic as one can be on a dating site. I hope that by being true to myself I will attract someone the same. My life path has never been typical and I have learned to embrace that. Things that often come easy for others have so far eluded me but instead I have had a vast number of experiences that I would not have had had I settled down early. I am fiercely independent, have lived alone save for a few boyfriends along the way since my early 20s. I'm actually experimenting with being less independent which is interesting, needing people more and being less afraid of that. I am highly sensitive and able to pick up of the feelings of others without words. I can be shy at first but have been told that I come out of my shell nicely. I like hanging out with me and need ample alone time to recharge, though with the right partner I don't think this would be as necessary. I'm not sure how much of a summary that is, but it's a taste. This is either going to work beautifully or fail miserably.
What I’m doing with my life
This is a bit of a loaded question. I hope I am having a life that I can look back on one day and say that no matter how it turned out that I had truly lived. Whatever that means. I won't know until I get there. I am also currently pursuing a life long dream of owning a farm, I want to grow my own flowers to design with and it would be ideal to find a partner with similar aspirations to rural living.
I’m really good at
Cutting to the chase. Efficiency. Understanding people. Listening to and often ignoring my gut. Making beautiful things. Overthinking. Dreaming. Sleeping. Planning. Plotting.
The first things people usually notice about me
You would really have to ask them.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
My favorite authors are Margaret Atwood and Joan Didion.
I also like to read cookbooks. Some of my favorite reads are Veronika Decides to Die, The Handmaid's Tale, Women in Love, The Mists of Avalon, Breakfast at Tiffany's, Alias Grace, Play it as it Lays Some days I get sad that I'm not going to be alive long enough to read every book.

Embarrassed to say that I rarely watch movies anymore, not when there are so many TV shows to binge on. But a few old favorites are All About Eve, Shakespeare in Love, Legends of the Fall, Amelie, The Goonies, Terms of Endearment
TV shows I really like historical dramas, either real or fake, GofT, Outlander, The White Queen, Downton Abbey, Man of High Castle

It's always been hard for me to put my musical tastes into words because so much if it is dependent on a feeling that is hard to describe. The is an artist named Brandi Carlisle whose voice I just love, it's kind of folky almost country but definitely not. I like Emmylou Harris and Patty Griffin sometimes, Mumford and Sons and The Magnetic Fields sometimes. My all time favorite band is probably Fleetwood Mac. I'm turning into my mother.

I love food, often looking forward to it more than I feel like I should. I no longer partake in meat or poultry on a regular basis but will if the mood strikes me or if I'm starving and it's what's for dinner. I'm really into fresh, healthy and delicious but obviously love pizza too. Iona like labels so don't really call myself a vegetarian because last time I did so I started dreaming about steak and had to start eating again for fear of being anemic.
The six things I could never do without
1. Empathy 2. Compassion 3. Nostalgia 4. Passion
5. Family 6. Flowers 7. Avocados
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How if someone told me when I got my first email address at 16 that I would one day be using Internet to find my life partner I never would have believed them! And how differently I perceive life on a daily basis, just when I think I above it handled something new and unexpected pops up. It may not always be what I want but at least it's not boring.
On a typical Friday night I am
So just going to go ahead and get this out of the way. I am a bartender and the amount of people that I have talked to that have a problem with that is astounding so I might as well weed them out here and now. I am really good at it and enjoy it for now, I can support myself while taking ample time off and have freedom to explore my passions. I am not now nor have I ever been an alcoholic. I fell into it by being an artist, in the past as an actress and currently a floral deisgner, as a means to pay the bills. I don't have a typical life and I am ok with that and my partner should be too. I am currently transitioning out of that world as my artistic plans are coming to fruition but it will always hold a place in my heart. Long story short, I often work Friday nights. But Saturday I am free.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I am the only person in Oakland without a tatoo. Word on the street is they are going to kick me out.
And my Dad is a republican. I however am not.
You should message me if
You are good and kind and honest and looking for someone the same. You feel you have excercised many of your demons and are ready for a true genuine partner to share your life with and create a family. I'm looking for a needle in a haystack here but haven't given up that it could happen.