36St. Louis, United States
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My self-summary
I'm awesome. No, seriously! I'm not trying to be vain, it's just the truth. I am as brilliant and devastating as the stars that exploded to make my atoms.

I've been described by my friends as: "Completely worth that dollar. I've never gotten more bang for my buck."

I'm in an open relationship. An open relationship means she knows that I'm looking for friends outside of this relationship for things up to and including safe physical intimacy. She is too! We're not looking for a third or a unicorn. I'd link to her if she had an account here, I think she's pretty friggin' great. If you want to talk about that for some reason feel free to ask.
What I’m doing with my life
I work evenings full-time. I have not-enough custody of my outstanding little boy. The second thing is way more important than the first.
I’m really good at
I'm a good listener. I like to do it. I know all about myself, how interesting is that? I like meeting clever new people or people with new perspectives. We don't have to agree to have an awesome talk.
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm loud! I have been coded genetically to lack an inside voice. I talk loud and laugh loud. (I snore loud, oh god.)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Readings - Douglas Adams, rest his soul, was a wonderful writer and it's a shame that he's no longer with us. I've been reading all of the Dresden Files books, no spoilers please! I've discovered I have a mild fascination for private investigators and mix that up with fantasy and a great writer and you have a whole great series. I've got a collection of treatises on strategy and military thought. The Prince, The Art of War, and The Book of Five Rings. This collection is generally found in the bathroom of wherever I'm staying. You know, where the really fierce battles happen.

Watchings - Look, I could list a bunch of stuff here. Have you seen Louie? The FX show? I relate to that show more than just about anything else I've ever seen. If you don't like it you're wrong, and it is okay to be wrong sometimes, but if you understand it you will probably have an uncomfortable amount of insight into how my brain works.

Listenings - I'm nerdy, you figured that out already. My musical taste is no exception. I like They Might Be Giants, Ben Folds, Jonathan Coulton, and other sort of independentish clever lyricists/musicians.

Eatings - I will consume everything, period. Eel has a special place in my heart. I love going to little independent restaurants and trying to discover the next little, delicious place that you haven't heard of but will go to again and again. St. Louis has a surprising number of these. Most of them seem to be on Olive, though. Sushi, Chinese, Thai, Indian, Italian, Mexican, Jamaican, and just plain ole burgers all have their place. I think I like steak less than I am supposed to. Maybe I am just eating it wrong?
Six things I could never do without
Netflix Streaming, a comfy chair, Raisin Bran (What? What kind of old man are you? Who puts Raisin Bran?), Coffee Mugs (I don't like coffee but I love handles for drinking?), Air Conditioning, my awesome bed.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Politics. I've figured out I don't know what the fuck I want here, though. I've changed parties and viewpoints more times than not and am pretty much a wishy-washy independent voter. Recently I have found myself deeply disturbed at the amount of control the conservative side of the argument wants over our daily lives. I imagine they think the same about the liberal side, but active promotion of religion in government and promoting a bias in government against groups of people they think are icky really rubs me the wrong way.

Religion. I'm an atheist, kind of a lot. It's not something I want to force down throats, 'cause who does that help? Religion is personal and intimate and has highly different definitions and is taken with different amounts of sincerity with different people. That being said, if your religion is telling you that you need to oppress, constrain, or act unjustly towards a group of people for who they are or what they believe then me, you, and what you take as your deity need to sit down and have a discussion on the difference between religion and morality.

That's right, I think about the two most awkward conversations you can ever have. Oi!
On a typical Friday night I am
Friday night is my night with my son! That usually means Chinese food and reading and some Mario with him. He is pretty awesome, but it does mean Friday is a non-starter for me. I'm sure you're adorable and all, but he is too and this is his day.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm half-gay on my dad's side. Confused?
You should message me if
You should message me if you've ever looked into the sky at night and seen the stars and the moon and thought, "Holy crap, I'm on a giant spaceship and we're actually in space and I'm so used to the ship I forgot to appreciate the outside." and gotten a chill up your spine. I'd like to talk to someone like that.
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