friendpolarbear
34Perth, United Kingdom
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My self-summary
Ah, the self-summary. Aldous Huxley said, "To see ourselves as others see us is a most salutary gift. Hardly less important is the capacity to see others as they see themselves. Each one of us is a brain, an athlete, a basket case, a princess, and a criminal. Does that answer your question?"

I am a slightly odd bunny, but very loyal to my friends. I can be quiet, which is partly shyness, but also partly because I am a Listener. Sometimes you need someone to just let you speak. That's me.

I am a dog person but my flat is too small to have a dog. I could get a house cat: I don't mind cats, but I don't think getting a cat as a substitute dog is really going anywhere.

I'm not really into sport, though I have been known to watch a few ice hockey games. On purpose.

I don't believe in expecting any particular outcome here. The weight of expectation can really get in the way. Better to just see what happens.
What I’m doing with my life
Trying to start a career making video games, and hitting the usual hurdle of having great ideas, but trying to find the ideas that aren't stupidly overambitious.

I think what I like about making games is how it ties together a lot of my different interests. There's the technical stuff (my degree is in Computing Science), the storytelling stuff (the PhD I dropped out of was in Interactive Narrative), writing music (before I went to university to become all computery, I was pursuing a career in music, albeit unsuccessfully because I was too shy to promote myself), making art (this is somewhere my technical skills are lacking a bit, but I'm working on that), reading (it's amazing how telling myself "it's for research" is a great motivator to read books on all sorts of topics). So, to be honest, what I'm doing with my life is really trying to keep my chaotic dilettantism organised.
I’m really good at
Putting off answering questions about what I'm good at with a promise to come back to it. Eventually.
The first things people usually notice about me
That I am a nerve-stapled Feminist Gaming Illuminati mandrone white-knighting mangina. With good hair.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I do not really understand your human concept of "favourites" but I'll try not to list everything I've ever heard of.

My favourite book is Complicity by Iain Banks. Banks is pretty much always a good read, but Complicity is my favourite because what it has to say about the relationship between reader and text - that engagement with art or media is more than just passive consumption - is a topic close to my heart.

I'm harder pressed to pick a favourite movie. Comparing movies to me feels a lot like apples and oranges. Do I pick something inspiring or comforting? Something with depth or something fun? They all have their place. Let's say the new Ghostbusters, though. It was my favourite of 2016 probably, even if not of all time.

My favourite show is definitely Community. I don't know why.

Ryuichi Sakamoto is my favourite musical artist, though that feels like a bit of a cop-out answer because he has such a broad and diverse range of styles over the course of his career that I can normally find something of his that suits my mood.

The best food is Chinese or Italian, probably. Maybe. Do I have to answer this one? Basically anything without mushrooms.
Six things I could never do without
An internet connection. This used to be because I was really interested in it as a phenomenon, but now I think that in a few years, this answer will be as obvious as 'air' or 'water' that 'people' put in this list when they're 'trying' to be 'funny'.

Videogames are very important to me. If you think they're a waste of time, you're a waste of time and so's your mum.

A city. I love going out to the country but I can only really take it in small doses before the isolation gets to me.

Some kind of project to give me a sense of achievement, whether it's learning a new language, writing some music, or creating a game.

Other people. Social stuff can sometimes be difficult and anxious for me, but I have never been happier than I have in others' company.

Walking. I'm not an exercise fanatic by any means, but I've recently been just getting out for a couple of hours at least a couple of times a week and I'm really feeling the benefit of it.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Whatever project I'm working on. The eleventy bajillion projects I'm not working on yet that theoretically I should think about later. Words. Jokes that are too tasteless to tell and hating my brain for making that the funniest thing I come up with. Political correctness (or, as I like to call it, correctness - "It's correctness gone mad!" etc). What to say next.

How one can "look at all the lonely people" as the Beatles demand. There's too many of them. Can I just look at some of them? Would that be OK?

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On a typical Friday night I am
Playing imagination games.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I secretly have a crush on you - yes, you - but I'm too shy to admit it. You should totally break all this tension and send me a message.

It's a bit awkward to talk about, but I am a bit autistic. Not mentioning that might feel a bit deceptive, even though nobody (myself included) knew I was until I was 33. I guess anyone I'm going to date needs to understand that some things normal people can do are difficult for me or might take me longer, but I managed 33 years without support, and now I have the support I need, so I'm emphatically not looking for someone to look after me, if that's what you're worried about.
You should message me if
You can guess how many gumballs I contain. You might just win me! Limited time offer.
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