I'm mostly a homebody and a creature of habit. I can be super boring in that regard. I'd much rather smoke a joint and debate the merits of the latest episode of Westworld than go out. I also love to talk about music, though not in a snobby-white-guy-who-wanted-to-be-a-music-critic-for-Pitchfork sort of way. I like food but I'll also eat the same thing every day for weeks at time because I like routine.
I'm sociable in one-on-one situations, in a group I'll probably be the one quietly taking it all in. I am constantly thinking. I sometimes stutter or repeat words, sort of like a record skipping. I am either intensely focused on one thing, or maniacally focused on 10 things at once.
I've been told I'm funny and the students I TA for laugh at my jokes, although I don't know if they actually think I'm funny or are just being polite.
You probably shouldn't ask me about my research unless you are into listening to rambling, highly esoteric discussions of sex work and disability theory.
I'm intuitive, sensitive and generally empathetic. I have absolutely zero tolerance for bullshit though. I know how to communicate my needs/wants and I expect anyone I date/fuck to be able to as well.
Please don't contact me if you are in a relationship and looking to cheat.
I am able to host with advance notice. It'd be nice if you could host sometimes too. I do not fuck in cars or at people's parents house in secret. I'm too old to be sneaking around.
Working on a PhD in the Gender, Feminist and Women's studies program at York.
Supplementing my meagre TA pay with sex work. I mention this because it's my job, not because I'm trying to solicit you. Think about it, this would be a pretty inefficient way of attracting clients and the first rule of hooking is money up front, always. If I wanted your money, you'd know it.
Or, I dunno, the monochromatic nature of my wardrobe (all black most of the time), or my hair (undercut!) or that I go from sweet and friendly to scathing in no time if you're an oppressive POS.
The Witches by Roald Dahl
The Princess Bride by William Goldman
One Hundred Years of Solitude by Gabriel Garcia Marquez
Whores in History by Nickie Roberts
Generally, I read any and all science fiction, though I tend to be drawn more towards dystopian sci fi, feminist spec fic and magic realism stuff that isn't necessarily sci-fi.
My theoretical/academic interests are feminist theory, postructuralism, queer theory, sexuality, embodiment, desire, representation, histories of sexuality, feminist histories (esp. of prostitution/disability), sex work/sexual economies, emotional/affective/sexual labour, performance/performativity, and disability. Oh and Foucauldian discourse analysis. I love that shit.
The Big Lebowski, Only Lovers Left Alive, Moonrise Kingdom, Ghostbusters, Buffy the Vampire Slayer, Dawn of the Dead, Shaun of the Dead, Army of Darkness, Oldboy, Audition, The Descent, Little Miss Sunshine, Terminator 2, Total Recall, The Royal Tenenbaums, Rushmore, Amelie, Harold and Maude, The Nightmare Before Christmas, Secretary, Planet Terror, The Addams Family, Dead Alive, Monster Squad, Memento, Hot Fuzz, Code 46, Fallen Angels, Antichrist, Thirst, Wet Hot American Summer, The Shining, Session 9, Drive, etc.
I watch a lot of tv shows. I also watch a lot of shit.
Vampire Diaries, The Originals, The 100, Orphan Black, Brooklyn Nine Nine, Bob's Burgers, Better Call Saul, Buffy the Vampire Slayer, Twin Peaks, Rick and Morty, Peepshow, Stranger Things, Heartless, 3%, Glitch
I will listen to just about anything once. I haven't met a genre of music I didn't like but I tend to gravitate towards 80's goth/post-punk, hip-hop/rap and pop music with a smattering of alt-country. Oh and I like 60's girl groups, Dolly Parton and Patsy Cline.
PJ Harvey, The Cure, Joy Division, The Smiths, Kanye West, The Weeknd, Rihanna, Nina Simone, Fugees, Heart, David Bowie, Prince, Grimes, FKA Twigs, Kendrick Lamar, Juicy J, Meek Mill, Big L, MC Lyte, The Stooges
FOOD: Anything with goat cheese, Reubens, Haagen Daz chocolate peanut butter ice cream, asparagus, edamame and pickled eggplant. I rarely eat meat (my partner is vegetarian). I will actually eat just about anything though. As long as there's no cilantro. That shit tastes like soap.
*hanging out with this guy: Trap-a-holic
-you want to do depraved shit to me (looking for the Dom to my sub).
-you want to get stoned and watch movies/listen to music
-you want to do all of the above