70San Miguel de Allende, Mexico
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My self-summary
Creative, laughter-driven and independent nest builder/wanderluster, ready to embark on the next adventure. Raised and schooled in Philadelphia, got the musical beat in NYC and Chicago, became a connoisseur of the outdoors and Western living in San Francisco. Former pinball wizard and jacks champion, dedicated flosser and exceptional parallel parker.

Safari, river rafting, sailing, or cultural/artistic pursuits...I have or will try almost anything once, but under no circumstances do I bungee jump. My desire is to visit Bhutan, where the government is kept in power as the result of high gross national happiness scores.

I'm a successfully rehabilitated hi-tech Silicon Valley workaholic, and probably have taken this retirement thing way too seriously. How many women do you know who pick up and move to another country? Think Gilda Radnor's zany Girl Scout; Meryl Streep's independent woman in Out of Africa; Diane Keaton's hopeful romantic in Something's Got To Give and Meg Ryan as best friend and moaner in when Harry Met Sally. Throw in THE Joan Wilder as played by Kathleen Turner in Romancing the Stone.

Looking for intelligent, articulate, optimistic, energetic companion who has no preconceived notions of what the relationship possibilities could or should be. The partner I seek should be kind to kids, dogs and the environment and have gotten the upper hand with his curable disorders. If you promise to laugh at my jokes, ignore the bad hair days and help me with advanced mathematics, I will be a supportive mate, droll conversationalist, gracious hostess, inquisitive travel and activity partner and the one whose friends describe her as a "class act" and"the real deal."
What I’m doing with my life
Currently live la vida loca in central Mexico where I drench my full and glorious days and nights in a culture that believes each day is a reason to celebrate. And while I love Mexico, I'm at a juncture in my life when I can live almost anywhere, or divide time between different locations, one wishfully near water.

A typical day might include working on an architectural rehab or interior design project, managing a construction crew or joining friends for a jazz concert or art opening.
I’m really good at
Making people feel comfortable, creating warm and inviting living spaces, cooking, leading large groups or complex projects, making business decisions, finding bargains, kissing and making love.
The first things people usually notice about me
My smile, my joy for living every day in the moment, and that I come from a lineage of seriously funny people.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Anything about architecture or design, legal and medical thrillers, cook books for ideas and cultural guides, auction catalogs, building plans. David Sedaris. Fiction, interspersed with biographies, current political thought and social commentary.

Lobster, sushi, chocolate, home grown heirloom tomotoes with fresh basil, sea salt and EVOO. House, Bill Mahr, Rachel Maddow, NPR. Mabel Mercer, Pink Martini, Motown, Zydeco, Vivaldi and Pavorotti. Watching The Wizard of Oz for the umpteenth time.

Warm brownies with undercooked gooey centers and french vanilla ice cream. Wouldn't throw away rum raisin, either.
Six things I could never do without
I would be lost without my family and friends. Interesting and compelling architectural/design projects ignite me. My sense of humor, at times sarcastic, other times punny or dry, keeps me from getting too full of myself. Duct tape. The semi-colon. Planning my next travel adventure. Sharing a wonderful (jointly prepared) meal and conversation with a diverse, accomplished and worldly group of friends.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Where I would live if I didn't live in Mexico; the state of politics and the economy in the US; the fact that I have a greater chance of being killed by a terrorist bomb than finding love at this age.
On a typical Friday night I am
Running home to walk and feed the dog after a day away managing a large construction project. Yeh, the gringa gets respect. After getting the pooch settled, I'll put on some jazz or classical music, cook something scrumptuous for just me, or get ready to go out to dinner or a concert with friends.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Hidden away in my music collection are some Barry Manilow tapes.

It's undoubtedly shallow, but I use the breakfast test when viewing profile pictures. What's the test, you ask? Could I look at this mug over the breakfast table and still eat my cereal?

I can be a tad too optimistic and trusting for my own good, so I need you to treat me with tenderness, honesty and always tell me when there is spinach between my teeth or lipstick on them.

I lean toward liberalish positions politically. Though we don't need to agree on everything, I categorically refuse to have an intimate relationship with anyone who is a neo-con. Further, if you are the highly religious sort and get offended by someone who questions the value of institutionalized religion, then I'm not for you.
You should message me if
Your answer to "Tell me about the fire in your belly" does not include a description of last night's chili.

Need not apply: hypocondriacs, complainers, extremists, men with hair longer than mine, you have not done your own inner work, your most frequent association is with your parole officer, your picture is also your mug shot, you have an ongoing passionate relationship with your car or bike.

On the other hand...You are someone who lives in the present, has learned from the past and is secure enough not to have worry about the future. Your kids are mostly grown, but will insist on bringing the grandchildren back to visit because they want you to influence the next generation. You care what you put into/do to your body, none of us is getting any younger, and you want to make sure all parts are in good working order. Newton was right, gravity does work, but you clean up real nice.

You love to travel respectfully, frequently off the beaten path, read a variety of different genres and don't mind that I love to dance. Like me, you've had a successful professional life, but came to realize that the second half is when the real fun starts. You are a lover more than a fighter, and know the many sides of any issue can equal a yes rather than a right or wrong.

You promise never to go to bed angry, or become part of that old couple who never speak to one another in the restaurant. You value direct and considerate communication and believe a mutually satisfying sexual relationship is part of that package.

Last, but not least, you do not consider it one bit outrageous that "the one" is a lady who lives in another country and takes a bit of risk and effort to get to know.
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