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My self-summary
So, first of all I am in a relationship with tyedyesara, but we are looking for another woman to become friends with, and hopefully lead to a long-term triad. We aren't just looking to play. We seriously wish to find someone that is a friend, lover, confidante and true partner in every sense of the word. We are NOT unicorn hunters. We are not looking for "US + You" we are looking for "US^3". There is a HUGE difference, and we understand it, and appreciate it. You will too.

Now, about me...

I am not your rolling wheels, I am the highway. I am not your carpet ride, I am the sky.

Do you remember the sunscreen song, by Baz Luhrmann? Where it's like a graduation commencement speech, telling you all the things you should do with your life. I'm one of the people that would fall into the "most interesting 40 year-olds still don't [know what they're doing with their lives]" That's me. I'm still wondering what I'm going to be when I grow up.

Some people view this as drifting, or lack of focus. I prefer to quote Tolkien, "Not all who wander are lost". I'm happy. More so than almost anyone I know. This, despite having more crap heaped on me than most people in the last few years. I am almost always smiling. Always laughing. Always inspiring others to do the same.

I think the best story I can tell along these lines is from about 17 years ago. I had cancer, I am a survivor, but this is less about the fact that I had it, and more about who I am. The day I found out, I did not cry. I did not fret. I did not think I was going to die. I said, "Oh, bummer." Then I went home and proceeded to spend the next two hours with some CD editing software, crafting a 4 minute long George Carlin skit on cancer down to a 30-second outgoing message on my answering machine. When the nurse called to schedule some tests the next day, I came home to about a dozen hangups before the actual message. She had laughed so hard that she ended up having every nurse on the cancer ward call and listen. They asked me to talk to some of the younger kids/teenagers/early 20's types who were being diagnosed, because I had such a great attitude towards it.

That is my attitude towards life.

I will not tip-toe through life, only to arrive safely at death.

I am mellow, inspiring, and intelligent
What I’m doing with my life
Smiling. Enjoying all that it has to offer. Or at least, all that it has to offer that my wallet will allow me to enjoy. Sometimes that's more, sometimes that's less. When it is less, I expand my mind, either through reading, or learning, or just puttering around on the internet, learning about YOU.

I'm finding my way. I'm getting lost and enjoying the feeling. I'm sitting in my hot tub at the end of the day, relaxing and looking at the stars. Or, more likely, listening to the rain hit the top of the gazebo.

I'm getting in shape, mentally and physically. It's harder than it looks, but well worth the effort.

I'm challenging myself to be a better person. I'm a good man, a good person, a good human being already. I want to be better. I think that the day you stop learning should be the day you die.

Red: "Get busy living, or get busy dying" I'm doing my best to go with the former.
I’m really good at
Anything I set my mind to.

Cooking. I have a small side-business as a personal chef, and I love to cook big meals for smallish (6-20) groups of people. I don't know why so many women seem to get offended, or feel a challenge when I say that I cook better than almost anyone you know. I've been cooking since I was five. That's over three decades of pushing myself in the kitchen. Don't you think, by now, I SHOULD be better than almost anyone you know?

Poker. I'm one of the better tournament poker players in town. My best year was 2005, when I cleared about $10K, but I've never had a losing year. 2010 was a bad year for the most part, and I was still up $4K for the year. I also teach it, coach it, write a newsletter for the biggest poker club in town, and am very good at the game theory behind it. If you want to learn, I will make you very, very good. (My students have won a half-dozen major tournaments here in town, as well as some player of the year awards).

Listening. Giving solid advice. Dissecting what you perceive to be unsolveable problems, and finding a way out. Inspiring you to be a better person.



Recycling. My big recycle bin is always overflowing every two weeks. I'm fucked when I don't get it out in time.

Bowling. Card games. Board games. Trivial Pursuit (you do NOT want to challenge me on the 80's edition).

Making you feel like you are the most beautiful, sexiest, most amazing woman on the planet. Every day.

Remembering things. I still know my junior high locker combinations, and the license plate numbers on my parents cars growing up. I have scary good memory.
The first things people usually notice about me
My smile. And then my eyes as I get closer.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Imajica by Clive Barker. Stranger in a Strange Land by Robert Heinlein. Agyar by Steven Brust. The Harlequin by Laurell K. Hamilton. The Vanished Man by Jefferey Deaver. Pirate Hunter: The True Story of Captain Kidd by Richard Zacks. Over the Edge of the World by Laurence Bergreen.

Movies: Lawrence of Arabia, Aliens, Terminator 2, Meet Joe Black, Legends of the Fall, Galaxy Quest, American Beauty, American History X, any of the X-Men movies, Hoosiers, most Disney movies, Food Inc. really inspired me this year, The World's Fastest Indian, Alive Day Memories, The Gods Must Be Crazy, Natural Born Killers, Reservoir Dogs (and anything Tarantino), When We Were Kings, I could go on and on, how long do you want to be here?

Music: Eric Clapton, Rush, The Rolling Stones, John Lee Hooker, Joe Satriani, Jami Sieber, Paramore, Everlife, John Coltrane, Buddy Guy, Pink Floyd, Pearl Jam, Tori Amos, Andres Segovia, Indigo Girls, Fleetwood Mac/Stevie Nicks/Lindsay Buckingham, Amber Pacific, Veruca Salt, Nusrat Fateh Ali Khan, Obo Addy, I could go on longer here than I did in the movies if you'd like. I have about 1600 CDs, not counting what I've also downloaded or copied from friends. There's not much country in there, but everything else is pretty strongly represented.

Food: Damn near all of it. Good cheese. Dark chocolate. Thai food. Aren't we blessed to have so much good Thai food in this town? Mexican food. Conversely, aren't we screwed with the lack of Mexican? Sweet Life. Mmmm.
Six things I could never do without
Music, cheese, dark chocolate, poker, sunglasses, Diet Sunkist.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How to get myself in trouble. How to then get myself back out of trouble. Poker, a lot. What new creations I should try in the kitchen this week. How to make myself a better person. How to bring happiness to the people in my life that aren't all that happy with theirs. Taking a nap. What I need at the store. Sex. Why is my cat so freaking hyper, and what can I do to calm him down? What do I want to be when I grow up? How to inspire others. How to wring every last drop out of life. When can I get back to Vegas (and for those of you who think it's about gambling, you haven't been to Vegas in a while. I'm a gambler, and haven't gambled on my last couple of trips)? What kind of cookies I'm going to make for my weekly poker tournament.
On a typical Friday night I am
Doing any of a gazillion different things. I don't have a typical Friday night.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Somehow I'm thinking that if I have something that I am going to consider private (and trust me, there's not a lot that falls under that heading, since I'm about as open of a book as you can find), I'm not going to suddenly blurt it out on a profile that is available to anyone in the world.
You should message me if
You, too, believe that tact is for people who aren't witty enough to be sarcastic.

We would like someone to share the journey with. Or share part of the journey with. Or share some quality time here and there with.


If you just want to get to know an interesting guy for a friend or whatever, by all means, email me.
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