44 Quincy, United States
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My self-summary
End of an era. RIP OKC!!! This account will be deleted soon.

I answered over 800 of your questions, but you can't come up with adequate matches.

The dating pool is too murky here.. this is THE place where married men work out their ambivalence on single women, trying to see if they could toe the line of infidelity without actually being unfaithful.

Now that Facebook can find people by your contacts, you can't give out your number to guys for talking.

Too many scammers creating fake accounts, and are now bypassing the the filters. They write "hi pretty" and I recoil in disgust without fail, and they always add in incorrect language "I will like to know you" - same incorrect language 5-10 messages daily from the scammers. They ask how long I've been on the site, and ask how I'm doing with it. A real man wouldn't ask about his competition. A real man has better things to do than waste a woman's time.

------ and lately zero available men, just married guys, scammers, and abusive guys. Technically, I've been sexually assaulted by two dates as well, but is that really OKC's fault???

I feel used by guys who were never honorable to begin with. They just only wanted someone to write to, never to date. Someone to work on their gnarled psyche with, but did they ever get better?

I've experienced harassment here as well. The army dudes, or just ones who write from far away and then ask for money have killed what could have been a great way for singles to meet.

Loved you while it was fun!

I love art galleries and museums, road trips, outdoors, nights out at quiet places so we can talk. Happy. Productive. Active. Spiritual. Open. Warmth.

Old fashioned lady with a modern twist, seeking a gentleman with an interesting perspective on life, who also has time for hanging out together in person, and is open to exploring the more nuanced parts of relationships.

The best love relationships happen when you're on top of your game, but also open for feedback.
What I’m doing with my life
Love my work, and I enjoy my co-workers.

When not working: seeing friends, planning adventures, acupuncture, yoga, meditation, cycling, swimming, genealogy, studying for therapy license.

UMass Grad counseling degree with a Harvard Grad ed school degree in back pocket...(something to fall back on) :)
I’m really good at
-listening, synthesizing, & encouraging transformation

-being a supportive friend
The first things people usually notice about me
:::Optimism- it makes me look younger
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Favorite getaways:
Local - Wompatuck, Great Meadows, Great Brook Farm State Park, Walden Pond, Duxbury Beach
Semi-local - North Woodstock, NH; Kancamagus highway; sailing down the Saco River; wading in the Pemigewasset River; Conway and North Conway, NH

I love Food!: Thai, Japanese, Indian, Cuban, Mexican, American, Ethiopian, Italian, Greek, Afghan

Radio: I enjoy local radio stations NPR/wbur (on Being, Dear Sugar, On Point, this American life, the moth, TED radio hour, Fresh air), college radio, etc.

Music: Jon Anderson; Yes; and Yes spinoffs (ARW, Anderson Ponty, Jon and Vangelis); early music, world music, bluegrass, roots, Americana; prog rock, math rock, psychedelic rock

Humor: Louis C.K., Stephen Colbert, Amy Poehler, Danny Kaye, Harold Lloyd

Influences: Thich Nhat Hahn, Krista Tippett

Art: Wyeth art, abstract art, museums/galleries, Open Studios...

Culture: i love so many cultures... ✨
The six things I could never do without
I spend a lot of time thinking about
-:- the next fun thing...
On a typical Friday night I am
It varies: out with friends to dinner, planning a date, or going solo, maybe watching a movie or relaxing.
You should message me if
A lot of options out there, but you think we could have a chance at love...

You want a partner & equal... and a challenge

You enjoy making the first move (date night)

Obligatory disclaimer- must meet to see if there's connection, no long-term back and forth, no depending on technology to get to know me