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My self-summary
The best way to reach me is DON'T MESSAGE ME HERE. I will answer all reasonably (or more) thought out messages.

No, "Hey, you're pretty." is not a good message. If you think I would be fun, you're right. Now give me a couple reasons to think you are fun. Bonus points if one of them is something I say I like on here.

I'm KINKY, that's whips and chains kinky. I love couples....any gender! And people who switch! It's spring, so everything is blooming. Some chances to just play with folks I find hot are awesome. This does not mean that I only play with kinky people. I do only play with confident people who can communicate clearly.

**no bareback** Don't bother if that's what you're looking for.

I've been in Seattle about seven years now with my Dear Husband and our 2 munchkins, 17 and 19.Hubby has a primary and they have a one year old. I have a new lover who is a wonderful, deep excitement and touches me in places I haven't been.

I volunteer with the Center for Sex Positive Culture, where I run events occasionally, including Myself! ~ the masturbation friendly sex party. Their site is

My coaching and teaching site and I also work in retail.

I'm looking for a "Yes, you can!" kind of partner who isn't afraid to tell everything straight-up and still manages to be an encouraging force in the world. I am tall, often quiet, kinky and BUSY. I am interested in intentional community, growing things, kimchi and travel.
What I’m doing with my life
Thinking a lot about food and GMOs. Doing my best to manage my teenager and failing splendidly. Riding the bus a lot. Spending as much time with my lovers as I can.

Contemplating, exploring too many possibilities. Missing playing sax. Working out a couple of times a week, and still failing to do my yoga, even though I am a happier and more successful person when I do it.
I’m really good at
Running masturbation parties....seriously.... and it's great fun.

Managing retreat weekends like Aphrodite Temples.

Touch & Coaching. See

Coming up with fabulous ways to do things. Discovering the silly mistakes in your system. Figuring out the best ways to share information and organizing stuff (not my stuff). Bliss, sometimes. Making lasagna. I have been known to bake bread with 28 cups of flour regularly. I love to plant flowers and I garden as well.

I'm pretty good at remaining calm, thank goodness!
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm a bit of a wall flower most of the time. The silver in my hair. I'm quite tall. Often I'm volunteering or managing something.

My eyes. I'm really good at looking normal.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Oh, The Places You'll Go B:The Princess Bride

Muisc: SJ Tucker & The Wetspots & Charlie Daniels, Jonathan Coulton.
Food: Mexican sushi, Ethiopian, almost anything someone else cooks. I really loved our house share when I only had to cook one nite a week, but got meals 6!!
Six things I could never do without
sex, dark chocolate, a passport, food/air/shelter, communication, family!
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Getting things done, making life simpler, water and rainbows. I adore waterfalls and will do quite a lot to play in them. I wonder why what we say we wish is so often NOT what we go for. And if we get what we wish, we are so often not happy. Mostly I don't mean this personally.

If being in one place is really better than being a gypsy. The three years we spent on the road full-time got way old for me, but there are moments when I would almost go back.
On a typical Friday night I am
Resting because I work at 5 on Saturday and 4 on Sunday.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I love waterfalls!

My family life is Complex. Hubby and I celebrate one night a week, Tyler is here a few times most weeks. And, in really good weeks, I manage to see my girlfriend, too. Still, there could be for an open minded, sex geek who loves to talk about it, read about it, study it and more. If you think sex is like driving, you learned how to do it 20 years ago and you're a master...we're not a good fit.

I am in serious need of a bdsm top who is geeky about it, or a switch who can top regularly. These conversations must start in an equal place, dominance in a relationship is earned, a great gift.
You should message me if
You are kinky and fun. I'm especially looking for a guy taller than me for events and women who switch. YOU ARE A SEX OR KINK GEEK.

To sail, kayak, or have sushi downtown.

If you'd like to bring me some dark chocolate.

You are intrigued by being lit on fire. (Yes, I'm serious.)

(but, really, use my e-mail ...please! and do include your OKC name)
The two of us