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My self-summary
I think life is like one of those chose your own adventure books, except a million times better as there are no wrong choices, just opportunities to learn and grow. Sometimes these opportunities may be painful, but out of pain comes resiliency.

I like asking lots of questions.

I am a shy extrovert. I enjoy the company of others who like to partake in long interesting conversations about anything and everything but sometimes have a hard time in really big crowds of people.

I get great joy in cooking for others with tasty, healthy, fresh, local ingredients.

I love to cuddle and snuggle.

I am interested non-violent communication, active listening, and other tools and techniques to help people
increase their emotional intelligence and better connect with each other.
What I’m doing with my life
Growing, shifting, learning

I left my twenty years of experience in the tech industry in February 2015 to start a food cart serving "local fare with Indian flair." So far I'm happier than I'd been in my tech job for years even though I am pushing myself physically more than I ever have before.

I an open marriage with the amazing lotusgaze. We're totally in love but our vows focused on freedom and authenticity, devoting to support each other in our individual growth and in exploring other relationships.

I own a home that I share with 4 other people and am working on turning into an example of environmental, social, financial, and spiritual sustainable living in an urban setting. Shared resources, permaculture, food forests, rainwater harvesting, consensus based decisions, chickens, etc.

I am working on purging and minimizing my material belongings and living a simpler life where I enjoy the beauty of day-to-day experiences instead of amassing possessions.

Exploring my spirituality. I was an militant Richard Dawkins style atheist in my twenties and have shifted over the last few years to a place of much more openness and acceptance. I find that I resonate with spirituality grounded on personal inner work and spiritual atheism far more than supernatural based spiritual practices.
I’m really good at
Cooking a mean curry

Being there for my friends and loved ones with emotional support when they need it

Not getting enough sleep

Being extremely silly...

Oscillating between extreme shyness and bubbly outgoingness
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm assuming my hair since I get many comments on that.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I am kind of polyamorous about everything and I don't like to list favorites b/c what I feel like eating, reading, doing is completely dependent on my current mood and I get different things out of different experiences.

I used to read a lot of sci-fi and the works that have influenced me the most are Dune, Stranger in a Strange Land, and Neverness, which unfortunately most people have never heard of in the U.S. :( These days I read a lot of recipe books and also doing a lot of reading on how to run a business successfully. :/

Movie wise, I love everything from the deeply serious to patently absurd B movie. Inspiring directors include Kurosawa, Gilliam, Wes Anderson, Richard Linklater, Christopher Nolan

Insert obligatory "I do not own a TV but get addicted watching random shows such as Firefly and True Blood on the Internet" quote here.

Music wise I listen to just about anything though I prefer music I can dance with, not just passively listen to. I don't really follow music genres. If I like how it sounds, it's good enough for me. I will admit that I get sucked into pop music when it is on the radio.

I <3 all food from asparagus to zaatar.
The six things I could never do without
- Food: Local, organic, grown/raised ethically (but I'm not so snobby...I admit to eating fast food when on roadtrips and there's nothing else around)

- Intellectual stimulation

- My bike

- Community: Lovers, friends, snuggle buddies

- Good beer
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How we're going to survive as a species given the issues of resource declination. How can I live in a more sustainable manner while still enjoying some of the benefits our technology-driven society?

Food and cooking. What am I cooking next? What spices will go with the veggies I just got from the farmer's market?

Love, Sex, "Relationships." I don't like that word b/c we have relationships with every person we come in contact with and it has been co-opted to mean a very specific type of connection between two people. What exactly does my version of polyamory/openness look like down the road.? I don't really like the terms "primary" and "secondary" and at the same time I do want to build deep, meaningful, long-term connections with people.

These days I've been thinking a lot more about race and diversity as I keep noticing that I often am the only non-Caucasian in gatherings around Portland. I'm specifically wondering how to grow the sustainability movement beyond the bubble of inner PDX and the organizations that cater mostly to young Caucasians.

How do I merge my logical, scientific view of the physical world with spiritual ideas and experiences? I've recently had what I can only call a spiritual awakening of sorts and I am working on understanding what it means to be spiritual without being superstitious.

I've also started to think about gender as a social construct lately as I don't really fit into the traditional Male gender role and am fairly comfortable expressing my feminine side. Sexuality too...I list myself as "bi" but I've only played with a few men and am discovering that all physical body types are really hot and sexy to me regardless of gender and that what I like sexually is kind of all over the map and can't fit into a box.

The concept of of identity and how we define ourselves ("beer geek", " "computer geek", "introvert","foodie", etc...) and how those definitions both allow for connecting us to others and also limit us in expanding ourselves.

I'm not serious all the time and also think a lot about funky outfits (I <3 the bins), good beer, board gaming, and general silliness.
On a typical Friday night I am
These days, I'm at my food cart until 9:30pm or so and then if I have the energy, I like to go dancing. If no energy, than chilling with a drink is my go to. My weekend is Monday/Tuesday and I try to go on bike rides, visit with friends, work in the garden, etc.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I am working on practicing complete and total honesty and transparency in my life (note how long winded this profile is!) so don't want to have anything I don't want to admit. Ask me any question and I'll answer it.
You should message me if
If you got down this far, congratulations. :)

You are passionate about something you do whether it be work, a philosophy, music, comic books, a certain type of food, beer, sexuality, bikes, etc. Whatever your fancy, you like to share it with others but you do not think your "ism" is better than other people's "isms". You are interested in doing your part in changing the world in whatever way feels true to you. You are creative. You are curious about the world around you. You question yourself and are open to change and to new possibilities in your path. You can, or are at least do your best to, communicate transparently and compassionately.

You want to go an adventures by bike, or go explore the local food scene, or go to music shows, or geek out over open source software, or work in the garden, etc....

You are kinky and would love to help someone new to that world explore that aspect of themselves.

You want to explore the local food and beer scene. Sadly most of my beer snob and foodie friends have split town. :/

I love to meet new people I and am open to meeting friends, adventurers, cuddle buddies, casual lovers, make out partners, etc.

You want to meet in real life for tea, coffee, beer, and adventures versus emailing back and forth for weeks! At the same time, you are OK with the fact that as a new small business owner, I am pretty busy and not available super regularly.