I've answered almost 4000 Questions on OKC, but do I get frequent flyer miles, or a cupcake or something? Sadly no!
Ok, get comfortable, this is a long read!
This isn't an easy process and well, maybe it shouldn't be. After all, we are here to find a friend, a companion, a lover, a significant other. That shouldn't be as simple as trying on a pair of shoes, or ordering a pizza. There are no shortcuts. I read a lot of profiles that start with the individuals stating that they're independent and don't need anybody, but they still want to be with somebody. That seems a true enough statement. I'll go further and say that life seems to make more sense, have clearer purpose when it's shared with someone else. In short, yes I want a relationship!
I'm a non-typical Jersey lad (grew up in Waldwick NJ) who moved to Croydon PA last year. Starting a new job in a new town and a fresh start!
So here’s to hoping honesty has its own inherent charms. As of October 10th 2012 the divorced became final. It just so happens October 10th was also my wedding day all those years ago. How's that for irony?
I've have had a few divorced buddies get too comfortable too fast holding up in their man caves and turning into woman haters while playing online computer games and eating order-in junk food. That is not the way I plan to live out my life!
After a long marriage you kind of have to relearn dating skills long since stored in the attic. This is a shy and awkward time (I am really bad at breaking the ice), yes I know I wrote a lot here, but I really am shy. That likely means I'm one of those annoying guys who visits your profile dozens of times, but doesn’t work up the nerve to say hello (it isn't easy being me sometimes). :)
On a side; having read a number of profiles I've noticed that women who love thunderstorms are often 5'3" or less in height. At 6'3" they (storms not the women) scare the hell out of me. Do you think there's a direct correlation between height and fear of lightning strikes?
You should know I a few tattoos, well, maybe more than a few. I hope you're not put off by them. No, I'm not a biker, a drug user, an ex-con, or rebel without a clue. I am an otherwise normal, mild-mannered kind of guy. Yes even nice "regular" people are getting tattoos these days. You could say it's my one crazy, or edgy thing since returning to single life. Kind of a way to break out of a lifetime of shyness. I see them as forms of art and expression. That said, they do not define who I am, they are not for everybody, I won't ask you to get one if you're not into them (hell, they hurt!) and I don't think people should get them to promote hate, or just to shock their loved ones. I guess my outlook is that if I can't be the artist, I can be the canvas.
Note: No shirtless arm-flexing bathroom selfies were used in the making of this profile.
Very well, I admit it. The man of your dreams is out there. He's charming, witty, good looking and well groomed. He keeps himself in shape, smells really good and always knows how to dress. The downside is that he's gay......so what you're left with are guys like me! I am who I am and hopefully you can work with that.
I came across the video below the one night. It's strange, funny and kind of wonderful too:
“My philosophy, like color TV, is all there in black and white” -- A Monty Python quote.
Yes I really, really am single. Not separated pending the divorce, not married and faking it. I’m living single and alone in my own apartment.
Yes I really, really do want a relationship, a long term one. I've been single long enough and being single hold no allure to me. I'd love to get off and stay off the dating sites!
Love History, Museums, Art, Music, Movies and I love to hike, cycle, most anything outdoors and I really miss my kayak which I gave up (for now) because it wouldn't fit in the apartment! I don't hunt or fish, I have nothing against either, I just currently don't as I live near enough to supermarkets.
I do not like travel (many are now thinking "deal breaker"), that is to say I do not like traveling alone. Day or weekend driving excursions by myself are fine, but catching a flight to some far off place I don't like to do alone. Real travel should be a shared experience. I mean if a tree falls in the forest and no one sees it, does it make a noise?
I'm a blue jeans & sneakers kind of guy. I can clean up with a suit and tie, although I likely need a new suit, but casual clothing is generally my default state of attire.
Bonus points if you already live in Pennsylvania. I say that as someone who lived most of his life in New Jersey. Part of me will always be a "Jersey Boy," but like being on this side of the river.
"Announcing your plans is a good way to hear God laugh" -- Al Swearengen "Deadwood"
New Jersey people
They will suprise you
Cause they're not expected
To do too much
They will try harder
They may go further
Cause they never think
That they are good enough
I'm from New Jersey
I don't expect too much
If the world ended today
I would adjust
I would adjust
I would adjust--------------"I'm From New Jersey"
by John Gorka
Check out the whole song:
If you don't like beards, mine is soft, but I shave it off a couple of times per year. If you do like beards, then I grow it back, a couple of times per year!
"I am a conscientious man. When I throw rocks at seabirds I leave no tern unstoned" -- Ogden Nash
Movies: I LOVE movies! Anything by Alfred Hitchcock, most films by Steven Spielberg. Other films: Citizen Kane, Miller's Crossing, Local Hero, The Maltese Falcon, The Duelist, Kingdom of Heaven, Philadelphia Story, Laurence of Arabia, Gandhi, The Uninvited (1944), The Great Race, Chinatown, The Wind and the Lion, The Long Good Friday, The Right Stuff, Monty Python movies etc., a list simply too long to keep on going here.
TV: Lately stuff on Netflix, House of Cards (US version) was great, Liked Lilyhammer and Archer is funny. Some HBO stuff although I stopped watching Game of Thrones (for a time) after the Red Wedding.
"In Italy for 30 years under the Borgias they had warfare, terror, murder, and bloodshed, but they produced Michelangelo, Leonardo da Vinci, and the Renaissance. In Switzerland they had brotherly love; they had 500 years of democracy and peace, and what did that produce? The cuckoo clock!" ---------- Harry Lime "The Third Man"
Music: Rock, some modern Folk (John Gorka), some Jazz, 1940's big band and Motion Picture Soundtracks. Generally I like 80s-90s rock over 50s-60s-70s, but it's all good.
Food: Just about everything! You've got to love food, it's one of life's simple pleasures and hey, you have to eat, right?
Bonus points if you know Yoga as I'd like to try that as an alternative to beating myself up in the gym all the time!
"Some of the greater things in life are unseen; that's why you close your eyes when you kiss, cry, or dream."---Author Unknown
2) Sometimes wonder do we place too much pressure on ourselves trying to establish chemistry on a first date?
3) Why OKcupid Quickmatch keeps showing me profiles of women in Canada. Don't get me wrong, most are really lovely, but they're in Canada! What, are they having a 2 for 1 sale on Canadians?
4) Hoping to meet the women who gets me and I get her as it would be very nice to be gotten again.
5) I'd very much like to wake up with someone on a regular basis and make them breakfast!
6) Living just north of Philly why is it easier to land on the dark side of the moon than it is to drive just south of Philly to meet someone for a date?
"Life is a tragedy for those who feel, but a comedy to those who think" -- Horace Walpole
2) Home watching Netfix, isn't everybody?
I see you approaching, you're the eyes of the crowd
The traffic and people, God, they're all so loud
But in a couple of moments they will all disappear
Because we're ever so close when we're ever so near
I'm waiting for you but you're very late
I know you'll come anyway
And I can hardly wait-------------"Wait"
By Wang Chung
2) I’m of Dutch and English decent which isn’t all that private a thing to admit is it?
3) I prefer mountains to the beach and open flat lowland makes me uneasy (it that a Dutch thing?).
4) I hate Brussels Sprouts and I've never tried Kale.
5) Liking tattoos does not mean I automatically love motorcycles. Lost a buddy to a motorcycle accident and had others seriously injured on bikes. If you like them that's great and I'm happy for you, but I still have my reservations about them.
What? More music? Fine, how about a nice classic played on the Cello:
2) You're sane (really sane) and you think you might be interested in a guy like me (a nice easy going walking doodle pad), or you found that check from Publisher's Clearing House I've been waiting for.
3) You are not sick to death of my numbered lists yet!
4) You think dating a tattooed cave troll could be a turn on!
Closing Caveats (yes you're almost done):
1) If you are less than half my age and try to contact me I will hide my profile from you. I'm not rich and I don't look like George Clooney.
2) If you post and have no photo, that generally means I will not respond. I've plastered my mug on this profile and I'm normally shy. I took a chance so you can too.
If you listened to the other songs on this profile here's one more for the road by Cliff Eberhardt:
“There's nothing an agnostic can't do if he doesn't know whether he believes in anything or not”--another Monty Python quote,