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My self-summary
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(1) I am in need of cuddling. If you find me potentially
cuddlable, let me know and we'll see if it's a match.

(2) I have been informed that my profile may make
me sound like a a serious person, potentially lacking in
humor!! The people responsible for writing my profile
in this way, have been sacked.)
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My emails used to end with "Sensitive new age anarchist slacker hippie geek", and that's still a good one-liner:

The first part is from Christine Lavin's "Sensitive new age guy", which I was accused of being by a girlfriend long ago, because I know how to listen, appreciate others' emotions and can express my own. That's probably why years later I got into Nonviolent Communication (among many other cool processes). I'm not really new-agey in the crystals-and-energy sense, though I am open-minded. Recently took part in a witch camp which among other things got me more into making music again.

In place of anarchist I've sometimes had "communist" or "socialist". Any of the three are there partly for the shock value, but mostly because I resonate with a lot of the deep assumptions in all three philosophies.

Slacker because I think it's important to not take life too seriously, to be able to relax and have fun.

On the surface, hippie for my long hair (which it usually is - my current picture is from when I shaved my head a few years ago). More deeply from being a free spirit, and valuing love and the do-it-yourself and exploratory aspects of hippie-dom.

Geek because I've been way into computers and science fiction for most of my life.

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On a separate note, I am fairly committed to polyamory. That doesn't mean I don't want a committed relationship (I do - at least one!), it just means that I don't want to be automatically restricted from getting close to other people, nor do I want my significant others to be restricted in that way.
What I’m doing with my life
Filling out my profile on OK Cupid. (Yeah, I can be annoyingly literal :-).

It's been a weird few years, with what feels like an increasing invitation from the universe for me to really attend to my personal growth and development. I've been on and off accepting this invitation more, and in new ways. For a month or so this manifested as meditating and going for a walk every morning with a good friend. It's also taken the form of conversations with my soul (out loud and on paper), taking a co-counseling class, attending a few local Friends' meetings and going to a witch camp. I'm currently getting some counseling, working with a life coach, and putting some effort into reinvigorating the local Nonviolent Communication scene (I'm deeply steeped in NVC).

I'm also engaged in World Undomination, by spreading process awareness in general, and some very particular systemic, large-scale processes. Related to that, I do software design on a very cool wiki software project with awesome people, and then use said software to develop websites for worthy projects.

Next year (2014) I'm walking across the country with 1,000 other people to inspire action on climate change. For more info on that see climatemarch.org
I’m really good at
Listening, and seeing/hearing the good in everyone.

Stepping back and seeing the big picture.

Being the first in a group to dive in.

Holding space for others to be fully who they are.

Soaking up the complexities of a situation and connecting things that weren't obvious.

Punctuating sentence fragments as if they were sentences.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Non-fiction faves include The Tao of Democracy (Tom Atlee), Engaging the Powers (Walter Wink), Ishmael (Daniel Quinn), Crazy Wisdom (Wes Nisker). Fiction, mostly SF - Iain M. Banks, Vernor Vinge, Kim Stanley Robinson, Octavia Butler.

Harold and Maude; Ferris Bueller's Day Off; Fast, Cheap & Out of Control; The Man From Earth; Terry Gilliam's work.

Amanda Palmer, Alexi Murdoch, Regina Spektor, Jonatha Brooke, lucy heart star, Sufjan Stevens, Spoon, Sister Rosetta Tharpe, Phish, The Weepies, The Beatles, and much, much more!

South Asian food (especially Sri Lankan, like some iddiyappam and a hot eggplant curry); ice cream; Chinese (homemade bao - anyone know where to get dim sum in Eugene?); a hearty soup on a cold day; carrot cake.
Six things I could never do without
Six? Six!?

Air. Conversation. Water. Touch. Food. Love.

Laughter. Light. Music. Sleep. Wonder. Silence.

Net access. Ice cream. Tension. Stretching. Cuddling. Long, laden looks into a loved-one's eyes.
On a typical Friday night I am
There is no typical Friday night, or any other time. Each is its own unique self. I could be sleeping, or reading random interesting websites, doing dishes, listening to music (at home or out live, preferably dancing), on the phone with a friend, or out looking at the stars.
You should message me if
...you would like to talk on- or off-line, or get together for tea or cuddling :-).
The two of us