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My self-summary
Artist seeks muse.

Life has been one hell of a ride so far.
I've got stories of trial, tragedy, and triumphs.
I've got stories for days.
Some of the best stories are happening now.
Now I'm looking for a love interest in my newer stories. Admittedly finding my romantic co-lead hasn't been a focus in a bit. Since the passing of a fiancée, I have mourned and healed. Gained an understanding of purpose and executed on that. I've chased down and achieved some dreams. I got to scratch some items off of The List. I've been thru hell, but my life's pretty awesome.
I'm at a point where I'm ready to find the right person, and until VH1 turns my dating life into a reality show, I figure I'd give this a try.

You're still reading this and I'm sure you'd like to know a little bit more about me. The profile might be a lil long, but this is a good start on who I am. Almost every thing mentioned has a story behind it. If you have questions, shoot me a message. (See, there's your icebreaker right there.)


I am usually the most interesting person in the room.

I am also the most humble person in the world.
No one is more humble than me, no one. ;^]

Even tho I joke about ego sometimes (I am a Leo, very Leo), I am actually really humble. I'm grateful for everything. I take nothing for granted. Even on my worst days, I find things to be thankful for. Especially on my worst days, I find things to be thankful for.

I'm proud of my wins, successes, and achievements. When I do fail, I do my best to not fail in the same way twice. The unlikely chain of events that had to happen for me to be here now is an incredible story. With a few different turns, my life would be vastly different. You can be a victim of circumstance or the victor over circumstance. Whatever is in the way, is the way.

It's been a wild ride so far professionally. I have worked in television news as a Video Journalist. I've freelanced for Dateline NBC as a Video Journalist. I've worked in the sports department at tv stations where I did everything but appear on screen, from shooting game highlights to interviewing athletes and coaches to writing copy to producing sports segments of newscasts. I've worked in the news department of a country music radio station as a Reporter (never quite fit in there). I've worked as a Traffic Reporter before. I took what I learned in the tv news biz and applied it to owning and operating an online bicycle magazine. I was a professional sports Mascot for one night. I have done a lot of video work for second-tier professional sports teams in football (CFL 'eh), baseball (AA), hockey (IHL), and basketball (NBA D-League/CBA). I worked on a horse racing television show. I have shot photos for a magazine from the United Kingdom. I've had work featured in a German magazine. A project also got coverage in France. I've shared stages and opened up for national level music acts as a DJ. I am an accomplished Performance Poet. I've acted in a few films. I've appeared in reality TV and network television series. I've had cameos in a few music videos. I've performed spoken word sets at music shows. I've been quoted in magazines. Interviews with me been published. I've been interviewed on podcasts. Been quoted in print magazine ads. I've got a nice lil stack of print coverage over the years. I've played SXSW as an official showcasing act in 2010 and 2011. March 2012 I played one of my dream gigs at one of the highest profile events during SXSW (after having received a lifetime ban from said event). I went on my first tour in August 2012, gigging around Colorado for a couple weeks. Since every SXSW since 2013 I've shot interviews for the best interviewer in music. The interviews I shot for him have a combined five million YouTube views. For some of the artists, it's their most well known interview. I play and provide back up vocals in a band. We recently played to a sellout crowd in New Orleans. If you'd be into a band that sounds like LCD Soundsystem meets Nine Inch Nails with a dash of Misfits, hit me up for a soundcloud link for my band's music. I was the DJ for a film-centric latenight talkshow. I'm working on a semi-autobiographical novel about an artist very much like myself.

I've got some BIG things in the works.

You ever feel like the Universe/God/Life is preparing you for something?

I didn't live thru nightmares to sleep thru dreams.
I've been through some horrible tragedies in my life and suffered some great losses. What got me through it is being unflinchingly optimistic.

I am neither a 'glass half full' or 'glass half empty' type of guy. I'm am grateful I have a glass and I'll fill it up my damn myself.

When hard work isn't enough, luck usually intercedes. I am also incredibly lucky. My hail mary passes usually get caught.

So, yeah, usually I'm the most interesting man in the room.

I set highly improbable & slightly impossible goals, and find ways to make them happen. Then I go after a lil more highly improbable & slightly more impossible goals. Then repeat.

I believe my best days are ahead of me.

I am a firm believer in treating people like people. I don't care if the person is homeless or famous. You find the humanity in the person. Then you speak and interact with that.

I believe in being genuine in all aspects of life. I think most of my successes have come from being genuine. Why change now?

When I feared heights, I bungee-jumped from 150ft. Little did I know that event would be become a physical metaphor of how I handle fear, problems, and adversity.

I haven't always been the person I'm now. There was a time I didn't like how I was living. Micro-changes and nudges have altered trajectories. After years of every day trying to do just a little better than the day before it, I live a better life than I could have imagined.

I may not be rich, or ever be rich, but the things I've done, seen, experienced, I doubt a billionaire could duplicate. I get to live an amazing life.

I like going on adventures. If you're looking for a fellow adventurer, I might be your guy.

You can't shine without friction.

When the world gives me sh!t, I plant roses.
What I’m doing with my life
Workout. Work. Create. Play. Write. Wash. Rinse. Repeat.

Working harder and smarter on the business side of my creative endeavors and seeing results.

I may not be making it grandly, but I'm making it.
I’m really good at
...playing the right song at the right time.
...being in the right place at the right time.
...having a good eye/ear for what's 'next'.
...willing things into existence.
...lifting heavy things.
...making the kitty purrr (obligatory semi-overt sexual reference).
...making people laugh.
...seeing the best in people.
...being the human radar detector.
...defying odds.
...my signature peptalks (recycling what I've told myself before).
...rising to the occasion.
...dragon slaying.
...shooting photos (I wouldn't call myself a photographer, but I can get great photos from any camera, from $5 disposable cameras to camera phones to full-on rigs.).
...writing long profiles that just barely scratch the surface. "I contain multitudes..." - Walt Whitman.
The first things people usually notice about me
Swagger. Confidence. Charisma. Magnetism. Presence. It. Joie de vivre. Cocksure-itude. Je ne sais quoi.

I'm BIG.
I'm a BEAST.
Heart of a lion.
Strength of a gorilla.
Build of a bear.
I am a bull of a man.
There's two types of overweight guys, guys who are f-¢king chumps and guys who are f-¢king awesome. The former are whiny self-pitying complaining sad-sacks. It doesn't matter what size you are, that's not attractive in anybody. The latter are the opposite of that. The latter are magnetic. I tend to be the latter. It makes more sense when you're around me.
Since working out as a way to cope with mourning after back to back to back to back to back to back deaths, I have become freakishly strong. Admittedly I'm a bit of king sized gym rat, but this is how I turned tragedy into triumph.
If I'm in the Fantastic 4, I'm The Thing. If I'm in the X-Men, I'm Beast.
Nothing about me is average. Once you see it, you see it. If you get it, you get it.
I'm a BEAST in search of his BEAUTY (because I still believe in great stories).

It's like finding the right car. Some of y'all are looking for a sports car, but they require a lot of upkeep. Some of you are looking for a luxury sedan, but when those break down, it takes a lot to get them going again. Some of you are looking for a good ol' pick up truck. You might be ready for a mini van. What am I? I'm a Hummer. I'm a Range Rover. I'm an Escalade. If you're interested, come kick the tires and maybe go for a test drive. I'm a good smooth ride.

I am surprisingly photogenic. Go look at my pictures. See for yourself, unless you've already looked. I'll wait here til you get back.

See. I told you. It even surprises me at times.

My shaved head. I have a magnificent bald head. I was cast in an Armenian mafia film. Before shooting I was told my character didn't have my blond spikes, so I decided to cut it down and then shaved it. I've kept it shaved since then.

My laugh. I laugh a lot. I am the Laughing Buddha. My laugh has been called infectious. Generally if I'm laughing, other people will be laughing too.

I don't "act my age" very well, though I'm not immature.
I was with my ex-wife for eight years. After that ended, I decided to reclaim those years, take 'em back. A mulligan. A do-over. So that makes me like early to mid 30's right now. Barton Springs IS the Fountain of Youth.
I still get excited about life. Music is still important to me. Riding my bicycle makes me happy. Creating something that didn't exist before and seeing it affect someone is thrilling to me. I believe love is the answer. I still believe I can impact this world. I don't feel much different than I did in my thirties and twenties with the exception of accumulating the wisdom that revolving about the sun this many times can bring you.
People never guess my age correctly.
Anger and stress ages people quickly. I address anger and stress before I'm angry and stressed. It keeps me looking young. Most people my age are older than me.

I don't blend in very well. I am unforgettable. It's a gift and a curse.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Back in Louisiana, where I grew up , there was this pimp who after finding Jesus got out of the pimpin' game. He grew several legit businesses but every Sunday afternoon he was on the radio. His radio show was all Blues, 70's Soul, Rhythm & Blues and Funk. Over the years I got a musical education every Sunday. It's been years, but a lot of that music is still the soundtrack of my Sunday afternoons.
I'm definitely a Prince-Stan. I've thrown Prince parties at clubs with Prince and Prince associated music. If there were Prince clothes at the Big&Tall, I'd likely dress like Prince every day. Prince's passing hit me hard.
Hip Hop is the Rock & Roll of our generation. I literally grew up with it. Old School, Middle School, Golden Era to New School. How does anyone under forty not have at least some rap songs they like? I could teach a college level poetry class on Biggie lyrics. Hip Hop made me want to be a DJ. Becoming a DJ made want to discover and explore music of other genres. Being a DJ has given me some of the best times of my life.
Louisiana music (in all its forms) is a part of me. Jazz, Cajun, Zydeco, Brass Bands, Swamp Pop, NOLA Bounce, Ratchet Rap from Shreveport & Baton Rouge, and more are all encoded in my musical DNA. If it's played on WWOZ, it's a part of me. I didn't realize how much my culture was a part of me until I got away from it.
I'm digging a lot of the synthy indie stuff lately. It really scratches an itch for me.
I have a weakness for 80's/90's R&B and New Jack Swing.
When asked what my favorite type of music is, I usually answer 'good'. I don't care about genre. If it connects, it connects. Does it move me? Does it make me wanna move? Music is like food to me. Some days I want a good meaty steak. There are days that I only want to listen to musical veggies, stuff that's good for you. Other days some poppy sweets with empty musical calories. I don't eat the same thing every day, I don't listen to the same music every day.
I could talk music all day. One of my favorite things about SXSW is for a week, almost all my conversations are about music.

There is no specific genre of books that I am into. The books I read serendipitously find their way to me.
I had never heard of Daniel Quinn's Ishmael til three people told me about the book in the same day.
Man's Search for Meaning by Victor Frankl was a game changer for me.
There is a lot of wisdom in The Prophet by Kahlil Gibran.
I like Phillip K Dick. It amazes me how accurate his vision of the future was.
I just finished reading Questlove's Mo' Meta Blues. "When you live your life through records, the records are a record of your life.” His story of rollerskating with Prince is worth the price of the book alone.
I really related to Love is a Mixtape by Rob Sheffield. The book is about the author suddenly being thrust into being a young widower. I've got a very similar story.
Recently read Marc Ecko's 'Unlabel: Selling You Without Selling Out'. It's a marketing book from an artist's perspective. Should be a textbook for any creative types.
Recently read David and Goliath and then Blink by Malcolm Gladwell.
One of the recent books I've read was the long awkwardly titled Brothas Be, Yo Like George, Ain't That Funkin' Kinda Hard on You? A Memoir by George Clinton. George Clinton is my Spirit Animal.
The Little Prince by Antoine de Saint-Exupéry recently found its way to my hands. I think it was supposed to be a children's book, but it was incredibly profound and found myself really blown away by it.
I'm currently reading 1 Dead in Attic by Chris Rose. It's about post-Katrina New Orleans. Some pages have made me laugh. Others have made me feel like my heart was going to burst from pride. Still other pages have broken me to tears. For Louisiana folk, it's still a raw nerve.

I don't watch as many films as I did. I blame great hour long tv dramas like The Sopranos, Breaking Bad, Dexter, etc...
A band member and myself were recently interviewed on a podcast talking about our music and Star Wars. That was a good night.
I like all the Phillip K Dick film adaptations.
I think Richard Linklater makes some of his movies specifically for me.
I really love Jeunet's films, Amelie, A Very Long Engagement, etc...
I doubt the Alamo Drafthouse will ever let me into another screening of Purple Rain.
In the right frame of mind I like Pixar (& Pixarish) movies. I think it's genius how most of them work on a kid and an adult level.
I saw Song of the Sea recently. It is like the Irish version of Miyazaki's Spirited Away.
My pops and I weren't the toss the football around father and son. Our bond was Bond, James Bond. He passed a few years ago. When I miss my pops I'll watch a 007 movie.

TV, I can take it or leave it. There are some great television shows. There are some horrible shows also. I watch the good stuff and do other things over the bad stuff.
During football season I am in front of tv for New Orleans Saints games and LSU Tigers games. Football is more than football. (Being an Alabama or Auburn fan or alum is a DEALBREAKER. #GeauxTigers)

I eat a lot healthier than I use to. I'm always looking for ways to eat 1% better than yesterday.
It's taken me awhile to break my Southern palate. I do indulge a little when I go back home to Louisiana. Po-boy's, jambalaya, catfish, gator, oysters, boudin, etc... After three days back home I want to eat healthier and I miss tacos.
If loving tacos is wrong, I don't wanna be right. If I want authentic, I know where to go. If I want orange cheese TexMex, I know where to go (and avoid). What Torchy's and Taco Deli is what I call ATX-Mex. A friend calls it Stoner-Mex. A friend and I are reviewing tacos around Austin on a variety of platforms. We plan on publishing an Austin taco guide next year.

I'm a bit of an art dork. I love going to art openings.
Jean-Michel Basquiat is one of my all time favs since college. I've got two Basquiat stories within one degree of separation.
I like Banksy. I've got one of his prints when I was playing NOLA.
When I was 13 I had a splatter print short for a school photo because it reminded me of Jackson Pollock.
My first apartment had a half dozen Salvador Dali prints on the walls.

I'm stoked Serial has returned. I kick myself for not coming up with Get Up On This. A Waste of Time is hilarious. The Tim Ferriss Show is great. Harmontown is funny if like Rick & Morty or Community. Hardcore History with Dan Carlon is great longform podcast that has accompanied me on travels. The Cracked Podcast is funny and informative. TED Talks.
The six things I could never do without
-Good workout-
'Get fit or die trying' is the workout mantra. I started working out to get healthier and drop some pounds, but I wasn't expecting the impact it's had in my life beyond that. It's as much mental as it is physical. Dare I say spiritual too, because at times the gym has felt like church. The bench has been my pew. During the darkest time of my life, I found relief at the gym and now I'm stronger than I've ever been. I have literally transformed pain into strength. Finally found the right mix of weight/cardio/diet for me and dropped over 100 lbs in the last year and a half. I'm usually at the gym every other day, and cardio in between. I never thought I'd be so into working out, but fav thing is riding my...

I grew up on bmx, had a job in the bmx industry for nearly a decade. In the last year I got rid of old street/skatepark bike. Injuries. Last year I got my first "adult bike". I've got a single speed road bike now. One or two days a week, my car stays parked all day and I pedal. I can usually be found on the Hike & Bike trail along Lady Bird Lake a few times a week. Nothing beats riding around listening to....

It is like food, air and sunshine, I couldn't live without it. Music has made the good times better and made the bad times bearable. Sometimes music is a drug, but there are times music is medicine. Hearing the right song at the right time can change your day. The world is my music video when I'm listening to my...

I swear my soul is on that thing. I prefer not filling up my phone with music, and I'm a slow adopter to streaming. I love that I can have thousands of songs with me at all times. I love being able find the perfect song for almost every moment. That helps when I'm behind my...

-my DJ Gear-
I am a DJ. I've had amazing times doing amazing things with amazing people behind my turntables and mixer.

...and the most important...

-my Integrity-
I have to be able to look at myself in the mirror. I hold myself to high expectations.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
-What can I do 1% better than I did yesterday?

-I usually have lots of irons in a lot of fires. I think about how I can move projects forward.

-How do people get bored? Boring people get bored. I think I was bored once when I was seven years old.

-Being thankful. Big things. Small things. Opportunities. Family. Friends. Etc...

-Being in awe of the talents of my friends. I've surrounded myself with incredible people who inspire me to do better, work harder and strive to live up to my full potential. With friends like mine, peer pressure is usually a good thing.

-I don't think a lot about it, but what in the hell is up with guys sending "dick pics"? Has that ever worked for any guy? Maybe I'm old school, but I've never got someone's number and thought it would be a good idea to send a photo off my man parts.
The only way I'd even take a dick pic is if it was the best dick pic ever. I'm not going to just shoot it myself with a cell phone. It would have to be in a studio. I'd need a skilled professional photographer. It would need to be lit with three point lighting. I'd need a stylist on set. I might also need a fluffer. It would take thousands of dollars to produce my dick pic, and what's the return on investment on that? I'd much rather it be a pleasant surprise at the right time with the right person. It doesn't do me any good for someone to see my man parts on their phone. Just like myself, it's much better in person.
Even if I had the best dick pic ever, I'd have whoever I'm sending it to sign a non-disclosure agreement and have it notarized. I've been in the thick of it for awhile and getting close to big things I've set out to achieve. I've worked too long and hard for my TMI to ever be on TMZ.
On a typical Friday night I am
Some Fridays I'm Superman, other Fridays I'm Clark Kent.

Some Fridays I'm dining with friends, adventuring on my bicycle, at the gym, or writing. Other Fridays I'm on stage somewhere, at shows that friends are playing, or finding myself at the right place at the right time.

I find joy in it all, in both the big moments and the small.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm seriously a late adopter as far as online dating. This whole online dating thing baffles me. I'm not even sure it's for me and/or how much longer I'll keep up the profile.

I've heard horror stories about how people misrepresent themselves on this site. I don't get that. Why do people do that? Do you. Be you. Someone out there is smellin' what you're cookin'. Don't fake ya funk.

I rarely make first contact here on OKC. In the rare occasion I do reach out and make first contact, I have picked up on something about you that piqued my interest.
It's 2016 and I think it's kinda sexy when a woman goes for what she wants (*especially when it's me). With the nature of online dating, OKC turns meeting new people into shopping. Men hunt, women shop. This plays to your strengths.

If a picture is worth a thousand words, then I guess I could have just posted a picture and a half. I'm a writer. I'm a 'words guy'.

This is just the tip (of the tip) of the iceberg, but it serves as a decent outline of who I am.

...and yes, THIS IS WHO I AM. I'm a little larger than life. I'm a lil' over the top at times. I'm Jazz, I'm not for everybody and I'm a bit of an acquired taste. I'm not subtle flavor, I'm bold flavor. I'm wired a little differently. I'm a dreamer and an achiever. I'm both an alpha-male and an artist. I take what I do seriously, but don't take myself too seriously. I might be the luckiest man alive. I'm blessed.

Sex is like ice cream, with love it's a sundae. While I do enjoy a good dish, I'm looking for something really decadent and satisfying. Ice cream may satiate an occasional sweet tooth, but a good sundae is made with the toppings we both crave.

I'm really good at reading people except when it comes to romance, then I am the King of Oblivion. I have a tendency to overlook the obvious at times, often comical levels of obliviousness according to friends. I'm horrible at detecting interest. 'Signals' and 'subtleties' often don't blip on my radar.
You should message me if
...you are still reading my profile. I've held your interest this far. You've invested some serious time if you're still reading this. I'm the Dostoyevsky of OKC.
...you got any questions about anything on this profile.
...you are both 'interesting' and 'interested'.
...you have superpower(s)? (show me yours, I'll show you mine)
...you are an adventurer looking for another adventurer to go on adventures.
...you can date an artist/musician. I've learned that it's not for everyone. It's not for the insecure.
...you have less than four cats. (craziness grows exponentially with every cat over the third.)
...you have healthy self-esteem. We all have our off and down days, but if that's your everyday, we won't likely be a good fit.
...you think we are, or could be, a good match.
...you are more of a participant in life, rather than a spectator.
...you got a gym membership that let's you bring a +1 and you wanna workout.
...you'd like to call me Big Poppa.
...you are a fellow artists and have creative work online. (Show me yours, I'll show you mine)
...you can clap on the two and the four.
...you got a great SXSW story (or seven).

...you have exquisite taste in men. (if you are interested and are messaging me, then I know you have excellent taste in men.)