66Castro Valley, United States
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My self-summary
I am sensitive, sensual, smart, compassionate and curious. Like my partner, I am a work in progress who is still progressing. I'm interested in good chemistry, real friendship and potential long term partnership. Energy energizes me; creativity inspires me; calmness calms me; resilience amazes me. I love to see good people "win" and bad people loose. I adore my friends and family and like to be surprised. I wish I was more patient in dealing with life's many details. I hate bullies and cruelty and meanness; I think animals have souls and that there is reality beyond what we can see and touch. I respect science and art; life cannot sustain itself without both.

I value time and fear that I will run out of it. I like my work, my play and am grateful for the good life that I continue to have and for every morning that greets me. I would like to meet that special man who seeks emotional intimacy and acceptance, who lives his life with humor, enthusiasm, intelligence and empathy, who is able to discern what’s valuable from what’s expensive.
What I’m doing with my life
The easy answer is that I work as a project management and QA consultant and trainer in the IT environment, mostly for various State agencies and most recently within the State prison system. I learn what I need to know to do what I need to do; I don’t regard myself as particularly technical. My major talent is listening to people, and figuring out what needs to be done to make them (and their projects) successful. I am a problem solver, a communicator, and a writer, in my professional life and in my personal life. I love music, the arts, movies, travel, good food and great romance. I take great joy in nourishing friendships, in watching my animals play, in reading good books, in exploring nature and witnessing beauty and brilliance. I exercise to keep healthy and agile; I dance but only for fun now; I like sports but don’t participate in a lot of them; I want to learn more, do more, feel more, touch more…………
I’m really good at
I’m really good at touching people. I’m a good friend and communicator. I am creative by nature but don’t create enough anymore. I am a writer, a manager, a mentor and a listener. I’m an OK cook but eat out often. My virtual kids would say I’m a great mom and role model; my daughter may/may not agree. My parents would say I was a good daughter (at least part of the time). I am good at learning and like it lots. I’m a good traveler, life manager and business person. I commune with animals, small children, different and/or smart people. My friends and colleagues tell me I have a natural wit (even though I can’t tell a joke). I have a great ear but can’t carry a tune (I sing mostly in cars when truly alone). These things are better discovered than described………..
The first things people usually notice about me
At first meeting, people usually say I’m striking (or thin, or fat, or young or old). They may notice my hair, my eyes, my fashion sense, my height (or not). People almost always notice that I’m smart (some think that’s hot; some do not). Most people recognize my warmth (sometimes I keep that hidden).
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Recent reads include the 4 Twilight books (why not) , the Glass Castle, Beautiful Boy, Water for Elephants, Kabul Beauty School, Dreams from my Father, Infidel, magazines (National Geographic, trade journals, other). Favorite movies (there are many) include The Lion in Winter, Tombstone, Silverado, Godfather 1 & 2, and a host of foreign films whose titles I would mispell. There's too many music favorites to single them out ( I like every kind of music, including some rap). I confess that I am a foodie; love restaurants, creative and loving chefs (amateur or pro), and a wide range of cuisines.
Six things I could never do without
Other than the obvious (food, water, shelter), I could live without most anything. The toughest would be friends, family and animals (although my best skin creams, music, and enough money to live a comfortable life shouldn’t be underestimated). Health is the deal breaker, though. Without that, all things pale.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
.....the welfare of loved ones, the fate of the planet and the economy, all the things for which I'm grateful, the thrill of victory and the agony of defeat, trajedies and miracles, the importance of love and good health, and once in a while and as rarely as possible, the fear of aging and death........
On a typical Friday night I am
I don't know what a typical Friday night is but I do know what I would like to add. Weekends, including Fridays, usually include friends, movies, music, food, etc. (somewhere). There is more..........
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
The most private thing I'm willing to admit is that the most incredible (and scariest) feeling in the world is to really love someone................
You should message me if
You should message me if anything that I've said resonates with you.
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