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My self-summary
My first favorite joke is this and it gets me every time:
Q: How many surrealists does it take to change a light bulb?
A: A fish.

My second favorite joke is this, taught to me by my daughters:
Knock. Knock.
Who's there?
Interrupting Cow.

Yes, I love to laugh and be silly. I think we humans are goofy. I've done stand-up comedy and I teach improv comedy to adults to help them reclaim their sense of fun.

My partner and I are non-monogamous and she is happy to talk to any prospective lovers about her support. We don't live together. I am looking for adventurous, open, and sensual women who are okay with non-monogamy. Extra points if you're bisexual or bicurious. I love the complexity and possibility. It's okay with me if you have another primary relationship or other relationships, as long as we are safe, kind, and responsible, and respect agreements and boundaries. I bring my my whole self to the party (body, mind, spirit, heart) and I hope you do too, but that doesn't mean we have to be heavy and serious. I am also looking for people to play and sing with for grins, and to start a band with.

I am not your standard number ten envelope.

I've been struck by lightning. I've hitchhiked across the U.S. I write and sing songs in the tradition of John Prine. I love being a DODO (Dad Of Daughters Only) to two teenagers. I love people who are different and exceptional, especially creative people. I do contact improv dance weekly and it changed my life and got me in my body. I spent 20 years writing advertising. My life has been a cross between my two favorite movies: Aliens II and Raising Arizona. I usually read about 10 books at a time. I've written a book or two myself, called "Perfect Phrases for Sales and Marketing" and "Marketing, Advertising, and P.R., both published by McGraw-Hill. I have made many mistakes, most of which I have learned from. I can't bear meaningless suffering. I'm the person strangers walk up to ask for money or directions. I had a stroke at age 49 and I started waking up with entire songs in my head, which had never happened before. In the E.R. as I lay dying, I vowed I'd leave something beautiful behind if I lived. I just put out my first album of songs, recorded with some amazing musicians in Nashville, and my health is good. You can check them out on itunes. I'm living proof it's never too late to start over again!

So many of my women friends have commented on this that I feel I should mention it. I have a strong masculine side and I love women, but I also have a strong "feminine" side that is emotionally sensitive and articulate and compassionate, and I love beauty and and conversation and feel deeply to a degree that is apparently unusual for dudes. I am not a wuss, but I do have a pretty high Emotional Intelligence. If you don't like this, you should avoid me.

I am Open, Soulful, Sensual, Courageous, and Improvisational
What I’m doing with my life
Exploring non-monogamy and sexual and sensual adventures.
Redefining wealth as more than money.
Learning to love myself first, then others.
Listening to spiritual guidance and maintaining my sense of humor.
Completely changing my entire life.
Being a better role model for my kids.
Bringing out the best in my friends and myself.
Leaving something beautiful behind.
Putting out my second album, assembling music videos, writing new songs, playing and singing out, putting together a band, looking for people to play and sing with just for grins. If you sing or play, contact me!
Reclaiming my visual art side by painting and drawing.
Working on my eating habits and weight.
I’m really good at
Listening. Observing. Improvising. Accepting. Creating. Joking. Singing. Articulating. Learning. Innovating.
Being sensual, romantic, open, and adventurous.
The first things people usually notice about me
Intense crazy eyes. Big round Charlie Brown head. Low-register voice. Shit-eating grin. Outside the box behaviors. I usually dress entirely in black, but not in that goth piercing blood-drinking kind of way. Laughter and joking.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Book: The Man Who Mistook His Wife For A Hat by Oliver Saks
Movie: Raising Arizona
Music: Anything by John Prine, especially "In Spite of Ourselves"
Food: You can not have a totally bad day and drink a chocolate shake.
Comedian: Steven Wright
Sense: Touch. I am a lover of massage, contact improv dance, and puppy piles.
Sex: I love sex, women (especially bisexual women), connection, and playful intensity and experimentation.
The six things I could never do without
My daughters.
Sex and romance.
My sense of humor.
God (but not the stuffy judgmental irritating kind)
6.6th thing: friends.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How to be a better person.
Learning how to ask for things for myself, receive graciously, rest, and love well.
Sexual/emotional adventures and non-monogamy.
How I can leave something beautiful behind: art, music, stories, etc.
On a typical Friday night I am
Eating dinner and laughing with my daughters or laughing my ass off at a standup comedy show, going on a date, writing songs, or playing and singing at an open mic.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I have been homeless enough to eat garbage and I have been wealthy enough to own a building and a business.
I love bisexual or bicurious women and have had interesting and non-traditional experiences.
My lover dandelionwishes1 wants me to have lots of lovely adventures.
You should message me if
You are looking for sexual, sensual, and emotional adventures and you are comfortable with non-monogamy. You are a thoughtful interesting and kind person with wild life experiences, a sense of humor, a love of conversation, and a desire to learn and explore. The more open, unconventional, thoughtful, and articulate you are, the better. I love "exceptional" people in every meaning of the word. Let's chat! I find OKCupid a very interesting way to get to know others and oneself.

You want to get together and play and sing, either just for fun or to start a band. I just put out my first album of songs on itunes, CDBaby, and Facebook. If Roger Miller and John Prine had a bastard child who went to college and sang like Johnny Cash, you'd have my sound. Send me a message if you'd like to get together and play and sing. I live in Madison WI.