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My self-summary
The first thing I should tell you about myself is something that I have learned about myself, touch is extremely important to me. And I'm not only talking about sexual touch, even more powerful is simple touch. Holding hands as you walk, sitting next to each other so your thighs touch slightly, a hug that gives a full embrace. I've been told that my touch is solid, present, powerful, seductive and sweeping. That makes you either go mmmm yes, want to just snuggle up with me, or be ravished by me. The reactions to my touch is one of my favorite things. So when we meet, please ask for a hug, I love giving hugs, and judge for yourself.

I suppose the best way to sum me up is, Connection.
Connection of the heart, touching others lives with empathy and understanding. Being able to connect on a deep spiritual level, a level of laughter and joy. Honoring each others separate and uniqueness while at the same time enjoying our connections and shared ways.

Connection of the mind, sharing our similar interests and fun. As well as going over and debating our differences, finding out how each other thinks and feels and experiences this thing called life. And all the while learning both more about ourselves and our world around us.

Connection of the body. Touch of a hand caressing the bark of a tree, touch of a good true deep hug from a caring friend, touch of warm lips across sensitive flesh yearning to burn in passion. Touch of all kinds is needed in me, touch that holds honor and connection in body, mind and spirit. For without the other two, the body is just sensation without true wonder.

When it comes to BDSM style play and what kind of person I am, as well as sexual orientation, well I had to come up with my own terms.

First I'm a sensualist, I enjoy sensations and fully getting into an experience. To feel all the joy and passion from a single touch.

For orientation I'm bi-sensual. By that meaning that although I can enjoy pretty people (male or female) and can enjoy rubbing my hands over them. Although I've never yet felt that gut sexual desire towards another man.

And for the kink side, I'm a service top. So I usually like to be in a dominant role. But where my pleasure comes in is the energy play between us as you go into a mind-blowing experience of ecstasy. I love riding another joy and passion and that is where I get my payoff for the experience.

And the last few things that are key to me:
Honesty both to each other and more importantly to ourselves.
Communication is critical in my life, I wish to be clear with my desires and needs and help those around me to be clear with theirs. For by knowing and understanding each other we can more easily help one another accomplish them.
Polyamory, which means that I can be romantically fully in love with more than one person at a time. And I feel my partners can too. I don't really feel jealous of others spending time with, flirting, or playing with my partners. As long as there is clear communication, respect and's all good. So if your interested in me romantically/sexually, please be aware that this is the way I am. Currently I'm not involved in any committed relationships though.
Kinky, yes I'm kinky and to me that means that sensually and sexually I'm not limited to mainstream viewpoints in what I enjoy.

I am sensual, insightful, and grounded
What I’m doing with my life
Currently living in a shared home with housemates in Portland. Working as a massage therapist. Seeking interesting experiences and thoughtful people to share them with. Running and playing in interactive improv live action theater style interactions for fun (LARP). And enjoying my time with my friends.
I’m really good at
Connection, communication, honest touch, cuddling, listening, juggling, fire-spinning, roleplay (roleplay as in role playing games, but also as in roleplay for sexual play too), fun card games and board games. Long discussion into the night snuggled up with one another. Discussing philosophy, sociology, theater/film, nature, religion and science.
The first things people usually notice about me
My joyful energy...oh and my beard braided down to my navel.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Shel Silverstein, Rumi, Robert Heinlein, parabola (magazine), various sci-fi and fantasy books.

Movies: 12 angry men, The Abyss, The Adventures of Baron Munchhausen, Buckaroo Bonsai, Always, American Beauty, Better off Dead, The big Chill, Big Fish, Big Trouble in Little China, Blade Runner, Blues Brothers, Brazil, Children of Men, Chorus Line, The Company of Wolves, Dark City, Dark Star, Dogville, Donnie Darko, Edward Scissorhands, 5th element, Fight CLub, The Fisher King, The Fountain, Gladiator, Hedwig and the angry inch, the Hogfather, the hudsucker proxy, Jacob the liar, Jacobs ladder, labyrnth, lady in the water, life as a house, lord of the rings (all of them), meet Joe Black, mirrormask, nightmare before christmas, Pans Labyrnth, the prestige, the razors edge, seven, Shaun of the dead, sixth sense, stranger than fiction, this is spinal tap, titus, the usual suspects, What dreams may come, Shortbus, The Fall.

Television: American Gods, Babylon 5, Battlestar Galactica, Carnivale, Dr. Who, Firefly, Heroes, neverwhere, outer limits, ultraviolet, venture brothers, Studio 60 on the Sunset Strip, West Wing, The Newsroom.

Music: Ani Difranco, Beethoven, David Bowie, Dar Williams, Dr. Steel, Heather Alexander, Bach, Jonathan Coulton, Paul and Storm, Richard Cheese, Richard Shindell, Simon and Garfunkel, Stephen Lynch, Tom Waits, Uncle Bonsai, The Wet Spots, Bob Dylan, Blues Brothers, Cat Stephens, CCR, Dead can Dance, Evanescence, Gogol Bordello, Indigo Girls, Jethro Tull, Lyle Lovett, William Elliot Whitmore.

Food: I like mostly anything except raw onions (cooked is great), super hot spicy (thai is great but not super super hot chili..I want to taste the food). Some of my favorites are: Sushi, Salmon, and Asparagus.
I also love trying new foods I haven't had before...bring on the different and new. Woo hoo!
Six things I could never do without
Touch, cuddles, deep conversations, rain, green plants, passion.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Theater/ritual/roleplay, relationship patterns, philosophy.

I'm a bit of an introvert/extrovert mix. I think a lot about thinking and how things are. Why we think and feel the way we do. And I need my alone time to be quiet. But I've also found out I love to be an extrovert with little inhibitions. So I want to jump into the middle of things in a wild group of people and 200 of my friends. But then after go to my room and not see or speak to anyone for a day or two. An odd dichotomy but it works for me.

As for theater/ritual/roleplay, I love to evoke emotion in others. To set a scene and have it play out, touching all the senses and thought to bring a tone and experience. To have the thought and emotion awash those present and flow though them. It is a great joy to touch another.

I am recently reevaluating my personal view on love and relationships. Finding the negative patterns I have been doing in my life and trying to discover what actually would be a healthy relationship that I desire for myself. Rather than going off of my instincts for who to fall in love with that has lead me down painful repeating patterns. I think a lot about this lately.
On a typical Friday night I am
Going out to an event with 20 to 150 people there. Laughing and talking for hours with friends, snuggling close and connecting with all.

Or home working on projects completely alone. Perhaps watching an interesting movie or show that intrigues me. Or playing silly games on my computer.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
There is nothing consensual about clowns. (and this is a good thing)
Feel free to ask about this

Personal growth is an incredibly good thing, healthy thing and rewarding thing. But sometimes when your in the middle of it, it fucking sucks and you just wish you could jump to the end.

Also that right now I'm exploring a lot about myself and my own inner patterns both positive and negative. Finding what things connect me more and bring joy into my life and keeping those and working to make myself a better person.
You should message me if
Your a giving person who is looking for someone else who is equally giving.

Your a passionate person, who in a relationship loves to share all your thoughts and feelings with the one you love. And inquire just as much about the thoughts and feelings of the one you love.

Your very affectionate with the one you love, having an overflowing of touch, words and messages of connection and appreciation. And you enjoy receiving back just the same.

Your passion and sexuality is a major part of you that reaches into your intellect, spirituality and creativity as well.

I've piqued your interest and would like to know more.

You enjoy snuggles or sensual touch and would like to see if we click as friends, just a quick snuggle or something more. It's never any pressure when meeting someone new just to see if you click.

You enjoy a very open person who enjoys good company on a multitude of levels and doing many different things.

You are curious, for I'm a very open book and I don't mind questions ever, so if you have an interesting question, please ask. And feel free to ask me anything.

If something in my profile made you smile, even if you don't feel like connecting with me, drop me an line to say so. People don't give compliments that they really feel, often enough. And even if we never meet, a nice little conversation online is always good.

If you think "Hey this might lead at very least to some interesting conversation, or maybe a new friend." All relationships for me begin as friendships, with no expectations of what's to come, only delightful surprises.
The two of us