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My self-summary
I am usually intelligent, but alcohol or attractive women both lead me to do foolish things. I don't drink much at all anymore so now it is just women. I am often told that I am attractive, at least I clean up well.
I am just me, I take life as it comes. With humor, sarcasm and the realization that we all are just trying to get from the beginning to the end as best we can and that no one gets out alive.
I am also married in an open, wonderful, incredible "polyamorous" relationship. That word is in quotes because each relationship is unique and I don't want you or me to be trapped by what we think it means. If you want to know what it means to me and my amazing wife, just ask. Her profile is: aroseisxox.
A note about the percentages on here.....my wife and I are only a 90% match and 60%(!) friends and even 6% enemies. One of my best platonic friends and me are only a 46% match and 40% enemies! Real life is different than algorithms. Take a shot, message me.
What I’m doing with my life
Learning. Constantly learning. I try not to define "what I am doing with my life" by my job. I have a great gig right now, that I fell into. I have had great jobs, and horrible jobs, been good at all of them, but my jobs don't define me, nor "what I am doing". So, besides learning, what the F*&% am I doing? Being really happy. Reading, travelling, growing on a personal level. Being constantly amused by the absurdities and wonders of life. Glad to be alive, every day.

I recently decided to go back to college. My greatest regret is never having received a degree. So I am skipping the undergrad and going for my MBA at the UW Foster school. Update: I received my MBA last June, very glad I did it.

But about half the time, what I am doing is eating, laughing, watching sports, reading, watching MSNBC, flirting or otherwise wasting a brilliant and obviously humble mind.
I’m really good at
Figuring things out, trying to sort things out. I am really good at seeing the riduculous and contradictory in others, because of course, I have none in me. I am good at building and fixing things. Not cars, but houses and things around houses.
I am good at listening to what people mean when they say things. Not the just words, but the meaning and hidden intent. Honest, really, I do this. But only when I am concentrating. I can be a self centered, not paying attention man, just like any other guy. You have to get my attention. Bright shiny objects, big words, new ideas, beauty, they all get my attention. Did you ever notice that when someone says "honest" or "frankly" or "sincerely" in a sentence, it indicates that they aren't being that way? hmm....
The first things people usually notice about me
My sense of humor. Really, I'm usually very funny, in spite of this answer.

No one ever notices the scar on my lip from the knife fight at age 3, I am always perplexed by that. Or are people just too nice to ask about a scar on your face?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Favorite movie of all time, "Bull Durham". It's not about baseball.
I also really like "The King of Hearts". I love movies, love talking about movies and "film" of course. The 2 finest films ever made, for very different reasons, are "Schindler's List" and "Apocalypse Now". Not my favorites, but the finest films ever made. It's okay, go ahead and debate me, change my mind.
Butch Cassidy and the Sundance Kid. Lawrence of Arabia. Sgt. York. Annie Hall. Broadway Danny Rose. Goodfellas (I can watch any part of that, at any time). Field of Dreams. Chicago. Eight Men Out. Matewan. Actually any John Sayles film. Any Coen brothers movie, ever see Blood Simple? Terrific. Spotlight was very good, I didn't like The Revenant, at all. I see that he is a great director, I just don't like his movies. Straight Outta Compton was very good and I liked it.
I loved The Grand Budapest Hotel, keep thinking about the structure of Gone Girl and found the move Ted to be surprisingly funny.
I just saw "Ex Machina" and the sign of a good movie is I keep thinking about it. Ex Machina is a very good movie. Visually interesting, smart and obviously, thought provoking.

I read, a lot. I read a wide variety of things. Mostly non-fiction. I recently read "Predictably Irrational" really good book. I like American humorists. Keillor, Trillin, Sedaris, P.J. O'Rourke is one of my favorites and of course the master of them all, Twain. I try and read the "essential novel of each decade" in my never humble opinion. Catcher in the Rye. Catch-22. The World According to Garp. Bonfire of the Vanities. Among others. I read John LeCarre when I want to think about characters and plot, but knowing "Hey this is just a spy novel, mind candy".
For my suggested reading list for others, "You're Not So Smart" is a great, quick read about the way we perceive ourselves. Fooled By Randomness and A Random Walk are good reads. The Signal and the Noise, is a readable, fun book about how statistics should be viewed, plus it 'splains some things. ;-)

Foods...it is too difficult, let's just say I am picky. I almost always have the same thing for breakfast at a restaurant.

Music, I love the blues. Then rock n roll. Then the blues.
Six things I could never do without
And then the 4 "Esses":
Sleep, Sex, Sports and Sustenance.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Ideas, work, sex, relationships, philosophy. No, not philosophy in the common sense. Ideas and how they change things. History and what things means to us today. How people interpret their lives and experiences.
Religion and religious beliefs. I am an atheist, which is a belief system, after all the universe proves one of two things: there is a god, or there isn't, and none of us know which it proves. But I used to be a fundamentalist Christian, so I have an odd background.
I think about women a lot. Not just sexually, although, I am sure that takes up a lot of my thoughts. Not too much, maybe not enough, but a lot. Wait, is that too open and direct? Damn.
On a typical Friday night I am
Watching a movie, reading, having dinner, flirting, the usual.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I have been to jail, but only for 2 days. The food was terrible, but a tall crack dealer, who was a great guy except for the part about being a crack dealer, watched my back and taught me to play dominoes for money.
You should message me if
You are very open minded. I am in an open relationship with my wife, who is on OKCupid as well. We are poly/open/swingers whatever you wish to call it, and I like making new friends and lovers.

So, I can be a friend, date, sounding board, partner, whatever. Just come with an open mind.
The two of us