Now, about me...
I am not your rolling wheels, I am the highway. I am not your carpet ride, I am the sky.
Do you remember the sunscreen song, by Baz Luhrmann? Where it's like a graduation commencement speech, telling you all the things you should do with your life. I'm one of the people that would fall into the "most interesting 40 year-olds still don't [know what they're doing with their lives]" That's me. I'm still wondering what I'm going to be when I grow up.
Some people view this as drifting, or lack of focus. I prefer to quote Tolkien, "Not all who wander are lost". I'm happy. More so than almost anyone I know. This, despite having more crap heaped on me than most people in the last few years. I am almost always smiling. Always laughing. Always inspiring others to do the same.
I think the best story I can tell along these lines is from about 17 years ago. I had cancer, I am a survivor, but this is less about the fact that I had it, and more about who I am. The day I found out, I did not cry. I did not fret. I did not think I was going to die. I said, "Oh, bummer." Then I went home and proceeded to spend the next two hours with some CD editing software, crafting a 4 minute long George Carlin skit on cancer down to a 30-second outgoing message on my answering machine. When the nurse called to schedule some tests the next day, I came home to about a dozen hangups before the actual message. She had laughed so hard that she ended up having every nurse on the cancer ward call and listen. They asked me to talk to some of the younger kids/teenagers/early 20's types who were being diagnosed, because I had such a great attitude towards it.
That is my attitude towards life.
I will not tip-toe through life, only to arrive safely at death.
I am mellow, inspiring, and intelligent
I'm finding my way. I'm getting lost and enjoying the feeling. I'm sitting in my hot tub at the end of the day, relaxing and looking at the stars. Or, more likely, listening to the rain hit the top of the gazebo.
I'm getting in shape, mentally and physically. It's harder than it looks, but well worth the effort.
I'm challenging myself to be a better person. I'm a good man, a good person, a good human being already. I want to be better. I think that the day you stop learning should be the day you die.
Red: "Get busy living, or get busy dying" I'm doing my best to go with the former.
Cooking. I have a small side-business as a personal chef, and I love to cook big meals for smallish (6-20) groups of people. I don't know why so many women seem to get offended, or feel a challenge when I say that I cook better than almost anyone you know. I've been cooking since I was five. That's over three decades of pushing myself in the kitchen. Don't you think, by now, I SHOULD be better than almost anyone you know?
Poker. I'm one of the better tournament poker players in town. My best year was 2005, when I cleared about $10K, but I've never had a losing year. 2010 was a bad year for the most part, and I was still up $4K for the year. I also teach it, coach it, write a newsletter for the biggest poker club in town, and am very good at the game theory behind it. If you want to learn, I will make you very, very good. (My students have won a half-dozen major tournaments here in town, as well as some player of the year awards).
Listening. Giving solid advice. Dissecting what you perceive to be unsolveable problems, and finding a way out. Inspiring you to be a better person.
Recycling. My big recycle bin is always overflowing every two weeks. I'm fucked when I don't get it out in time.
Bowling. Card games. Board games. Trivial Pursuit (you do NOT want to challenge me on the 80's edition).
Making you feel like you are the most beautiful, sexiest, most amazing woman on the planet. Every day.
Remembering things. I still know my junior high locker combinations, and the license plate numbers on my parents cars growing up. I have scary good memory.
Movies: Lawrence of Arabia, Aliens, Terminator 2, Meet Joe Black, Legends of the Fall, Galaxy Quest, American Beauty, American History X, any of the X-Men movies, Hoosiers, most Disney movies, Food Inc. really inspired me this year, The World's Fastest Indian, Alive Day Memories, The Gods Must Be Crazy, Natural Born Killers, Reservoir Dogs (and anything Tarantino), When We Were Kings, I could go on and on, how long do you want to be here?
Music: Eric Clapton, Rush, The Rolling Stones, John Lee Hooker, Joe Satriani, Jami Sieber, Paramore, Everlife, John Coltrane, Buddy Guy, Pink Floyd, Pearl Jam, Tori Amos, Andres Segovia, Indigo Girls, Fleetwood Mac/Stevie Nicks/Lindsay Buckingham, Amber Pacific, Veruca Salt, Nusrat Fateh Ali Khan, Obo Addy, I could go on longer here than I did in the movies if you'd like. I have about 1600 CDs, not counting what I've also downloaded or copied from friends. There's not much country in there, but everything else is pretty strongly represented.
Food: Damn near all of it. Good cheese. Dark chocolate. Thai food. Aren't we blessed to have so much good Thai food in this town? Mexican food. Conversely, aren't we screwed with the lack of Mexican? Sweet Life. Mmmm.
We would like someone to share the journey with. Or share part of the journey with. Or share some quality time here and there with.
If you just want to get to know an interesting guy for a friend or whatever, by all means, email me.