Safari, river rafting, sailing, or cultural/artistic pursuits...I have or will try almost anything once, but under no circumstances do I bungee jump. My desire is to visit Bhutan, where the government is kept in power as the result of high gross national happiness scores.
I'm a successfully rehabilitated hi-tech Silicon Valley workaholic, and probably have taken this retirement thing way too seriously. How many women do you know who pick up and move to another country? Think Gilda Radnor's zany Girl Scout; Meryl Streep's independent woman in Out of Africa; Diane Keaton's hopeful romantic in Something's Got To Give and Meg Ryan as best friend and moaner in when Harry Met Sally. Throw in THE Joan Wilder as played by Kathleen Turner in Romancing the Stone.
Looking for intelligent, articulate, optimistic, energetic companion who has no preconceived notions of what the relationship possibilities could or should be. The partner I seek should be kind to kids, dogs and the environment and have gotten the upper hand with his curable disorders. If you promise to laugh at my jokes, ignore the bad hair days and help me with advanced mathematics, I will be a supportive mate, droll conversationalist, gracious hostess, inquisitive travel and activity partner and the one whose friends describe her as a "class act" and"the real deal."
A typical day might include working on an architectural rehab or interior design project, managing a construction crew or joining friends for a jazz concert or art opening.
Lobster, sushi, chocolate, home grown heirloom tomotoes with fresh basil, sea salt and EVOO. House, Bill Mahr, Rachel Maddow, NPR. Mabel Mercer, Pink Martini, Motown, Zydeco, Vivaldi and Pavorotti. Watching The Wizard of Oz for the umpteenth time.
Warm brownies with undercooked gooey centers and french vanilla ice cream. Wouldn't throw away rum raisin, either.
It's undoubtedly shallow, but I use the breakfast test when viewing profile pictures. What's the test, you ask? Could I look at this mug over the breakfast table and still eat my cereal?
I can be a tad too optimistic and trusting for my own good, so I need you to treat me with tenderness, honesty and always tell me when there is spinach between my teeth or lipstick on them.
I lean toward liberalish positions politically. Though we don't need to agree on everything, I categorically refuse to have an intimate relationship with anyone who is a neo-con. Further, if you are the highly religious sort and get offended by someone who questions the value of institutionalized religion, then I'm not for you.
Need not apply: hypocondriacs, complainers, extremists, men with hair longer than mine, you have not done your own inner work, your most frequent association is with your parole officer, your picture is also your mug shot, you have an ongoing passionate relationship with your car or bike.
On the other hand...You are someone who lives in the present, has learned from the past and is secure enough not to have worry about the future. Your kids are mostly grown, but will insist on bringing the grandchildren back to visit because they want you to influence the next generation. You care what you put into/do to your body, none of us is getting any younger, and you want to make sure all parts are in good working order. Newton was right, gravity does work, but you clean up real nice.
You love to travel respectfully, frequently off the beaten path, read a variety of different genres and don't mind that I love to dance. Like me, you've had a successful professional life, but came to realize that the second half is when the real fun starts. You are a lover more than a fighter, and know the many sides of any issue can equal a yes rather than a right or wrong.
You promise never to go to bed angry, or become part of that old couple who never speak to one another in the restaurant. You value direct and considerate communication and believe a mutually satisfying sexual relationship is part of that package.
Last, but not least, you do not consider it one bit outrageous that "the one" is a lady who lives in another country and takes a bit of risk and effort to get to know.