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My self-summary
Hello! I'm Alex.

You can probably tell just by looking, but my profile is really long. Hope you're okay with that, because that's just how I roll. Please read it all if you're interested. :)

Before we get into the details, let me get the labels out of the way. I consider myself a queer; an intersectional, inclusive, sex-positive, body-positive feminist; polyamorous, pansexual, and an agnostic atheist. Hopefully you're positive/neutral towards all that, because they're all pretty big parts of my identity.

I'm in a happy, open, polyamorous marriage. I'm fairly new to the polyamory scene, and I'm currently looking to make new relationships. Rationally, I could probably do one-night stands, but emotionally, I'm much more comfortable around people I know, so more committed, longer term relationships will certainly work much better for me. I'd also be interested in establishing non-romantic friendships, although my main purpose for being here is romance.

I consider myself pansexual. If you haven't heard of it before, it's basically bisexual with the bi- part, meaning "two", replaced with pan-, meaning "all". The word bisexual only makes sense if you're into exactly two kinds of genders. I don't believe in the gender binary, and I can't think of any gender identity that would stop me from being attracted to a person.

That being said, I tend to be more attracted to femininity/femme/twink expression than masculinity/butch/bear expression.

I'd be lying if I said that looks didn't matter to me, but I've been blessed (in my humble opinion) with a very non-discriminatory sense of attraction. I can honestly say that there have been an extremely small amount of people that I have ever seen whom I would have considered thoroughly unattractive. That's not to say that I don't think there are degrees of attractiveness, and that I find some people more attractive than others, but rather that I find almost everybody I've seen attractive in some way or another. I love that about myself.

I definitely do not fit society's mold of a "man's man." I like to think I have a good balance of masculinity and femininity. I'm very sensitive, and I will typically cry at emotionally charged moments, be they happy or sad. I have a strong sense of empathy, and I can't stand to see suffering in others.

I'm a very silly person, and I typically feel chipper and upbeat. I'm kind, almost to the point of being excessively so. I should probably stand up for myself more in certain situations. I love wordplay, especially puns. I'm extremely liberal, and I accept or tolerate anything consensual that doesn't cause people harm.

I have mild social anxiety, and I'm very introverted, so I tend to be uncomfortable in unfamiliar/new social situations. I strongly prefer small social gatherings to large social events. I tend to be shy and withdrawn when there are lots of strangers around, especially if I don't know anybody else, but I thoroughly enjoy spending time with friends and family, and they also make me feel less shy and withdrawn than when I'm alone. Of the Meyer-Briggs personalities, I'm definitely an ISTP.

I love games, whether they be board games or video games. I don't really find the time to game all that much anymore, though. Luckily, I have a group of friends with which to play board games on a semi-regular basis.

I like computers. I probably spend more of my time on a computer than anywhere else. I'm a software developer by profession. Computers have fascinated me ever since I was a little kid, and I knew from the moment I got my own computer (this was at age 9) that I wanted to work with them when I grew up.

I've struggled with being overweight most of my life. I'm currently seeing a psychiatrist about it. Not because I care to fit society's expectations of what an attractive person is, but because I'm just so fucking tired of all the unpleasantness that comes with being as overweight as I currently am. I don't believe it's exactly healthy for me either.
What I’m doing with my life
I work with developing software on computers. Off work, I tend to relax and watch YouTube and Netflix.

I don't really have an overarching plan for life, though. I simply enjoy living, and I try to make it comfortable by making enough money to keep a place to live, food to eat, and occasionally buy things I need or want to have.

That being said, I really like languages and I would want to learn at least 10 fluently before I die. So far I speak two fluently, and two really poorly.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I must admit, I read way too few books. A few that have stood out to me are

* Kill Your Boss by Shane Kuhn
* Dear Leader by Jang Jin-Sung
* Gang Leader for a Day: A Rogue Sociologist Takes to the Streets by Sudhir Venkatesh
* Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy by (who else?) Douglas Adams
* The Wheel of Time series by Robert Jordan

There are more books that I want to read than there is time in the world, unfortunately.

As a general rule, I don't really care much for movies. I tend to favor light-hearted comedies, although I'm a big fan of most of Tarantino's work (Pulp Fiction, Kill Bill, Reservoir Dogs and Django Unchained), and those are certainly not light-hearted comedies. I also loved the hell out of Battle Royale.

My favorite TV shows include, but are not limited to (in no particular order):

* That '70s Show
* Game of Thrones
* Family Guy
* Doctor Who
* The Simpsons
* How I Met Your Mother
* Gilmore Girls
* Supernatural
* Big Bang Theory
* Futurama
* Burn Notice
* White Collar
* Castle
* Firefly
* Community

Additionally, I follow quite a lot of YouTube channels; a small sample out of my 95 subscriptions:

* Boyinaband
* CGP Grey
* Cinemassacre
* Domics
* ElectroBOOM
* emmablackery
* feministfrequency
* GradeAUnderA
* Kurzgesagt
* kurtjmac
* lacigreen
* Lindsey Stirling
* Mighty Car Mods
* minutephysics
* mtv braless
* PBS Space Time
* Rebecca Watson
* SciShow
* Stef Sanjati
* thisisnotHolly
* Veritasium

When it comes to music, I like most things. Some major exceptions are certain types of hip hop and extreme rock/metal. My most favorite genre is K-pop. And just in case a Sone comes along: My most favorite group ever is SNSD/Girls' Generation.

I don't really want to talk about food, but I'll say this much: I'm quite a picky eater.

It's not on there, but I'd like to briefly touch on video games. As if I can be brief. I like a lot of different types of games. I'll mention what I don't like, as that's easier than saying what I do like. I started typing out a list of which kind of games I liked with examples, and the list got seriously long. Mostly, I don't care for first-person shooters (the kind where the only point is finding and shooting things; I love 3D first-person games that aren't just about shooting, like the 3D Bethesda games, Portal/Portal 2, Minecraft, etc. I also don't care for multiplayer RTS. Other than that, I can't think of much else I'd dislike. I mentioned kurtjmac in my list of Youtubers above; he's just one of many gamer YouTubers I watch; I probably watch people play video games more than I play them myself to be honest.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Why OkCupid removed the "The most private thing I’m willing to admit" section. It was often the most amusing thing on somebody's profile! Now only those who haven't yet cleared it ever have it. If you're one of them: Beware that you'll lose it if you ever leave it empty! That's how I lost mine!
On a typical Friday night I am
Watching YouTube or Netflix, having a nice dinner and enjoying the fact that two days off work are ahead of me.
You should message me if
You read my whole profile. In dealing with me (at least online) willingness to read is a must. My messages will be as wordy as my profile, so if you're into reading long messages, get a conversation started with me. You won't regret it. :) It helps a lot if you too like to write a lot.

Other than that, please be accepting of/in accordance with my beliefs. There's really no point in talking to me if you think feminism is bullshit or you are going to insist that there are only two genders and so on.

I hope to hear from you soon.
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