42Baltimore, United States
Join today
Find great matches with our advanced matching system!
Join today
Find great matches with our advanced matching system!
My self-summary
(I'm based in Baltimore, but I travel a lot.)

First things first. I am not single. I am attached to a beautiful woman but we have an open relationship and have had such from the start. We don't do drama.
So while I'm not necessarily looking for a new relationship on the side, I am open to whatever the universe may throw my way.
I'm open to everything from a FWB situation to a full on secondary partner, with something somewhere in the middle being the ideal.

And for the record, this isn't about finding a mythical third (unicorn) for me and my partner. Although I am certainly not averse to it, as she is into women at least as much as I am. Also, any real, *actual* Unicorns are also welcome to message me. I promise I won't drive you into the sea with the Red Bull at your back.

I'm pretty heavily tattooed and am attracted to same, although that's certainly not a requirement. Nature and animals are very important to me and sort of form the core of what spiritual leanings that I do have.

I am animated, happy, and occasionally verbose.
I will never have a beard. The current hipster trend of adopting "homeless man chique" has never appealed to me in any way. Also, I'm incapable of growing a beard. Sometimes, genetics smile upon you.
What I’m doing with my life
Well, a few years back I went and got divorced, left the career that I had held for 13 years, and moved back to my home town of Baltimore. Started fresh.

I currently manage a hobby game store. Yes, that means I sell board games, D&D books and magic cards to nerds all day. And I love it. I get to go to work every day and SHARE FUN with people. Are some of our customers poorly socialized weirdos? Sure, but most of them are fantastic people. And ya, know, glass houses and all.

I recently moved into a new place after a few years of transition, and I'm hoping to start up my hobby of carving wooden masks again soon. Something that I was trying to focus on when I decided to disassemble my life instead. :)
Once upon a time I was an anthropology student, and I still am, in my own way.
I’m really good at
Telling stories.
I'm also really good at eating Haribo Gummy bears.
The first things people usually notice about me
Well, honestly, it's usually the blue dreadlocks or the tattoos. And I have good teeth, damn it. Can we talk about bad teeth? Total deal-breaker. Seriously. I see some stunningly beautiful, intelligent women with just some JACKED teeth. Breaks my heart. *ahem* Sorry. But yeah, usually it's my ridiculous personal aesthetic.
Sometimes people also seem surprised when an articulate, well reasoned human being starts speaking out of my body. *shrug*
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Watership Down, The Lord of the Rings, Robin Hobb, Jacqueline Carey, Joseph Campbell. I basically read tons of fantasy fiction and natural science books, although I also read my fair share of social science stuff and anthropology. I am fascinated by religion and mythology and the place they hold in our lives.

Movies: The Shawshank Redemption, The Lord of the Rings, Braveheart, Dark Crystal, The Fountain, Moulin Rouge, The Prestige, Baraka, Dances with Wolves.. too many to list here

TV: I don't *really* watch TV. Hell, haven't had cable for almost 20 years. That being said, some stuff has made its way through to me. Carnivale, Game of Thrones (big fan of the books), The Office (original UK series only), Sherlock.

Music: PETER GABRIEL, James, Depeche Mode, VNV Nation, Midnight Oil, early Levellers, Tool, Afro-Celt Sound System, The Sounds, Shiny Toy Guns. I'm into a bit of everything, really. Although I have no love for modern R&B or modern Country. That being said.. Stevie Wonder? Johnny Cash? You bet.

Food: fresh seafood, sashimi, really good fried chicken.
Six things I could never do without
In no particular order...
1. Music
2. Books (I have far too many. It's a problem, really.)
3. Animals (Any and all. I have a cat named Aslan and I used to breed Honduran Milk Snakes, of which I still have quite a few. The cat is named Aslan not so much for looking like a lion as it is for thinking he's Jesus.)
4. Love (yeah, cheezy I know. But my brother once told me that he thought I was addicted to falling in love. Probably not far off the mark.)
5. coffee (my only chemical vice really)
6. trees (the only reason I could never live in the southwest.)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
the various writing projects that have taken up residence in my brain. Left to it's own devices my mind finds itself living with tree-frog-men in a mist shrouded mountain jungle or on a neon-striped pterodactyl flying between cities in the clouds.

...and going back to Bali. I left a part of myself there, methinks.
On a typical Friday night I am
Relaxing with a movie at home, or out drinking and dancing until they kick me out.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
So I already mentioned this when I began, but monogamy doesn't work for me. I won't lie or cheat, but I am, for lack of a better word, polyamorous. Yeah, this is usually the part where all the ladies run screaming. Oh well. At least I'm up front and honest about it.
You should message me if
If you're not terrified by polyamory. You've never used the words mousy or shy to describe yourself.
The two of us