flakita7
33 Seattle, United States
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My self-summary
*[*[On a break from dating currently. Will be back at some point. Feel free to leave a message if you don't mind me replying much later.]*]*

I wrote this mini bio, and am quite fond of it: "[name] lives in a studio in Seattle without a cat, car, or camping equipment. She is still adjusting to the nebulous cloud of passivity that, mostly, blocks the sun, while also becoming less of a neurotic New Yorker who only ever lived in New Jersey."

The most important thing to know about me is that I am interested in making meaningful connections with people, whether the relationship lasts one hour or a lifetime. I rarely chit chat, and am far more interested in learning about your passions and dreams than I am about other subjects. That doesn't mean that those other subjects don't matter to me, or that I don't know how to laugh at myself and have a good time, too. Humans are complex and capable of holding more than one emotion or intention, even if they seem opposing to one another other. Because of this, I require a fairly high level of emotional I.Q. to be in my life in any significant way.

Longer bio: Born in Jersey. Schooled and partied in Manhattan. Moved to Seattle on a wing and a prayer in 2010. I typically open bottles of wine, practice yoga, climb rocks, run on the pavement, dance, and hang out with friends. If I am not eating cheese and crackers, I am thinking about food. If I am not watching a TV show, I am playing Tetris on my DS or reading blogs. Although I’m reading more these days, trust me, I have not read that book and, no, I do not get that literary reference - I will ask you to tell me about it though, as I have no shame on my lack of knowledge of the literary world. I’m also not ashamed at the state of my refrigerator, hamper, or my loud voice. I don’t make the bed, iron clothes, or keep up with politics (but I do read the paper). I would be the best emergency contact if it weren't for the fact that I keep my phone on silent 90% of my day. I firmly believe that having an extensive vocabulary is not a good way to measure a person’s intelligence and capability. If you cannot get my brain going hot and steamy, you will not be able to get my body in that manner either.

I really do like to laugh and have fun, even though my rant above can come across as not-fun! Life is meant to be enjoyed. We create our own paths. Kindness and giving each other the benefit of the doubt is really what it is all about!

If you are here via my Hinge account, please note that I am non-monogamous and this needs to be more than OK with you. Thanks!
What I’m doing with my life
Day job in Public Health and I love it. Exploring the Pacific Northwest as much as I can. Feeling my way through life. Enjoying non-monogamy a lot.
I’m really good at
Making things fun. Being a wing-woman. Dancing. Cracking a joke to ease the situation. Referencing a TV show or movie quote. Knowing what pop song is playing within the first half second that it starts. Recalling TV show theme songs. Remembering people's birthdays. Eating. Babysitting. Making friends in almost any situation. Creating. Distilling the main action item in a problem. Listening and not posing a solution or pointing out a flaw. Patience.
The first things people usually notice about me
My height (that's a guess. I've never asked someone). I love being tall. Lately I've been getting a lot of comments on my lack of an accent once people find out I was raised in Joisey.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
The Brief Wondrous Life of Oscar Wao
Drop Dead Gorgeous
Battlestar Galactica
Musicals
Pop, Reggaeton, Spanish
Sushi, Mexican, Pizza
The six things I could never do without
a creative outlet
my vibrator
wine
pizza
live performances
TV
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The -Isms & privilege (see below for more on that)
Sex
Whatever current poem/prose I am trying to complete
my next travel destination
my next friend date
my next more-than-friends date
Whose birthday is coming up and can I send them a card this year
How to fit more physical activity into my life without feeling too drained
Pizza
On a typical Friday night I am
Ideally: in down dog, then either on a date or watching TV in bed.
Really: whatever I planned, and I do a lot of planning.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Here's everything I have ever listed in this section:

I rarely read the “Favorites” portion of anyone’s profile.
I like to keep my socks on during sex.
I've stapled my own finger. Twice.
You should message me if
You are willing to meet-up and see what evolves organically. I believe every relationship is unique and can become whatever we build together.

I read the following on another profile and it really resonated with me. I got permission to reproduce here: "I do find ... that the people I am closest to are very in tune with themselves and do some kind of personal work. They know what their major distresses are, and actively work on them to become better and more connected people. They've identified their privileges, and probably have done at least some work on the major isms -- racism, sexism, classism, etc. They know how to cry, and they listen to their hearts. If this resonates with you, I encourage you to please reach out."

In addition, please feel free to reach out if:

You identify as a female or a bisexual man.

You get tested for STIs regularly and "Casual Sex" does not equal "one night stand" to you.

You are excited & totally secure with me being non-monogamous.

If you have ever been compared to Christina Yang or Marshall Marshall Mann, I really want to meet you.

You are tall, play video games, love to dance, can make friends anywhere, consider yourself the creative type & active type, and enjoy talking about sex, politics, art, and the intersectionality of them all, and enjoy making-out.
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